Loving In The Moment

Loving In The Moment

by Gina Lake


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781461031550
Publisher: CreateSpace Publishing
Publication date: 03/24/2011
Pages: 214
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.49(d)

About the Author

Gina Lake is a spiritual teacher and the author of numerous books about awakening to one's true nature, including From Stress to Stillness, Trusting Life, Embracing the Now, Radical Happiness, Living in the Now, Return to Essence, Loving in the Moment, Anatomy of Desire, and Getting Free. She is also a gifted intuitive with a master's degree in counseling psychology and over twenty years experience supporting people in their spiritual growth. Her website offers information about her books and courses, free e-books, book excerpts, a monthly newsletter, a blog, and audio and video recordings.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments vii

Introduction ix

1 Letting There Be Two 1

Ego and Essence

Love Is Recognizing the Divine Self

From One to Two

The Role of Relationships in Spiritual Evolution

The Personality Is a Costume

The Ego Rejects Differences

Essence Loves Differences

Letting Life Have Its Way

How Ideas and Images Interfere with Relationships

The Self-image Is Manufactured

Programming and Relationships

Essence in Relationships

2 Moving Beyond Judgment 19


Compatibility Between Personalities

Relationships That Support Essences Goals

How Judgments Interfere with Finding a Relationship

Criteria for a Relationship: The Ego's vs. Essence's

How Judgments Interfere with Sustaining Relationships

Judgments That Pretend to Be Helpful

Finding a Meaningful Relationship

Your Judgments Are About You

Love Is More Important Than Conditioning

Noticing Love

Taking Responsibility for Our Judgments

What to Do About Judgments

Honesty Is Not the Best Policy

The Gift of Acceptance

3 Moving Beyond Anger 47

The Relationship Between Anger and Judgment

What Not to Do with Anger

How Not to Feed Anger

How to Work with Anger

What Drives Anger

Desires in the Context of a Relationship

4 Moving Beyond Romantic Illusions 67

The Levels of a Relationship

The Role of the Personality in Relationships

Factors in Compatibility

Friendship Within a Romantic Relationship

Love Is a Choice

The Role of Conditioning in Relationships

The Ghosts That Shape Relationships

Getting Our Needs Met in a Relationship

The Expectation of Sexual Fulfillment

Fantasies and the Expectation of Beauty

The Expectation of Being Cared For

The Biggest Illusion of All

5 Moving Beyond Conditioning 91

What Drives Conditioning

Ignoring and Accommodating Our Partner's Conditioning

How to Avoid Being Triggered by Your Partner's Conditioning

The Power of "I'm Sorry"

The Importance of Forgiveness

And Forget

Using Humor to Break Ego Identification

Expressing Gratitude

"Always" and "Never" Are Never True

Essence's Touches

A Spiritual Practice to Improve Relationships

6 Moving Beyond Differences 109

Differences Don't Have to Be a Problem

Essence's Solution to Differences

Meeting Differences from Essence

Working with Dysfunctional Conditioning

Making Joint Decisions

Noticing Resentments


7 A Spiritual Perspective on Common Problems 131


Inability to Commit

Saving Someone

Savers and Spenders

Different Spiritual or Religious Views

Sexual Differences

8 Experiencing Oneness Through Another 147

Seeing the Divine in Another

Experiencing Essence in Another

Staying in Essence with Your Partner

Essence in Relationship

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biunicorn on LibraryThing 5 months ago
Loving in the MomentMoving from Ego to Essence in Relationshipsby Gina LakeReviewing this 155 page book was a fascinating experience. I learned so much about myself when it comes to interacting with others, but even when it comes to connecting with me. I loved reading the section on conditioning and how to move past it, I found out that many of the feelings that I have used to gauge where I am in a relationship are just setup by my ideas and images. There were also inspiring chapters on working with the big deal breakers like money, infidelity and others.I just am so pleased with the format of this blessed teacher, I found it to be easy to follow and very very thorough. There were even helpful parts broken into inquiry, exercises and summary that helped me really get the gist of each one. I was heavily drawn to the section on anger cause it can be a real poison to relationships. The things I learned were so matter of fact and down to earth, and the suggestions were great. I would recommend this precious guide to anyone who is or ever plans to be in a relationship with themselves or anyone else. Thanks Gina, I so gratefully get it.Love & Light,Riki Frahmann