Loving My Actual Neighbor: 7 Practices to Treasure the People Right in Front of You

Loving My Actual Neighbor: 7 Practices to Treasure the People Right in Front of You

by Alexandra Kuykendall


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As Christians, we know we are called to love our neighbor. We may even grasp that "neighbor" encompasses more than just the people living next door or down the street. But what we too often don't know is how to begin. How do we love our neighbor? Where do we start? What does this look like in our increasingly isolated world?

Following practices outlined in the first chapter of 2 Peter, Alexandra Kuykendall lays out the framework for where to begin. From practicing humility to listening with understanding to being generous in our relationships, Loving My Actual Neighbor offers practical, start-now steps readers can take to love their neighbors. With her approachable, friendly tone and down-to-earth advice, Kuykendall has carved out for herself a place in the hearts of readers, who will be thrilled to extend her commonsense approach into this sphere of their lives.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780801075377
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/02/2019
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 655,027
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

About the Author

Alexandra Kuykendall is the author of Loving My Actual Life, Loving My Actual Christmas, and The Artist's Daughter and the cohost of The Open Door Sisterhood podcast. A popular writer and speaker for moms around the country. Alexandra has been featured on Good Morning America and Focus on the Family's daily broadcast. She lives in Denver, Colorado, with her husband, Derek, and their four daughters.

Table of Contents

Introduction: A Framework for Loving Your Neighbor 11

1 Holding a Posture of Humility 25

2 Asking Questions to Learn 49

3 Being Quiet to Listen 73

4 Standing in the Awkward 97

5 Accepting What Is 117

6 Lightening Up 141

7 Giving Freely 165

Conclusion: This Is Our Place, Our Time 187

More Ways to Connect with Your Neighbors

Additional Ideas for Practicing the Practices 199

Ten Ways to Connect with Families throughout the Year 206

Ten Ways to Love Your Homebound Neighbors 209

Ten Reasons to Have a Block (or Street or Building) Party 212

Acknowledgments 215

Notes 217

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Loving My Actual Neighbor: 7 Practices to Treasure the People Right in Front of You 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
seekinggraceandgratitude 2 days ago
Influenced by the principles outlined in 1 Peter 2, Loving My Actual Neighbor offers the reader practical and encouraging ways to work towards achieving our common goals. This involves:Humbling ourselves before our neighborAsking questions about our neighbor to gain insight into their lifeQuieting our voice in order to observe & listenStepping into awkward situations, conversations, or silenceAccepting the truth and the reality of your relationship with your neighborLightening up (the mood, situation, burden, etc)Freely giving away our time, talent and treasureAs a self-proclaimed extroverted introvert, I found this book both insightful and personally challenging. The author herself claims to be an introvert so learning about some of the ways she loves on her neighbors deeply encourages me to go outside of my comfort zone.This was my first experience reading (or listening to) anything from Alexandra Kuykendall so I can’t really compare this book to her previous publications. Regardless, I absolutely loved her writing style, authentic voice, and vulnerability. She had me nodding along while jotting down notes on how I can be both a better neighbor while loving my actual neighbors.Loving My Actual Neighbor is a book everyone can relate to and learn something from. The theme of this book is so needed right now in this world. If you are looking for change and inspired to put in some work to impact your sphere of influence, I highly recommend adding Loving My Actual Neighbor to your must-read book list.* I received this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.
Samanthap1025 10 days ago
i Really loved this Book, when I first received this book I assumed it was about fellow Christians and learning to treat people better, but it was so much more it teaches you how to be kind and more observant to everyone around you to be more communitive with people around you and these 7 tips really show great tips and it has helped me realized how I need to grow in a better communication with those around me as well as get to know people. I wouldnt typically speak to .. I would highly recommend this book o anyone (This review is based upon a copy of this book which was provided free of charge from Baker Books. These opinions are my own; I was not required to write a positive review, nor was I compensated for this review.)
summer_no9 11 days ago
This book was very unique dynamic writing, inspiring and compelling to read with that also will giving us to an exploring how to love one the another beside family and friend by starting from our neighbor, getting more honest in relationship by using your moments, day, weeks, or years with experience life as God intended with respect for all and the another. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Baker Books Bloggers for this review”.
Visne 3 months ago
As Christians, we know we are called to love our neighbor. Love? Like my friend. We all know that we like and need friends. And that is what Alexandra Kuykendall lays out the framework for where to begin. From practicing practical steps readers can take to love their neighbors like a friend. With her simple, easy to understand steps - humility, learn, listen, standing, accepting, lightening up, giving freely - use common sense in becoming friends. Works in any neighborhood, whether here in the US or wherever you live in the world. This works with work colleagues, organization “friends”, etc.
Lkahoe 4 months ago
"The love of Christ demonstrated though us" Loving My Actual Neighbor is a how-to guide for those who are stuck in the comfort of their own home and in need of an awakening. It outlines seven easy steps to build a community and get the most out of our relationships with those close to us. Alex takes heart to God's instructions of "loving our neighbor as ourselves" with humorous anecdotes and heartwarming stories (my favorite is Frank, read the book to find out why). The part I liked the best about the book were the sections at the end of each chapter that included a call to action, reflection, and practice; not only are there examples but practical applications for the reader to use. Do not wait to get this book! We need a kinder and more loving world and this book is the perfect instruction manual.
Anonymous 4 months ago
Sometimes you read a book that offers you advice to help you do something better and it seems too hard, so you set it aside and move on to the next thing. This is NOT that book! In "Loving My Actual Neighbor", Alex Kuykendall gives practical steps that you can immediately and easily begin to put into practice. With real life examples that will make you laugh and cry (I needed tissues!), this is an extremely helpful guide to being a better neighbor and example of Christ's love to those in your community. Definitely worth your time to pick this one up!
marongm8 4 months ago
There are a lot of members of our community that are in high demand of new Christian books and when I heard about Loving My Actual Neighbor I had to jump at the chance to read it. Alexandra Kuykendall did her research and compiled a well-thought description on what it means to love thy neighbor. The stories expressed throughout the books I believe our patrons can easily relate to because we deal with these situations everyday. Our patrons will be so touched and inspired by this book that it will circulate very well. We will consider adding this title to our Christian Non-Fiction collection at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.
Anonymous 4 months ago
There’s a number of people I would love to have more of a relationship with, but it’s sometimes difficult because of our differences. This book is so encouraging and crammed full of common sense on how to love our neighbors. It’s refreshing to hear that despite our differences we can and should have a relationship with them. If you are looking for a way to impact relationships and make a difference that’s right in front of you, then this book will be the inspiration for you. She challenges and encourages us to practice engaging in life with those we are surrounded by even though it may be awkward or difficult at times. She encourages us to examine ourselves. She gives us ideas on how we can reach out to others in practical ways. She challenges us to actually go out and do it. This is an excellent book on loving others.
Christianfictionandmore 4 months ago
If you are looking for a practical, Scriptural devotional for your private study time, this is it. If you are looking for a practical, Scriptural study for your small group, this is it. (This book is geared more for women, and possibly couples.) The morning that I finished this book, I knew that I would begin rereading it the following morning. There was just too many great ideas to take in on the first read through. Kuykendall's words are both encouraging and convicting. She describes circumstances which I now see as loving my neighbor that I would not have thought of in that way because they occur naturally without great effort or sacrifice. She also describes circumstances that challenge and motivate me to be more intentional. While Kuykendall's life as a young mother in an urban neighborhood is much different from mine as a retired grandmother in a small town, her content relates well in both situations, and is easily generalized to many more. I am grateful to have received a copy of Loving My Actual Neighbor from Baker Books via NetGalley in exchange for my honest opinion. I was under no obligation to provide a positive review and received no monetary compensation.