Love Busters: Protect Your Marriage by Replacing Love-Busting Patterns with Love-Building Habits

by Willard F. Harley Jr.

Overview

Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Surviving an Affair; Draw Close; and He Wins, She Wins. Harley's classic bestseller, His Needs, Her Needs, is also available with a video curriculum for churches and small groups. His popular website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780800727710
Publisher:	Baker Publishing Group
Publication date:	10/04/2016
Edition description:	Revised and Updated Edition
Pages:	224
Product dimensions:	6.10(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Surviving an Affair; Draw Close; and He Wins, She Wins. Harley's much-loved book, His Needs, Her Needs, is also available with a video curriculum for churches and small groups. His popular website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem.

Table of Contents

Preface 7

1 The Secret to Lasting Love 9

2 The Love Bank 13

3 How Love Busters Can Wreck a Marriage 23

4 Selfish Demands: Part 1 33

5 Selfish Demands: Part 2 47

6 Disrespectful Judgments: Part 1 61

7 Disrespectful Judgments: Part 2 73

8 Angry Outbursts: Part 1 85

9 Angry Outbursts: Part 2 95

10 Dishonesty: Part 1 115

11 Dishonesty: Part 2 129

12 Independent Behavior: Part 1 143

13 Independent Behavior: Part 2 151

14 Annoying Habits: Part 1 165

15 Annoying Habits: Part 2 173

Bonus Chapter: Building Romantic Love with Care 185

Bonus Chapter: Building Romantic Love with Time 195

Appendix A Basic Concepts to Help You Fall in Love and Stay in Love 201

Appendix B Love Busters Questionnaire 211

Editorial Reviews

11/15/2016
Proposing the concept of a "Love Bank" into which a person either deposits or withdraws emotional support in a relationship, Harley (He Wins, She Wins; Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love) delivers guidance for reviving a floundering marriage. He explains that withdrawals from the metaphorical bank are made with selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, annoying habits, and dishonesty, while deposits include actions that make the other person happy. Ergo, the goal is to perform more deposits than withdrawals. Harley outlines the many ways in which spouses can enjoy a more pleasing and romantic relationship. Verdict As with most self-help books, the onus is on oneself to change, and this is no exception. Harley suggests practical yet soul-searching approaches to doing this.

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