Leading Mind: Critical Understandings in the Mastering of Life

Leading Mind: Critical Understandings in the Mastering of Life

by Peter Hey


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With his blend of engineering and the fields of personal transformation, Peter Hey takes us on a deep, yet accessible journey into the inner recesses of our minds.

He presents a unique model of the mind and the mechanisms that define our behavior. Based on his own personal experiences as the son of a Holocaust survivor, his sessions with his own clients and his background in computer design, he brings the concept of programs in our unconscious as the basic mechanism that determines our actions. Millions of programs operating below our everyday awareness, each of them associated with emotions that, in fact, are the actual power behind our decisions in daily life.

Leading Mind explains how these programs are created from all our experiences, starting already at conception, through our time in the mother's womb, all the way to full adulthood. It also shows how, when accessing our deep unconscious, we discover aspects in us that transcend our current physical life. Based on thousands and thousands of sessions done by practitioners around the world, with remarkably consistent results across cultures, education, social status and personal beliefs.

Leading Mind shows how the current events that are impacting our civilization nowadays are the result of our emotional ignorance. It brings to light an urgent call to reform our educational curriculum to teach how our mind works and tools for personal transformation and conflict resolution.

Understanding our minds brings tolerance and compassion for all. It gives us the knowledge to change our limiting behaviors. The start of real personal power to direct our lives in the direction that is our authentic individual expression.

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ISBN-13: 9781982220242
Publisher: Balboa Press
Publication date: 02/14/2019
Pages: 428
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.95(d)

About the Author

Peter Hey was born in Colombia, South America. His Hungarian father was a Holocaust survivor, and his German mother grew up in Nazi Germany. Hey earned a master's degree in electrical engineering from Stanford University. After participating in two successful startup companies in the Silicon Valley, he changed his professional career to honor his quest to better understand life. He is a certified hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner, and EFT facilitator. He lives with his wife in Santa Fe, New Mexico.

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Part 1

The Mechanisms of the Personality

Our Inner Universe

Case 1: Phobia to Lizards

A woman in her twenties tells me about the panic she feels about lizards. Just looking at a photograph of one causes her to jump back in terror. I explain to her that contrary to what one would expect, usually these phobias are easy to clear because they originate from a single event. She agrees to do a couple of sessions with me to see where they take us.

I use with her the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) as a mind-transformation process, also known more informally as tapping. She quickly goes back to the event that originated the phobia.

She is two years old and blissfully sitting in a high chair in her home. Her older brother, as the typical boy his age, decides to do a little prank on her. He throws a live lizard at her. Just imagine the scene. Here is this little, happy girl when, all of a sudden, this "monster" comes flying at her. It's total panic! Of course, maybe her brother was scolded by their parents, and maybe she was consoled after that scare. Nevertheless, it is from that event that she cannot get anywhere close to anything that resembles a lizard — all the way to her adult life.

As we continue to do the tapping, her anxiety comes down. It is easy to measure her anxiety level because just by showing her a picture on my computer, she is able to tell me how she feels.

After she is able to stay calm at seeing just a picture, we now go through videos of lizards. Her anxiety shoots up, and so we go through more rounds of tapping. In the end, she stays calm. A couple of days later, she e-mails me a picture of her next to a lizard in a pet store.

I am quite sure you have heard of phobias, and you may even know someone who suffers from that condition. They are not uncommon; we accept them as part of the human experience. What is really amazing is how we seem to have two minds, each working completely on its own. Think about it. It was obvious to this woman that the lizard in the picture was not a threat, yet she couldn't help but to jump back in terror.

What you need to understand is that she was truly in terror. She felt the fear as if she had a lion in her face ready to attack. How can we behave so irrationally? What is going on inside her head? And from this come some questions to consider seriously: How objective are we? How can we really trust the way we interpret reality?

Case 2: Childhood Guilt

My new client is a successful professional woman with a great sense of humor. She makes herself comfortable in the reclining chair in my office. She explains that she is coming to me because she has already had previous surgeries (because of other physical conditions), and now the doctor is saying that she may need another one to alleviate her trigeminal neuralgia pain. This pain is caused by a nerve that runs along the side of the face. She is desperate, not only for the excruciating pain in her face but also for the prospect of yet another surgery. For the moment, she is medicated with the hope that the pills will be able to contain and eventually reduce the pain. The doctor's prognosis is that the treatment will take at least several years.

She participated in my seminars in which I talk about the emotion-illness connection, and she tells me that she wants to give it a shot. She has nothing to lose at this point. She will try whatever she can do to try to avoid yet another surgery.

After I make sure she understands that she is to follow the doctor's orders and treatment while we work together, we start doing sessions. Among others, guilt is one of the major emotional factors related to neuralgia. As we revisit her past experiences, it becomes obvious how much guilt she has accumulated along her life.

The main event occurs when she was around seven. One of her older brothers came into the room where she and her younger sister (then age five) were sleeping. He molested her sister. As all this happened, she lay in her bed paralyzed and confused, trying to understand a situation she did not know anything about. But she could clearly feel that it was not right.

In the mind of this seven-year-old girl, she became responsible for this event (and the subsequent ones that took place) because she was not able to stop that from occurring. She did not protect her younger sister as she should have. This is just one major guilt, among others, that she has been carrying along all of her life. What makes this even worse is that she has kept it as a secret. She does not dare to share this with anyone. She says, "It was my fault. What are the others going to think about me?" As we work through each of the events, transforming guilt into understanding, her pain starts to subside. And after three months of sessions, the pain disappears. She no longer needs to take medication.

As I mentioned above, in my seminars I explain the connection between emotions and illnesses. This is becoming more and more obvious not only in the fields of mind transformation but also to many medical doctors. So why does the mind do that? Does it want to hurt us or punish us? Obviously not. There is a tight mind-body interrelationship that explains why things such as illnesses happen to us. The specifics go beyond the scope of this book.

I am illustrating this case as another example of all the different facets that we have in our minds as human beings.

Case 3: Regressing to a Past Life

I have been working with this client already for several months, so I know her life story very well. In this particular session, she tells me how, when she first wakes up in the morning, she feels this deep dread and anxiety. As she tells me that, something tells me to use hypnosis directly. (As any professional of the mind will tell you, with experience, intuition becomes an essential tool in your practice.) I am already familiar with how her mind works and connects with her inner world, and so I know that she will regress without any problems. I guide her into a deep relaxation.

Once I see that she is in that deeper state, I direct her to go back to the event that originated this sensation of dread, after I count to three. I do the count, and with a snap of my fingers, I ask her to tell me what she sees. She says,

It's in the 1800s, it's dark at night, I am in a forest next to my village, and I am a boy. The village has been attacked by men with helmets. They have killed all adults, including my parents. I am hiding behind the trees with other kids. Nevertheless, we are caught. They round us up and start excavating. Once the holes are deep enough, they put each of us in wooden boxes and bury us alive. I can see myself in the box. I know I will asphyxiate. I can only wait, with dread and panic, until I see myself floating away from my body.

I want to emphasize that I did not tell my client to go to a past life. In fact, I had no way of knowing that her morning dread is because of an event that occurred in a different lifetime. I do not do past-life regressions just for the sake of curiosity. As I am illustrating with this case, I work with my client on a given issue, and if the process takes us to a past life, then so be it. Even more, in her case, she had never had a past-life regression before and was not sure what to think about that topic.

What happened in that session took her completely by surprise. She was not remotely expecting this outcome. Ultimately, from my point of view as her guide, my goal is to provide healing through understanding. That is what we accomplished in the sessions, with her mind giving us the information that we needed to do that.

Is this proof of reincarnation? Not really. It might be a construct of our minds to help us live in spite of traumatic events that we went through. For now, I want to convey to you that this type of phenomenon occurs spontaneously, if the practitioner allows it. All the resistance to this topic that I see in people is so interesting to me. I have had clients tell me as a matter of fact that they did not believe in reincarnation and were completely caught by surprise when we ended in a "past life."

I'll talk more about this later. For now, simply understand that this phenomenon occurs independently of whether the person believes in it or not. It is part of the inner mind.

Case 4: Decisions in Our Lives (Part A)

He is an avid proponent of adoption. When you hear him talk about it, you can feel how solid is his standing in this regard. "Adoption is a best option that can happen for couples or single people who want to have children, as well as babies or children who don't have parents for one reason or another," my friend asserts. He is intelligent, well educated, and living a healthy and well-balanced life. When you hear him expressing his opinions about any particular type of events, you can sense his depth and discernment in the topic. In his first marriage, he and his wife were trying to have children, unsuccessfully. They tried all possible methods available from medical science at that time, still unsuccessfully. In the end, it came down to adoption. As he tells me in his story, even before getting to the point of considering that option, he always had it very clear in him that, with respect to adoption, his answer would always be a no. Understand here that he did want to have children, and otherwise, there were no financial difficulties or any other practical reasons for not choosing it as the solution.

So then, how could such an obvious incongruence between thinking and behavior exist in someone who, from any other point of view, one would right away characterize as a solid person? Of course, he is not alone. We see this every day in our lives, like when people say that they want to lose weight and then proceed to eat that calorie-rich dessert that they know so well is going to add more dreaded pounds. I include my friend's story because I want to make sure you understand that these behaviors happen to the best of us — in fact, to all of us. I will complete his story and finish the explanations of this case after I have explained the mechanisms behind these behaviors. It will be yet another clear example of how our minds work. For now, I simply want you to ponder at the ways in which we behave. Everybody wants peace and harmony in life. If we are so in agreement in this respect, how come our actions don't reflect these basic inner wishes? What is going on inside of us? With respect to my friend's story, let me close here by saying that his marriage ended in divorce, and even though this aspect may not have been the main reason, it certainly was a significant factor in the end result of their relationship.

Case 5: NDEs

Michael Sabom, in his book Recollections of Death, talks about the phenomena of near-death experiences, or NDEs. As a cardiologist, he recounts in his book about how, before he did this type of research, when someone mentioned to him the work of Raymond Moody (the pioneer in this field), he simply said, "I don't believe it." Circumstances in life (which he describes in his book) led him to finally decide to conduct a scientific study (he "easily" found in his hospital people who had had this type of experiences). It was scientific as much as it is possible, given the simple fact that science has not advanced enough to deal with this type of phenomenon. As of now, science has no grasp on what it is what we call consciousness. As much as neurologists talk about how the brain works, it is a complete mystery how consciousness can spring from neurons firing impulses. It does not make sense. In the book, as is typical of other books in this field, Dr. Sabom gives numerous cases as examples. In one of them, he describes the experience of a forty-four-year-old man who had suffered a massive heart attack.

His resuscitation required multiple electric shocks to the chest. From his vantage point detached from his physical body, he was able to observe carefully and then later to recall, among other things, the movement of the needles on the face of the machine (defibrillator) that delivered the electric shock to his chest. He had never seen a defibrillator in use before.

It was almost like I was detached, standing off to the side and watching it all going on, not being a participant at all but being an uninterested observer ... The first thing they did was to put an injection into the IV, the rubber gasket they have there for pushes ... Then they lifted me up and moved me onto the plywood. That's when Dr. A began to do the pounding on the chest ... They had oxygen on me before, one of those little nose tubes, and they took that off and put on a face mask which covers your mouth and nose. It was a type of pressure thing ... sort of a soft plastic mask, light green color ... I remember them pulling over the cart, the defibrillator, the thing with the paddles on it ... It had a meter on the face ... It was square and had two needles on there, one fixed and one which moved ... [The needle] seemed to come up rather slowly, really. It didn't just pop up like an ammeter or a voltmeter or something registering ... The first time it went between 1/3 and 1/2 scale. And then they did it again, and this time it went up over 1/2 scale, and the third time it was about 3/4 ... The fixed needle moved each time they punched the thing and somebody was messing with it. And I think they moved the fixed needle and it stayed still while the other one moved up ...

[The defibrillator] had a bunch of dials on it. It was on wheels with a little railing around the thing, and they had stuff on it. And they had the two paddle affairs with wires attached ... like a round disk with handles on them ... They held one in each hand and they put it across my chest ... I think it was like a handle with little buttons on it ... I could see myself jolt.

In the book, Sabom goes over the different possible explanations to these events. He talks about effects of drugs, endorphin release, depersonalization, and more. And one after another, it becomes very obvious that they are not good enough at explaining what he has observed. NDEs occur in spite of whatever interpretation one may want to give them. It is a universal phenomenon, irrespective of race, social class, or education. Simply because science has no satisfactory way of explaining them is no reason to deny their occurrence. As I talked about this in the previous case, and as I will explain more in this book, in the fields of the mind, there are other experiences that are congruent with NDEs. Under deep states of trance, an experienced practitioner can regress an individual to the point where the person will be able to recall what happened before she or he inserted into the present body — independently of whether the person believes in this type of stuff, and independently of the cultural background. People talk about the time in between "physical insertions." People also talk about past lives with as many details as a patient who, while experiencing an NDE, can see what the doctors are doing to his or her body, while trying to revive it. As much as science cannot explain this yet, these phenomena suggest that consciousness is separate from the brain and the body. I cannot go into the details of NDEs here. I strongly encourage that you, as a necessary component about understanding the human mind, read this type of material. It is an indispensable piece in the understanding of the human puzzle.

There are also the behaviors that we hear or maybe even see and experience in our daily lives, like parents abusing their children. The love that parents can feel and express toward their children is probably the closest example of unconditional love in humans. How can then something like that happen? It's such an aberration in human behavior. On the other hand, all the extraordinary acts of heroism, altruism, and more that we are capable of doing. Then again, the horrors of the wars that we impose on each other. And then the extraordinary beauty that we can create through art and music. How come human beings display such extremes in behavior? Most of all, how is it possible that we do so much harm to each other? Why is it so difficult for us to remain in a continuous harmonious state of living? We are so much more than what we perceive with our physical senses. Our behavior points very clearly to the fact that we are complex creatures, and if we want to create a better life for all of us, it is indispensable that we begin to understand ourselves better.


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Table of Contents

Dedication, v,
Acknowledgments, xix,
Introduction, xxi,
Part 1: The Mechanisms of the Personality, 1,
Part 2: The Components of the Personality, 127,
Part 3: Mind Transformations, 309,
Part 4: Final Thoughts, 335,
Glossary of Terms, 361,
Appendix A: Main Summary Figures, 365,
Index, 369,

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