My story is different from yours, but the pages of our lives share a common theme. Silent suffering. The longing for a child. Think of my book as your companion of hope, a ray of sunshine, to shine truth, encouragement, and perspective on your situation.
Infertility is a deeply private pain that is often misunderstood by those who have not experienced its seasons of longing and loss. Whether you recently tried to have a child or have struggled for years to conceive, Longing for a Child is a compassionate companion full of hope, healing, and practical help. Offering biblical perspectives and moving stories of others who have struggled with infertility, sixty heartfelt devotions connect you securely to God during this time of waiting, heartbreak, and questioning.
Each devotion contains a Scripture, short thematic story, prayer, reflective questions, and a space for journaling. Meditations for special occasions, such as Mother's Day, are also included. An encouraging devotional companion that can be used by individuals, couples, or groups, Longing for a Child speaks directly to the heart, meeting you wherever you are on your journey through infertility.
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About the Author
Kathe Wunnenberg is a speaker and writer known for her ability to connect with people and offer them hope. The author of two books, Grieving the Loss of a Loved One and Grieving the Child I Never Knew, she speaks on such topics as loss, leadership, faith in the workplace, mentoring/networking, transitions, prayer, and encouragement. She holds a Bachelor's degree in journalism from the University of Missouri and a Master's degree in Business Administration from the University of Phoenix.
She lives in Phoenix, Arizona, with her husband, Rich, and their three children.
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Longing for a ChildDevotions of Hope for Young Journey through Infertility
By Kathe Wunnenberg
ZondervanCopyright © 2005 Kathe Wunnenberg
All right reserved.
Chapter OneSection One
Longing: A strong, persistent desire or craving for something unattainable or distant.
Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.
My soul is in anguish. How long, O Lord, how long? ... I am worn out from groaning, all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears.... The Lord has heard my cry for mercy; the Lord accepts my prayer.
All my longings lie open before you, O Lord; my sighing is not hidden from you.
Journey to the Dunes of Desire
The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
When our veteran "duner" friends Mark and Stephanie invited us to join their family for a weekend at the Imperial Sand Dunes, we accepted. It was the perfect opportunity to try out our new twenty-six-foot trailer with bath and shower amenities (a must for me!)-sporting our two new quads. Clad in my new steel-toed boots, matching chest protector, gloves, and helmet, I mounted my quad and pushed the start button. VRMMMMM ...
The Imperial Dunes extend for more than forty miles in southern California, southwestern Arizona, and into Mexico. Mountain-sized mounds of sand range from two to six miles in width, with crests rising two to three hundred feet above the surrounding landscape. Hollywood cameras have depicted these dunes as the desert for numerous war scenes and science-fiction planets. A popular winter destination for sports enthusiasts, the Dunes buzz with sand rails, buggies, quads, and motorcycles. The seemingly endless sandscape is beautiful, thrilling, eerie, treacherous.
Although I had ridden motorcycles in the Midwest during my youth, my forty-something body was unfamiliar with the quad's finger throttles and paddle tires ... and the sand. Could I maneuver this terrain or would I crash? My stomach churned with excitement and anxiety. My mind swirled with uncertainty as I released the clutch and sputtered behind my friend Stephanie. I felt comfortable driving along the flat, open road of sand. I can do this! I thought. Then I saw the iceberg of sand rising up in front of me. Stephanie maneuvered her quad effortlessly up and over.
Fear gripped me. Should I turn back? I waited. Then I looked up and saw Stephanie at the top of the crest waving me on. I gulped. I opened the throttle, and moments later I was beside her. During the next few hours we traversed over the crests and through the canyons of sand. As I sped behind the pack across the open plain, I sensed something familiar about this journey. It seemed similar to my quest to have a child.
In the camp with other childless sojourners and robed with a new attire of perspectives, attitudes, feelings, and terminology, I had faced the Dunes of My Desire. At times the ride was exhilarating. At other times, exasperating. Nearing each crest, I wondered what lay waiting for me on the other side. I experienced a repeating cycle of fear and dread followed by accomplishment and hope. Fueled by my desire, I was able to keep going, no matter how endless and treacherous the terrain seemed. Though at times I wanted to turn back, I continued. Looking up I could always find someone at the top of the crest who had climbed the mountain I was facing, waving me on.
Where are you in your journey? Perhaps this is your first encounter, and you are camped at the foot of the Dunes, ready to gear up and go. Or perhaps you've been riding through the sands of uncertainty for a long time, lost with no end in sight. Maybe you are facing a three hundred-foot mountain today and don't know if you have what it takes to make it up the slope. Maybe you are plummeting down into a canyon.
Wherever you are, just know that you are not alone, though at times you may feel as if you are. God is there-and others are too. Look up! Just when you think you can't make it, you may see someone standing at the top of the mountain cheering you on. That's where I am now. Picture me waving you on and shouting, "You can do it!" Ready. Set. VRMMMMMM ...
Lord, I feel as if I'm facing an endless journey. I'm afraid. I've never done this before, and I don't like feeling uncomfortable and uncertain. Help me in my journey. Guide my ride. Give me courage. Thank you for providing others to cheer me on. Fuel me with your Word and wisdom as I face the Dunes of Desire to have a child. Amen.
1. Reflect on where you are in your journey. At the campsite? Ready to ride? Riding up? At the base of one dune with another to face? At the top of a crest? Over the final crest?
2. Reread Deuteronomy 31:8. How does this verse encourage you? 3. Read Matthew 14:26-27 as if Jesus were speaking to you personally.
4. Picture Jesus at the top of a dune waving you on. What steps will you take this week to have courage and continue in your ride?
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Table of Contents
Contents Acknowledgements 13
How to Use This Book 15
1. Journey to the Dunes of Desire 23
2. Wannabe Moms 26
3. Stolen Identity? 29
4. The Empty Portrait 33
5. The Father Longs for You 37
6. Who's to Blame? 43
7. A Second Opinion? 47
8. What if My Spouse and I Disagree? 50
9. 'Mommy, Will I Ever Have a Brother or Sister?' 53
10. What Do You Think God Wants You to Do? 57
11. The Aisle of Uncertainty 63
12. Waiting Room: Inconvenience or Opportunity? 66
13. Prepping for Motherhood 70
14. The Mom with the Grandmother Face 73
15. Waiting to Cross Over 76
16. Whining in the Wilderness 81
17. Mandatory Romantic Encounters 84
18. Journey to the Forest Fire 88
19. Rose of Forgiveness 91
20. Does the Shoe Fit? 95
21. Marathon Mother 101
22. Maybe Today 105
23. Hope and Joy 108
24. Hope at the Bottom of the Cycle 111
25. Hope at 30,000 Feet 114
26. When Hope Turns to Dread 119
27. Your Shiloh 122
28. Infertility Balderdash 125
29. A Tale of Two Sisters 128
30. Men Are from Hardware Stores, 131
Women Are from Coffee Shops Section 7
31. No Trespassing 137
32. Better Than Masking Tape 140
33. Guardian Angels 143
34. Guarding Your Body 146
35. Your Rear Guard 150
36. Journey to the Wall 155
37. Is God Punishing Me? 159
38. A Doctor You Can Trust 163
39. What's in the Brown Bag? 167
40. Wintertime Trust 170
41. Let's Get Real 175
42. The Mountain of Surrender 178
43. Attitude Change 181
44. Who's Calling? 184
45. Seasons of Surrender 187
46. Obstruction or Opportunity? 193
47. New Vision 197
48. The Adoption Option? 201
49. Tame Your Temper 204
50. Outward Bound 207
51. Accepting Strength from the Word 213
52. When Your Happily Ever After Never Comes 216
53. Infertility Etiquette 220
54. Child-Free Living 224
55. Accept the Blessing 227
56. Embrace Today 233
57. Embrace Romance 236
58. Embrace Humor 239
59. Bear Hug 242
60. Empty Womb! Empty Tomb! 245
Special Meditations for Special Days When You Face Mother's Day 250
When You Face Father's Day 251
When You Face Grandparents Day 252
When You Face Holidays/Family Gatherings 253
When You Face Baby Shower/Baby Dedications 254
When You Are Ovulating 255
When You Start Your Period 256
When Your Pregnancy Test Is Negative 257
When Your Pregnancy Test Is Positive 258
When You Miscarry, Have a Tubal Pregnancy 259
or Lose Your Infant When You Face a Medical Procedure 261
When Your Adoption Fails 262
When You Feel Alone or Misunderstood 263
When You and Your Spouse Disagree 264
When You Face Financial Problems 265
When Your Doctor Disappoints You 266
When Your Child Questions You 267
about Having Another Child When You Face a Moral Dilemma 268
When Someone You Know Becomes Pregnant 270
or Has a Baby Section 14
Share Your Story 271
Suggested Resources 275
Final Thoughts 279