Make Your Worrier a Warrior: A Guide to Conquering Your Child's Fears

Make Your Worrier a Warrior: A Guide to Conquering Your Child's Fears

by Dan Peters


Use Standard Shipping. For guaranteed delivery by December 24, use Express or Expedited Shipping.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781935067238
Publisher: Anodyne, Inc. DBA Great Potential Press, Inc.
Publication date: 11/30/2013
Pages: 202
Sales rank: 547,124
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Dr. Dan Peters is a licensed psychologist who has devoted his career to the assessment, consultation and treatment of children, adolescents, and families, specializing in learning differences, anxiety, and issues related to giftedness and twice-exceptionality. He is passionate about helping parents and teachers engage children in the classroom, at home, and in life so that they can realize their full potential. Dr. Peters is co-founder and Executive Director of the Summit Center. He blogs regularly for The Huffington Post and Psychology Today and is a frequent media guest. Dr. Peters speaks regularly at state and national conferences and writes on topics related to parenting, learning differences, and education.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction 1

So How Did I Become an Anxiety Expert? 1

Why This Book? 4

About This Book 6

Chapter 1 Who Is the Worry Monster? 9

Some Examples of Worriers 9

What if It Seems Your Child Doesn't Want to Be Helped? 12

Creating Separation 13

Pulling Back the Curtain 14

Things to Remember 17

Things to Do 18

Chapter 2 Anxiety and the Fear Response 19

The Survival Response 20

Things to Remember 27

Things to Do 27

Chapter 3 Types of Anxiety and What They Look Like 29

Generalized Anxiety 30

Panic Attacks 30

Agoraphobia 31

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) 32

Specific Phobia 33

Social Phobia 34

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) 34

Separation Anxiety 35

Perfectionism 36

Eating Disorders 38

Time to Relax and Breathe 39

Activity: What Neighborhood Are We In? 40

What Does Anxiety Look Like? 42

Avoidance 43

Things to Remember 45

Things to Do 46

Neighborhood Activity Answers 46

Chapter 4 Cognitive Model of Anxiety 47

Thoughts Cause Feelings 47

How the Worry Monster Works 48

Here Comes Adrenaline! 50

Taking on the Worry Monster 51

Things to Remember 51

Things to Do 52

Chapter 5 Thinking Errors 53

Catastrophizing 54

All or Nothing Thinking 54

Filtering 54

Selective Attention 55

Magnifying 55

Shoulds 55

Mind Reading 56

Personalizing 56

Overgeneralizing 56

Probability Overestimation 57

Additional Thinking Errors 57

"What if…?" 57

"What will people think…?" 58

The Short List 58

Activity: What Are Your Child's (and Your) Thinking Patterns? 59

Things to Remember 60

Things to Do 60

Thinking Patterns Activity Answers 61

Chapter 6 Cognitive (Thinking) Interventions 63

Four Steps 64

Additional Cognitive Strategies 68

Positive Self-Talk 68

Worry Time 70

Worry Box 71

"And then what?" 71

Planning for Worst-Case Scenarios 72

Things to Remember 73

Things to Do 74

Chapter 7 Mindfulness-Based Interventions 75

Staying in the Present 76

Letting Thoughts Pass 79

Controlling Your Breathing 81

Activity: Belly Breathing 82

Things to Remember 84

Things to Do 84

Chapter 8 Behavioral Interventions: Practice, Practice, Practice! 85

Systematic Desensitization, Success Ladders, and Baby Steps 87

Activity: A Success Ladder for Parents 94

Behavioral Rehearsal 94

Response Inhibition 96

Fake It to Make It 99

Pleasure Predicting 100

Taking a Risk 102

Prescribing Failure 103

More Interventions for Perfectionism 104

Sticking to the Plan 105

Setting Realistic Expectations 106

Planning Alternative Paths 107

Increasing Motivation and Reducing Stress 109

Reinforcement 109

Reducing External Stressors 110

Promoting Resilience 111

Things to Remember 112

Things to Do 113

Chapter 9 Patrick, Savannah, and Drew 115

Patrick 115

What Neighborhood Is Patrick In? 117

Helping Patrick Fight the Worry and OCD Monsters 117

Identifying Patrick's Irrational and Worrisome Thoughts 118

Changing Patrick's Thinking 118

Patrick's Success Ladder and Scare Steps 118

Response Inhibition 119

Strategies for Combating Worry 120

Coping Plan: Toolbox 120

Patrick's Success Ladder After Scaring Away the Worry Monster 121

Patrick's Current Thinking 121

Savannah 122

What Neighborhood Is Savannah In? 123

Helping Savannah Fight the Worry Monster 123

Identifying Savannahs Worrisome Thinking 124

Challenging and Changing Savannah's Thinking 124

Reinforcing the Battle Plan 126

Drew 127

Identifying Drew's Worrisome Thinking 128

Changing Drew's Thinking 128

Setting Up a Behavior Plan 128

Drew's Toolbox 130

Chapter Summary 131

Things to Remember 132

Things to Do 132

Chapter 10 Making a Plan to Tame the Worry Monster 133

Making and Working the Plan 134

Step 1 Teach Your Child about the Brain 134

Step 2 Identify Body Feelings 135

Step 3 Externalize the Problem 135

Step 4 Make a Worry List 136

Step 5 Make a Success Ladder 137

Step 6 Identify Worrisome and Fearful Thinking 137

Step 7 Change and Modify Thinking 138

Step 8 Practice, Practice, Practice! 139

Step 9 Develop a Coping Toolbox 140

Working with Your Child's Teacher and School 141

And Poof, He's Gone! 142

Things to Remember 143

Things to Do 143

Chapter 11 Fine Tuning and Healthy Habits 145

Ideas for Fine Tuning the Plan 146

Start with a Victory 146

Look at Your Reinforcement Plan 146

Try Working on a Different Worry or Fear 147

Try a Different Thinking Strategy 147

Distraction 147

Add More Tools 148

Diet and Exercise 149

Sleep 150

What If the Worry Monster Still Won't Go Away? 151

Things to Remember 153

Things to Do 154

Chapter 12 Special Groups: Gifted, Twice-Exceptional (2e), ADHD, and Other Learning and Processing Challenges 155

Gifted Children 155

Common Characteristics of Gifted Children 156

Overexcitabilities (OEs) 157

Attentional, Learning, and Processing Disorders 158

Twice-Exceptional (2e) Children 160

Special Kids and Special Accommodations 161

Things to Remember 163

Things to Do 164

Chapter 13 Do the Same Strategies Work for Adults? 165

Bringing It Home 168

Suggested Reading and Resources 171

Endnotes 175

References 179

Index 183

About the Author 185

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

See All Customer Reviews