Table of Contents
Acknowledgments 11
Introduction: Who's in Charge? 13
If your kids are in charge, it's time for a new game plan that's a win-win for all.
1 It's a Jungle Out There (and Maybe in Your Family Room Too) 23
Ever feel like Tarzan or Jane, grabbing vine after vine and occasionally falling, as you navigate the wilds of parenting? Here's what you need to know to manage the chaos in your jungle.
2 What Type of Parent Are You? 31
The three types of parenting styles and why balance is so important.
3 Why Kids Do What They Do 61
All social behavior serves a purpose. So what is your child really telling you?
4 All It Takes Is a Healthy Dose of Reality Discipline 77
What the seven principles are and why they're guaranteed to work every time.
5 How Not to Raise a Yo-Yo 101
Why inconsistency is deadly and consistency wins the game every time.
6 Perception or Reality? 117
The top three ways kids learn, and why what your child thinks counts more than what actually happens.
7 The Reward and Punishment Fallacy 139
Why reward and punishment don't work, and what to do instead to put you in the driver's seat.
8 How to Act When They Act Up 163
Taking advantage of your secret ace in the hole-you.
9 Stopping Power Struggles Before They Start 195
Secret strategies that work in everyday moments of conflict to achieve your desired result.
10 Tuff Love 217
How to know when you need to pull the rug out and what to do.
11 Especially for Solo Parents 241
Throw away guilt, give yourself a break, and discover what your children really want from you.
12 Danger: Blended Family Construction Zone 265
How to build a unified new team that respects each other and works together.
13 How to Really Be Your Child's Best Friend 283
Simple hut effective ways to ensure you are your child's most powerful ally long-term.
A Word of Encouragement 309
Top 10 Ways to Make Children Mind without Losing Yours 313
Notes 315
About Dr. Kevin Leman 317
Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 319