Love Sick: One Woman's Journey Through Sexual Addiction

Love Sick: One Woman's Journey Through Sexual Addiction

by Sue William Silverman
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Love Sick: One Woman's Journey Through Sexual Addiction by Sue William Silverman

A deeply personal story of a woman's addiction to and recovery from the high of dangerous encounters. In this powerful, often lyrical memoir, a woman learns to value herself—as a whole person rather than as a sexual object. Recounting her past experiences as part of her journey toward recovery, Sue William Silverman explores her skewed belief that sex is love, a belief that began with her father's sexual abuse from early childhood into adolescence. She tells of college years in Boston, an early marriage in Galveston, and a roller-coaster life of sex and self-destructive behavior. Finally, having become addicted to danger itself, she hits bottom emotionally and spiritually. At this point, with the help of a trusted therapist, Silverman begins to discover the difference between the high of dangerous encounters and the more reliable promise of love. This utterly candid account may be the first book by a woman to examine sexual addiction. But the misguided search that became Silverman's life has resonance for other addictions, whether to food, drugs, alcohol, or work—anyone whose only satisfaction is now.

Author Biography: Sue William Silverman is a professional speaker on the topics of child abuse and addiction. Her first book, Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You, won the AWP award in Creative Nonfiction. She lives in Grand Haven, Michigan.

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ISBN-13: 9780393019575
Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
Publication date: 06/28/2001
Edition description: First Edition
Pages: 303
Product dimensions: 5.78(w) x 8.59(h) x 1.12(d)

About the Author

Sue William Silverman won an Association of Writers and Writing Programs award for Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You. A speaker on child abuse and addiction, she teaches at Vermont College of Fine Arts.

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Love Sick: One Woman's Journey Through Sexual Addiction 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 7 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Sue William Silverman wrote no holds barred look into herself, and she did so very well. I learned greatly from her experiences, and I was touched deeply by her unmet needs for someone just to value her. This is a powerful memoir that surely took great courage to write.
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I really liked his book!
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Guest More than 1 year ago
There are few books that I would rate outstanding, but this is one I have. The book has an easy flow to it. I couldn't put it down. It entertains you by following her story, but at the same time you learn a lot about addiction. I definitely would recommend this book to anyone with an addiction of any kind or someone who wants to understand what an addict goes through.
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Review of Love Sick: One Woman¿s Journey Through Sexual Addiction by Sue William Silverman (Norton, 2001) Memoir. ISBN: 0-393- 01957-8 What is sexual addiction? How does one recover from this addiction? Sue William Silverman answers these questions in her heartbreaking and heartwarming autobiography. Even if a reader does not experience an addiction of any kind, no time is wasted while reading the book because the prose is so expertly crafted. In her first book Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You, (University of Georgia Press, 1996) Sue William Silverman writes about the childhood sexual abuse she experienced. She had an incestuous father and a complicit mother. The tragedy of incest leaves any child feeling that she is unlovable, and the confusion that sex equals love. The incest was woven with the elements of secrecy, danger, and destruction. In Love Sick, Sue shows the reader how those elements became a blueprint for her relationships. As with any addiction, sexual addiction is a narrow one-dimensional drive serving only to feed itself. Sue was starved for real love as a child, so she uses unhealthy behaviors to search for love she literally does not know better because she was not shown unconditional care. In college, she is caught in an affair with an emotionally unavailable married man, who has a son her own age. She also meets (for sex) a random obscene phone caller who is a stranger. Incest leaves the victim with instinct askew, so Sue literally believes that this strange caller was meant to meet her to show her how loveable she really is. Sue later marries Andrew, and confesses: ¿I first had sex with Andrew while married to someone else.¿ Andrew is unable to comprehend Sue¿s turmoil except in terms of how it affects her role as his wife. He says, ¿I¿m tired of shouldering all the responsibility. She could at least try to get a job teaching¿¿ Sue¿s primary responsibility becomes recovery from childhood abuse and its ramifications. After trial and error therapy with ten counselors, Sue meets a therapist named Ted. He learns that Sue cannot will herself to stop seeing yet another married man, even while she is married to Andrew. Ted says, ¿Love doesn¿t result in sitting alone in motel rooms. Addiction results in sitting alone in motel rooms.¿ Ted encourages Sue to enter a facility with a program for sex addicts. Sue learns that she is as much a predator (searching for love via sex) as she is a victim. She writes, ¿I am not your victim because you are not a predator any more than a bottle of scotch stalks an alcoholic.¿ That sentence offers enlightening information regarding the vicious cycle of addictions. Sue offers the reader reasons to have compassion for those struggling with sexual addiction by giving us glimpses into the psyches of others in the facility. During the recovery program, Sue searches her soul for genuine feelings that are not in context with a man. As an author and advocate, I read this book twice: once to become informed about sexual addiction (or any addiction) in reference to victims of abuse, and again for the creative writing that Sue William Silverman is so keenly able to craft.