Liking the Child You Love: Build a Better Relationship with Your Kids--Even When They're Driving You Crazy

Liking the Child You Love: Build a Better Relationship with Your Kids--Even When They're Driving You Crazy

by Jeffrey Bernstein

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Liking the Child You Love: Build a Better Relationship with Your Kids--Even When They're Driving You Crazy by Jeffrey Bernstein

“I shouldn’t have to tell him that again!”

“She is just so spoiled.”

“They don’t appreciate anything I do for them.”


Do you feel like you’re at the end of your rope? Are you exhausted by your kids arguing over every little thing? Finally there’s a name for your feelings: “Parent Frustration Syndrome” (PFS). No kid is perfect, but parents often don’t realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, contribute to being emotionally overwhelmed and discouraged.
In Liking the Child You Love, Renowned psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein offers proven strategies for taming the 9 most common toxic thought patterns that stop us from parenting effectively:


• The “Always or Never” Trap

• Label Gluing

• Seething Sarcasm

• Smoldering Suspicions

• Detrimental Denial

• Emotional Overheating

• Blame Blasting

• “Should” Slamming

• Dooming Conclusions


As you identify and put a stop to PFS’s negative thought patterns, you’ll be amazed at how your kids’ defiant behavior quickly improves, without having to raise your voice or dole out harsh punishments. Soon you will have a closer, calmer, and more loving relationship with your kids—just by changing your own mindset.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780786748082
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Publication date: 06/09/2009
Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 272
File size: 980 KB

About the Author

Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD, is a licensed psychologist specializing in child and family therapy in the Philadelphia area. He has appeared on the Today show and Court TV, among other programs.

Table of Contents

Author's Note ix

Introduction How Can I Be a Good Parent and Have These Bad Thoughts? xi

Chapter 1 Why Liking Your Child Is Much Harder than Loving Him 1

Chapter 2 Sliding Down the Slippery Slope of Toxic Thinking 25

Chapter 3 Recognizing the Nine Toxic Thought-Patterns of Parenting 49

Chapter 4 Kicking the Parenting-Stress Habit 75

Chapter 5 Becoming a More Mindful Parent 99

Chapter 6 Douse "Slow-Burning" Toxic Thoughts 125

Chapter 7 Extinguish "Flaring" Toxic Thoughts 151

Chapter 8 Dependable Discipline: Lessening the Consequences to Gain Control 165

Chapter 9 Keeping the Positive Energy Flowing 189

Chapter 10 Liking the Child You Love over the Long Run 213

Acknowledgements 221

Appendix I The Nine Toxic-Thought Patterns 223

Appendix II The Toxic-Thought Log 225

Resources 227

Recommended Reading 235

Index 239

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