Journeys After Adoption: Understanding Lifelong Issues

Journeys After Adoption: Understanding Lifelong Issues

by Jayne E. Schooler, Betsie L. Norris

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What can we learn about the experience of adoption from those who have taken that journey? How can those touched by adoption navigate successfully through the issues of search, reunion, and aftermath? Will those answers have a positive impact on adoption today? Drawing upon the experiences of dozens of triad members—adopted persons, birth parents, and adoptive parents—the authors offer insight into the concerns, issues, joys, and pain experienced by those who lives are framed by adoption.

The book explores such questions as:

•How do I make the decision to search for my parents?

•How do I prepare emotionally?

•What are my adoptive parents feeling and thinking?

•What if I am rejected, encounter death, or reach a dead end?

•How do I develop a relationship with siblings I've never known?

The authors deal sensitively with these and many other issues. Attention is also given to the needs and concerns of adoptive parents as their children grow into adults. Practical advice helps prepare triad members to deal emotionally and psychologically with the process of search and reunion.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780897898164
Publisher: ABC-CLIO, Incorporated
Publication date: 07/30/2002
Edition description: New Edition
Pages: 312
Product dimensions: 6.14(w) x 9.21(h) x 0.66(d)

About the Author

JAYNE E. SCHOOLER is an affiliate trainer with the Institute for Human Services in Columbus, Ohio, where she played a major role in the development of adoption training curriculum for professionals and families used nationwide. Jayne has over twenty years of experience in child welfare, first as a foster parent, then as an adoptive parent, adoption professional, and educator. She is the author of The Whole Life Adoption Book (1993), Searching for a Past (1995), and co-author of the award-winning Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child (Bergin & Garvey, 2000).

BETSIE L. NORRIS is an adoptee who searched for and reunited with her birthparents in 1986. An RN working in child psychiatry at the time, Betsie felt her reunion was the most profound experience of her life and developed a commitment that others should not have to face these issues without support. She founded Adoption Network Cleveland in 1988. She is a frequent spokesperson in the media, has assisted in over 1,400 reunions, and has worked extensively on changing Ohio's adoption laws.

Table of Contents


A Look at Issues and Their Impact

Secrecy in Adoption and the High Cost It Required

Lifelong Psychological Presence: Can Family Members Really Be Invisible?

Focus on the Adopted Person

Growing Up in Closed Adoption

A Walk into the Wilderness: Learning of Your Adoption As an Adult

Focus on the Birthparent

Birthmothers and Birthfathers—The Lifelong Journey Begins: Discovery, Disclosure, Decisions

Birthmothers and Birthfathers—The Journey Continues: The Lifelong Impact of Relinquishment in Closed Adoption

Focus on Understanding Adoptive Parents in Search and Reunion

Communicating the Decision to Search to Your Adoptive Parents

The Process of the Search

Making the Decision: To Search or Not to Search

Preparing Emotionally for and Initiating the Search

Patchwork Siblings: Adoptees in Postreunion Relationships

Synchronicity in Reunion

Dealing with Special Issues within the Search

When the Pieces Don't Fit: Finding Dead Ends Dead Ends

Revisiting an Old Wound: Encountering Denial or Rejection

Facing a History of Abuse or Neglect

Searching in Midlife: What Are the Implications?

Postreunion Relationships: Now What? New Beginnings

Changing Times Policy, Etc.

Appendix 1:Growing Up in Open Adoption: An Essay of Life Experience by Sara VanderHaagen

Appendix 2: Growing Up in Transracial Adoption: An Essay of Life Experience by Ai Loan Nguyen

Appendix 3: Search and Reunion Etiquette: The Guide Miss Manners Never Wrote by Monica Byrne

Appendix 4: Making Contact After the Search by Curry Wolfe

Appendix 5: Resources and Recommended Readings

Selected Bibliography

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