Lost And Found Lovers

Lost And Found Lovers

by Nancy Kalish


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Ever wonder what might happen if you rediscovered that "special someone" who captured your heart years ago? The 1,001 people who participated in Dr. Nancy Kalish's landmark study of lost love reunions did exactly that. Here for the first time are the full, fascinating results of her research, along with the intensely romantic stories of the couples, printed in the lovers' own words. Dr. Kalish's renowned lost love research has garnered international media attention. She shows why rekindled romance has captured our imaginations and reveals factors to consider when thinking about a reunion. Many of her findings will surprise you!

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780595348558
Publisher: iUniverse, Incorporated
Publication date: 04/20/2005
Pages: 244
Sales rank: 587,999
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.55(d)

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"I've asked myself countless times why I placed the phone call to my Lost Lover. It wasn't done with the conscious thought that renewing our old love relationship would be the outcome. Maybe it was the idea that I was turning the 'Big Five-oh' that made me want to rekindle old friendships. Back then, we were friends long before we were lovers."We talked that day on the phone for two hours. After that, I found myself thinking about my Lost Lover constantly. One night I got out of bed and wrote down all the events I could remember. Most were humorous, and I found myself laughing out loud as I listed them. I began to think that she would also enjoy reminiscing, so I sent her my list. The response was another listwith additional events I had forgotten!

"Now, ten months later, we have seen each other about eight times. Our relationship is very intense. It is as if our love was put on 'pause' over thirty years ago and then mysteriously once again put back into the 'play' mode.

"One of the feelings we have is a physical aching for each other. We long to talk, kiss, and hold each other, skin to skin. We have sent mushy cards and tape-recorded messages to listen to when we cannot be together. Even if our relationship never results in marriage, our experience over these past months has been a most satisfying one and an experience that can never be taken away from us.

"So many things seem to be happening in our relationship for some spiritual purpose. For instance, I had been out of town on a business trip and had not read a local paper for two weeksuntil the day I picked up the paper which had the article about your Lost Love Project. It all seems to be fate."

This story froma middle-aged man in the northeast is one of more than a thousand Lost and Found Love stories returned with the multiple-choice questionnaires. Checking boxes was easy but not satisfying to these lovers. They needed to tell their stories. I could understand that. One of the things that my Lost and Found Lover and I did quite naturally during our reunion was to talk about our initial relationship and our renewed love to anyone who would listen. Our reconnection seemed so rare, so magical, and indeed many people reacted to our story as if it were the perfect fairy tale.

Excerpted from Lost and Found Lovers. Copyright ) 1997 by Nancy Kalish, Ph.D.

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Guest More than 1 year ago
I found my lost love after nearly 20 years after reading this book and finding out more about the research. I last saw him when we were 16 and 18 and every once in a while he came to mind. He was a friend before any romantic feelings began in high school. In fact, I can't begin to tell you how many times I cried to him because of the pressure I was under. He was always so kind to me and wanted to make me feel better. No other guy since has given me that feeling of being safe and accepted. To be honest, I never felt I had to perform or earned his approval. I thought I was crazy because I had moved to the other side of the country and lost touch with him. As I read this book I realized that before I died I had to know what happened to him. Plus I learned that I wasn't being silly and my reactions were more common. Needless to say the minute I found myself in our hometown I got in touch and he called me back in less than a minute. I felt like the 18 years on the East Coast never happened and he felt like a teenager when we talked. He said it looked like I hadn't aged that much, far less than the nearly 20 years that had passed since we last met. For years I felt so incomplete because I didn't have a clue what became of him. It was great closure to know he was fine and enjoying life. I also found out that he kept things I gave him as kids. He said he thought of me once in a while over the years. Very healing news. In fact, the last time I told him I thought of him was when a story from our hometown made the major papers out East. An incident had coverage in the news that it made me remember my childhood home and of course him. He told me that the incident had happened near his house. Eerie. While we are both unmarried without children we are in different places. But irrational as it sounds .... being with him again has made me question whether I want to ever go back East 'despite my life and friends there' and far away from him. I truly believe that Dr. Kalish is right and my first love was seared into my brain. I will love him my whole life no matter what happens. Right now, he is in a relationship that must be respected so from the day we saw one another again we have not been alone together. The more I struggle with my feelings the more I find comfort in this book. I'm not alone and not all reunions are happy endings. But to be honest, in my heart of hearts, I wish we could have one because for me ... no one else ever took his place. There were other men over the years but seeing lost love again makes me realize that he was the one I loved the most in my life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. We got it as a gift for our wedding. We are Lost and Found Lovers who met again after 16 years. We never forgot each other. This book is amazing because the stories are just like ours - like we wrote them. And reading Kalish's research put it in perspective. Now everything maakes sense. If you are thinking about reuniting with a lost love, read this first! It says it all.