Lists to Live By for Everything that Really Matters, Second Collection

Lists to Live By for Everything that Really Matters, Second Collection

by Alice Gray, John Van Diest

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ISBN-13: 9781576736852
Publisher: The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
Publication date: 12/07/2000
Series: Lists to Live By Series , #2
Pages: 320
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.39(h) x 0.88(d)

About the Author

Alice Gray
Alice Gray is an inspirational conference speaker and the creator and compiler of the bestselling Stories for the Heart book series, with over 7 million in print. She and her husband, Al, live in Arizona.
Dr. Steve Stephens
Steve Stephens is a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, seminar speaker, and author of twelve books. He lives with his wife, Tami, and three children in Clackamas, Oregon.
John Van Diest
John Van Diest has been a book publisher for more than twenty-five years and has traveled the world as an advocate for Christian literature. He lives with his wife, Pat, in Oregon.

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List Live by 2nd Edition


By Alice Gray

Multnomah Publishers

Copyright © 2000 Alice Gray
All right reserved.

ISBN: 1576736857


Chapter One


SUCCESS


Making the most of your life


SEVEN PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESS


BARRIERS TO GROWTH


YOU AND YOUR BOSS


TEN COMMANDMENTS OF SUCCESS


PRINCIPLES OF CRITICISM


WHAT KEEPS US FROM DREAMING


BUSINESS PRINCIPLES


TOOLS THAT ORGANIZED PEOPLE USE


REMINDERS FOR LEADERS


QUALITIES OF A GREAT MENTOR


WHAT A MENTOR CAN HELP YOU DO


PERSONAL GOAL SETTING


HOW TO FIND YOUR PASSION


INFLUENTIAL PEOPLE


THE SUCCESSFUL PERSON


SEVEN MYTHS ABOUT SUCCESS


HOW TO REMEMBER WHAT YOU READ


SEVEN WAYS TO GAIN INFLUENCE

SEVEN PRINCIPLES OF SUCCESS

1. It's okay to fail.

2. Don't be afraid to start.

3. Dare to dream big.

4. Don't be afraid to try something new.

5. Take things one step at a time.

6. Keep moving forward.

7. The only thing that can stop you is you.


BARRIERS TO GROWTH

1. I'm comfortable.-Staying in the comfort zone and living at the present level of success is easier and less stressful than exerting effort to make needed changes.

2. I'm afraid of failure.-Fear of making a mistake or risking possible failure discourages trying anything new or different.

3. Disapproval hurts.-The desire to avoid disapproval, either by themselves or by others, limits many to behavior that is calculated to please.

4. I don't want to rock the boat.-Anxiety about changing the status quo convinces some that change is negative and not worth the risk.

5. I don't have what it takes.-A poverty mentality, coupled with a false sense of inferiority, causes some people to believe they do not deserve the rewards of using their full potential.

6. Success might not be good for me. An illogical fear of success prevents many from breaking the success barrier. They feel unworthy or they fear they will not know how to handle success, so they subconsciously avoid it.

7. God doesn't want me to succeed.-This unfounded belief of God sends many great dreams into a tailspin. Scripture says, "I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers" (3 John 1:2, NKJV).


YOU AND YOUR BOSS


Respect your boss's authority.


Accept your boss's correction.


Encourage your boss.


Listen to your boss.


Ask your boss if you can do more.


Support your boss whenever possible.


Believe the best of your boss.


Pray for your boss.


TEN COMMANDMENTS OF SUCCES


I. WORK HARD
Hard work is the best investment a person can make.


II. STUDY HARD
Knowledge enables us to work more intelligently and effectively.


III. HAVE INITIATIVE
Ruts often deepen into graves.


IV. LOVE YOUR WORK
Then you will find pleasure in mastering it.


V. BE EXACT
Slipshod methods bring slipshod results


VI. HAVE THE SPIRIT OF CONQUEST
Thus you can successfully handle and overcome difficulties.


VII. CULTIVATE PERSONALITY
Personality is to a person what perfume is to a flower.


VIII. HELP AND SHARE WITH OTHERS
The real test of business greatness lies
in giving opportunity to others.


IX. BE DEMOCRATIC
Unless you feel right toward others, you
can never be a successful leader.


X. IN ALL THINGS, DO YOUR BEST
The person who has done less than their best has done nothing.


PRINCIPLES OF CRITICISM


1.
Never point out the errors without offering a solution.
The time for correction must also become a time to teach.


2.
Criticize the act, never the person.
People have emotions that need to be respected.


3.
Never condemn in public.
Even if the error is minor, don't embarrass someone by
pointing out mistakes in front of colleagues.


4.
Always end with praise.
Some people believe you should start with a compliment and end with correction. I reverse it-preferring to end on a positive note.


WHAT KEEPS US FROM DREAMING


Overwhelmed by the now


Critical people


Fear of failure


Past failures


Laziness


Depression


Distraction


Lack of faith


Lack of resources


Lack of confidence


Don't know how to start


Don't know how to dream

BUSINESS PRINCIPLES

* Take care of small problems before they become big ones.

* Don't allow yourself to become dull on your job.

* Set a positive example.

* Learn to accept constructive criticism.

* Establish a clear vision and goals.

* Maintain a cheerful disposition and a confident, optimistic outlook.

* Speak the truth, even if the situation might be uncomfortable.

* Communicate your expectations clearly and completely.

* Learn from your mistakes.

* Move forward, or be prepared to be pushed back.

* Tackle the challenges you don't want to face first.

* Give genuine praise.

* Show tenacity in the face of adversity.

* Build teamwork and a climate of encouragement.

* Pledge yourself to continuous improvement.

* Focus your attention and energy.

* Establish a reputation for fairness and integrity.

* Learn, adapt, and grow in your job.

* Make and keep firm commitments.

* Set a standard for yourself that goes above and beyond expectations.

* Seek out experienced counsel and listen to it.

* Pray attention to the little things.

* Establish achievable benchmarks for each month, quarter and year.

* Tackle the important priorities immediately.

TOOLS THAT ORGANIZED PEOPLE USE


Allow time in and time out. Consistently effective people turn off the switch, put their feet up, and have deliberate time for relaxation.


Anticipate and prevent problems. Think ahead and prepare for what might go wrong.


Avoid searching by having no temporary parking places. When you acquire something, immediately assign it a regular parking place.


Carry and use a daily action sheet of some kind. Use a Palm Pilot, a three-by-five-inch card in your pocket, a page with yellow sticky notes next to your calendar, or a list on the refrigerator. Have a written daily focus in hand and have a written weekly focus within reach.


Celebrate. Whether it is kneeling and giving thanks, patting yourself on the back, or drawing a red line through an accomplishment listed on your daily action sheet-or all of the above-take the time to celebrate.


Divide big jobs into workable steps. When you divide big jobs into steps you help yourself concentrate. You motivate yourself. You free yourself to accomplish one step at a time.


Do central and essential priorities now. The secret is not just to do them first; it is to do them now.


Do it daily. Daily faithful steps in the right direction beat occasional flashes of productivity.


Enjoy giving. There is more happiness in giving than in receiving. The people who have the most energy for accomplishments and lifestyle are the ones who invest time volunteering.


Finish fully. Complete as much as you can. Take a task to completion and get joy from crossing the finish line.


Group related activities. If you have ever made a trip to a grocery store for one missing ingredient, you know the importance of grouping related items. If you are writing a letter, write a couple more. It is almost as easy to write three as one.


Help others get what they want. This helps you have more energy and joy


Plan frequently. Planning prevents problems. Planning shows you where you can contribute to your objectives. Planning pays off for you and others.


Put a cushion in your calendar. Allow some emergency time before a deadline.


Set and meet deadlines. Deadlines energize and stimulate. They help you enjoy getting things done that would otherwise slide.


Track your time. Know how long it takes to do everything.


Use timetables. Timetables increase your productivity at the start of a project. They help you relax because you know when you are on schedule.


Work in cycles. When you finish something, start preparing for the next event.

REMINDERS FOR LEADERS

* Love people, not programs.

* Nurture people by being flexible and dynamic.

* Establish a reputation for being gentle and kind.

* Constantly show your interest in others.

* Choose words people will embrace.

* Take the time to write down your values and beliefs.

* Patience produces lasting results.

* Adopt a personal code of ethics.

* Build on a foundation of truth.

* Offer a vision of hope.

* Love people for who they are.

* Discover the dreams of others.

* Offer people what they love.

* Express and demonstrate your gratitude.

* Treat people with admiration, courtesy, and respect.

* Don't be threatened by people with potential.

* To demonstrate trust, delegate.

* Create a nonintimidating atmosphere.

* Don't avoid unpleasant topics.

* Learn to truly understand others.

* Never betray a confidence.

* Become a passionate communicator.

* Don't be know as a critic.

* Emphasize what you have in common.

* Be quick to acknowledge your errors.


QUALITIES OF A GREAT MENTOR


Aware of their values


Growing in self-awareness


Always learning


Forward-looking


Realistically optimistic


Enthusiastic about change


Action-oriented


Flexible


Courageous enough to be forthright


Genuinely caring


Trustworthy and respected



Continues...


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