Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want

Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want

by Thomas W. McKnight, Robert H. Phillips


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Maybe that special someone is not as far out of reach as you think. Maybe what you need are a few effective strategies to finally make the right moves. Even if you’re very shy, a little on the quiet side, or simply not the social success you’d like to be, Love Tactics is here to help.

This book presents dozens of techniques designed to help you win the love of that special someone. With each tactic, you’ll find yourself becoming more enthusiastic, confident, and eager to approach the person of your dreams in an effort to win his or her love. Then, for those who have already found a romantic partner but have lost or are in danger of losing that person, the authors present tactics for winning back a lost love. The dream is in sight—and Love Tactics is all you need to make that dream a reality.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780757000379
Publisher: Square One Publishers
Publication date: 01/28/2002
Pages: 176
Sales rank: 195,440
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Thomas W. McKnight is a human relations expert whose columns have appeared in leading singles newspapers and magazines. He has conducted relationship workshops throughout the country, and has appeared on numerous radio and television shows, including Oprah.

Robert H. Phillips is a psychologist and the director of the Center for Coping in New York. He is also the best-selling author of eight books.

Table of Contents



PART ONE  Winning the One You Want

1. General Strategy

2. Acting with Self-Assurance

Be Nice to Yourself

Identify Your Goals


Talk with Confidence

Know What You Want in a Prospective Mate

Plan Out Where to Meet Others

3. Taking the Offensive

Be First to Show Interest in the Other

Go for One Date at a Time

Avoid Being Defensive

4. Making Time an Ally

Take Your Time (Go Slowly)

Be Attentive on a Regular Basis

Be Persistent

5. Pacifying Their Fears and Gaining Their Trust

Show You Care But Don’t Say It!

6. Being Irresistibly Likable

Light Up!

Show Those Pearly Whites (Smile)!

Speak with Enthusiasm!

Talk Positively

Discuss the Other Person’s Interests

Use Flattery

Understay Your Welcome

Be Graceful in the Face of Rejection

7. Exhibiting Self-Mastery and Leadership Ability

Plan Out Dates

Demonstrate Independent Thinking

Communicate Your Personal Destiny

Be Unpredictable

Act Indifferently to What They Think of You

Don’t Fish for Feedback

Show Anger When Appropriate

Show Forgiveness After Expressing Anger

8. Cultivating Their Emotional Dependence

Actually Be There (In Person!)

Listen Reflectively

Avoid Being Critical

Express Genuine Admiration and Praise

Supply Sympathy

9. Shaking Their Confidence 97

Use Silence

Drop ’em Cold!

Create Competition

Break a Date!

10. Keeping Them Interested and Hoping

Pop Back Into Their Life

Send Mementos

Awaken Physical Attraction

11. Confronting Diplomatically

Confront Resistant Behavior

12. Demonstrating Commitment 1

Hang in There!

Say “I Love You ”

13. Removing Final Barriers

Strategically Withdraw

Enjoy Being with the One You Want!

PART TWO  Winning Back the One You’ve Lost

14. Learning How to Win Back a Lost Love

Decide if It’s Worth It

Know When to “Cut Your Losses ”

15. Showing a Willingness to Change

Assess Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Be Willing to Change and Grow

Create Some Excitement

16. Fixing Communication Skills

Start a Healing Conversation

Keep Interactions Warm

Understand Don’t Just Agree; Listen Don’t Just Hear

Keep on Stroking

Insist Don’t Plead

17. Using Attention Wisely

Demonstrate the Advantage of You

Give Freely of Your Love

Share Quality Time

Share Burdens and Responsibilities

18. Being a Successful Competitor

Face Your Rival

Withhold What They Want

Be Persistent and Consistent

Suggest Conditions for Reconciliation

Give the Other Person a Vacation from You

Consider a Professional Third-Party Viewpoint

Evaluate Who is Winning the Game

Don’t Settle for a Relationship That Requires Force

Proceed with Faith

Final Words

About the Authors



The reason is very clear why Love Tactics has become a perennial bestseller over the last two decades. Why? The answer is painfully obvious to anyone who has ever felt the agonizing frustration of not having their love reciprocated.

Isn’t it ironic that in spite of the many technological advances made within the last century, people today are still as frustrated as ever in their quest for true love? Our society is full of individuals who have disappointedly abandoned their idealistic dreams of romantic fulfillment. It almost seems a law of nature that the one you want never wants you back, while the ones who are interested in you are simply incapable of stirring your emotions! Love forever looms on the horizon, but is just out of reach.

Many have given up, deciding that nothing can be done to alter an apparently loveless destiny. They have resigned themselves to going through life, taunted by the prospects of love, but never truly possessing it. You may have experienced such feelings of helplessness yourself. If so, then this book is the answer to your prayers.

Love Tactics demonstrates why there is a very real reason not to give up hope. Love is not the mere result of chance meetings determined by pure luck. Believe it or not, love is a predictable human response! It results whenever a person’s key psychological needs are satisfied. It’s true that, on occasion, love does seem to occur accidentally. But even in these cases, such relationships still conform to the principles of romantic behavior outlined in this book. Anyone who chooses to consciously apply these rules of love in an intelligent manner need not go through life unloved. Succeeding in ro­mance, then, only requires becoming aware of your ability to modify and influence the emotional moods, attitudes, and behaviors of others through well-proven psychological techniques. We’re not talking about taking unfair advantages—just using strategic common sense!

As you can probably imagine, it would be impossible to include all the different strategies, techniques, and tips that can possibly be used in winning the one you want. So Love Tactics provides the basic formula from which you will be able to derive your own solution to your particular circumstances. As you read the book, you’ll find your­self becoming more enthusiastic, confident, and eager to approach others in your goal to win the person of your dreams.

Divided into two main sections, Love Tactics presents dozens of techniques that are designed to help you in the most exciting search-and-succeed activities of your life. These strategies, which are found in Part One, will help you win the love of that special someone. Part Two goes a step further by helping those who feel they have already found their love, but have lost or are in danger of losing that person. How to win back another person’s love is the theme of this section.

Not all of the strategies found in Love Tactics are suitable for every situation. Different approaches work better than others, depending on the particular need of the moment. Experience will help you see which tactics are best suited for different conditions. None­theless, you’ll also learn that certain fundamental principles of psychology always apply, and are the basis for your selection of tactics.

You must nurture friendship, respect, and passion in order to win the heart of the one you want. This fundamental understanding is the bedrock foundation of the Love Tactics strategy, and the way to ultimately win. Trust that if you cultivate the relationship properly, you will ultimately reap a magnificent harvest!

Of the many lessons you’ll learn in Love Tactics, remember this important truth above all else: The way to true love is not to sit back and wait for the person of your dreams to magically appear. Rather, it involves choosing the one you want above all others, and then winning them over using known principles of human romantic behavior.

Yes, you can win the one you want! You can also win back the one you’ve lost! You don’t have to settle for anything (or anyone) less. The dream is in sight! It’s merely a matter of psychology. Love Tactics will acquaint you with the science of human behavior as it relates to love and romance, and teach you how to win the one you want!

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Victorya on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
This book should get 10 stars. I LOVED this book when I was single and quote it in my own dating book "Finding a Man Worth Keeping". This version of Love Tactics is an updated version of the original from the 80s. Still as good and relevant as it was back then.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is powerfully amazing and gives promise to even the most difficult of love situations. This book will give you the strength you need to win someone that you desire or have lost. It's amazing.
Guest More than 1 year ago
if anyone believes that they control thier own destiny, this is the book for your love life. It will help with all your relationships (friends and family) as well. mostly common sense but powerfully organized