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Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family

Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family


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Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family

Relinquishing family attachments that failed to meet childhood needs is the most difficult task individuals can undertake as they grow into adulthood. Leaving Home not only emphasizes the life-saving benefits of separating from toxic parents but also offers a viable program for personal emancipation. David P. Celani centers his program on Object Relations Theory, a branch of psychoanalysis developed by Scottish analyst Ronald Fairbairn. The human personality, Fairbairn argued, is not the result of inherited (and thus immutable) instincts. Rather, the developing child builds internal relational templates rooted in conscious and unconscious memories he internalized in childhood, and these guide his future interactions with others. While an attachment to neglectful or even abusive parents is not uncommon, there is a way out. Eloquent, relatable, and filled with rich examples taken from more than two decades of clinical practice, Leaving Home outlines the practical steps necessary to become a healthy adult.

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ISBN-13: 9780231134774
Publisher: Columbia University Press
Publication date: 09/06/2011
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 176
Sales rank: 343,484
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.40(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

David P. Celani is a licensed psychologist who practiced for more than twenty-five years in Burlington, Vermont. In treatment, he focused on his patients' "attachment to bad objects," which manifested through their inability to separate from parents, friends, or marital partners who demeaned, criticized, or abused them. Celani now presents workshops throughout the United States on Object Relations theory. His books with Columbia University Press include Fairbairn's Object Relations Theory in the Clinical Setting and The Illusion of Love: Why the Battered Woman Returns to Her Abuser.

Table of Contents

The Building Blocks of Our Personality
How Our Defenses Play "Hide and Seek" with Reality
Staying Home
Preparing for Change
Leaving Home

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