Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband

by Gary Thomas

Overview

The bestselling author of Sacred Marriage offers hope to women who want to strengthen and transform their marriages into the profoundly deep relationships God intended.

Women: you're not alone in your marriage. You never have been, and you never will be. While it may not always feel like it, God wants you to have a relationally healthy, emotionally engaged, and spiritually mature husband.

In Loving Him Well—previously titled Sacred Influence—Gary Thomas builds on concepts from his bestselling book Sacred Marriage to reveal the inner workings of a man's heart and mind. He delves into Scriptures that help women gain biblical insight to influence their husbands. Exploring the research of neuroscientists, trained counselors, and abuse victim advocates, Gary also interviews dozens of wives to find what has worked and what hasn't as they've sought to build the best marriage possible.

With new stories and fresh illustrations to help wives understand, love, and influence their husbands, Loving Him Well offers encouragement, biblically based support, and practical applications for the transformation of your marriage, drawing you and your husband closer together, the way God intended.

Perfect for . . .

• Women in good marriages who want a great marriage
• Women who feel invisible or marginalized in their marriage
• Engaged or newly married women who want to start investing in their marriage from the start

You'll discover the influence you can gain and the peace of mind you can build when you go first to God for your worth, validation, protection, and provision and then learn how to use that platform to help your husband draw closer to you and closer to God.

Loving Him Well includes study questions at the end of each chapter and is also available in Spanish, Amándolo bien.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310341888
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	02/06/2018
Pages:	288
Sales rank:	168,532
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.90(d)
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Gary Thomas's writing and speaking draw people closer to Christ and closer to others. He is the author of twenty books that together have sold more than two million copies and have been translated into more than a dozen languages. These books include Sacred Marriage, Cherish, Married Sex, and the Gold Medallion-award winning Authentic Faith.

Gary holds a bachelor's degree in English Literature from Western Washington University, a master's degree in systematic theology from Regent College (Vancouver, BC), and an honorary doctor of divinity degree from Western Seminary (Portland, OR). He serves as a teaching pastor at Cherry Hills Community Church in Highlands Ranch, Colorado.

Table of Contents

Preface to New Edition 9

Foreword 11

Introduction: God Hears and Sees 13

Part 1 Your Marriage Makeover Begins with You

1 The Glory of God in a Woman 23

Understanding Who You Are in Christ

2 "Be Worthy of Me" 35

How God Uses the Weaknesses of Others to Help Us Grow

3 The Beauty of God's Strength in a Woman 49

Becoming Strong Enough to Address Your Husband's "Functional Fixedness"

Part 2 Creating the Climate for Change

4 Accepting a Man Where He Is 67

Understanding a Man's Deepest Thirst

5 Asking God for Fresh Eyes 81

How You Can Know Love with an Imperfect Man

6 The Helper 103

Embracing the High Call of Marriage

7 Understanding the Male Mind 120

Learning to Make Your Husband's Masculinity Work for You instead of against You

Part 3 Confronting Her Most Common Concerns

8 Ray and Jo: Taming the Temper, Part 1 141

Self-Respect as a First Defense against Your Husband's Anger

9 Taming the Temper, Part 2 163

Protecting Yourself from Your Husband's Anger

10 Rich and Pat: The Magic Question 174

Helping Your Husband Become More Involved at Home

11 Pure Passion 189

Cementing Your Husband's Affections and Protecting His Spiritual Integrity

12 The Problem of Porn 207

Helping Your Husband Overcome a Most Destructive Habit

13 Ken and Diana: Affair on the Internet 230

Winning Back the Husband Who Strays

14 John and Catherine: Finding Faith 244

Influencing a Nonbelieving or Spiritually Immature Husband

Epilogue: Everlasting Beauty 265

Acknowledgments 271

Notes 273

A Note from Gary 279