Letting Go of Good: Dispel the Myth of Goodness to Find Your Genuine Self

Letting Go of Good: Dispel the Myth of Goodness to Find Your Genuine Self

by Andrea Mathews


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780738752235
Publisher: Llewellyn Worldwide, LTD.
Publication date: 08/08/2017
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 872,164
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Andrea Mathews has nearly thirty years of experience in the mental health and human services field providing and supervising others in the provision of therapy. She’s also a professional trainer and motivational speaker, frequently providing workshop and individual coaching in authentic leadership, conflict resolution, authentic relationships, and more. Andrea is the host of the radio show Authentic Living with Andrea Mathews . She lives in Birmingham, Alabama, and can be found online at www.andreamathews.com.

Table of Contents


Foreword by Thomas Moore xvii
Introduction 1

Part 1: Why We Need to Let Go of "Good" and Learn to Be Genuine Instead
1. Becoming Genuine 13
2. Understanding Projection, Introjection, and the Good-Guy Identity 27
3. Reinforcements: Empathy and Bargaining 45
4. The Importance of Self 55

Part 2: Becoming Aware of the Falsehoods That Hold Us Back
5. Give Them the Benefit of the Doubt 71
6. I'm Just a Giver 77
7. Life's Purpose Is Helping Others 81
8. You Are Selfish If … 85
9. Do Not Judge 89
10. To Love Is to Trust 93
11. Guilt Is a Good Thing 99
12. Innocence Is Sacred 103
13. You Are Responsible for How I Feel 107
14. The Lie of Loyalty 113
15. Do Your Duty 119
16. I Should Love Them Unconditionally 125
17. I Should Forgive Them 133
18. I Should Always Smile 141
19. Be the Bigger Person 145
20. When the Good Guy Misuses Others 149

Part 3: Healing: Making Friends with Difficult Emotions
21. Understanding the Inner World: Your Internal Messaging System 159
22. My Friend, Resentment 167
23. My Friend, Anger 173
24. My Friend, Fear 181
25. My Friend, Sorrow 189

Part 4: Healing: Making Friends with Your Personal Powers
26. My Friend, Intuition 197
27. My Friend, Discernment 203
28. My Friend, Desire 209

Part 5: What to Expect from the Overall Healing Process
29. The Differentiation/Integration Process 221
30. Practice That Becomes Process 227
31. Arriving at Peace 247

Bibliography 253

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