Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids and Teens

Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids and Teens

by Jill Adelson Ph.D., Hope Wilson Ph.D.


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Proven strategies for helping kids and teens break free of the bonds of perfectionism.

Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids and Teens pinpoints a crippling state of mentality among many kids and teens today - the need to be absolutely perfect - and gives parents and teachers the guidance and support they need to help children break free of the anxieties and behaviors related to perfectionism.

For children who believe their best is never good enough, perfectionism can lead to excessive guilt, lack of motivation, low self-esteem, depression, pessimism, obsessive and compulsive behavior, and a sense of rigidity. By delineating the major types of perfectionists and providing practical tips, the authors show parents and teachers how they can help these children effectively control their perfectionist tendencies and use those to their advantage.

This engaging, practical book is a must-have for parents, teachers, and counselors wanting to help children overcome perfectionism, raise self-confidence, lessen guilt, increase motivation, and offer a future free of rigidity.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781593633622
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Publication date: 05/15/2009
Pages: 200
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Jill L. Adelson taught fourth grade in Newport News, Virginia. Hope E. Wilson worked as an elementary art instructor in Texas. They each will receive doctoral degrees from the University of Connecticut in May 2009. Jill and Hope together conducted a long-term research study of perfectionism in children.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

1 Perfectionism and Children 1

2 Debunking Myths About Perfectionism 7

3 The Academic Achiever: "Must Achieve 100%" 27

4 The Aggravated Accuracy Assessor: "Exactness and Fixation on 'Redos'" 45

5 The Risk Evader: "All or Nothing" 65

6 The Controlling Image Manager: "I Could Have if I Wanted to" 77

7 The Procrastinating Perfectionist: "If It Stays in My Mind, Then I Can't Fail" 89

8 Identifying Healthy and Unhealthy Perfectionism 105

9 Strategies for the Classroom 113

10 Strategies for the Home 143

11 Resources for Children 159

12 Resources for Adults 169

Glossary 181

References 193

About the Authors 203

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