There are countless books about menopause on the market. We’ve all accepted that women change at midlife. However, there is another much ignored change that affects hundreds of millions of women across the globe: manopause—the changes that all men go through starting at about age 40.
In this groundbreaking book, Lisa Friedman Bloch and Kathy Kirtland Silverman look at men’s changes from a new and uplifting perspective. Aimed at women, Manopause explores how biological and psychological factors collide with the societal pressures men face, and provides advice on how women can help themselves and their men move through and enjoy this sometimes challenging phase.
Laying out the commonly accepted rules of what it means to “be a man”—rules like “Your worth is only as great as your power, money, and status,” “Push down your emotions,” and “Always be aggressive and strong”—the authors explore how men strive to live up to these expectations, and how shouldering this burden becomes harder at midlife. Both physical changes and emotional realizations play in to men’s fear that they are losing their grip. And yet, as the authors explain, it is these very changes that can open the door to a far richer and more fulfilling life.
With a goal of creating greater understanding and compassion for the subject of manopause, Bloch and Silverman solidly ground readers with information about men’s changes before guiding them through a practical discussion of how to handle the outward effects they experience. They address emotional reactions, behavioral issues, hormone loss, sex and intimacy, and family and work relationships with an eye to how all can be immeasurably improved. By bringing this topic more into the public eye, they hope to help women and men everywhere learn to better alleviate the confusion, misunderstanding, and discontent of manopause.
|Publisher:||Hay House, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||6.12(w) x 8.84(h) x 0.84(d)|
About the Author
Lisa Friedman Bloch and Kathy Kirtland Silverman have shared a long and successful writing career. They bring to Manopause an extensive background as social commentators and a deep knowledge of the male sex honed through decades of observation, research, and personal experience. Their previous nonfiction book, Dr. Richard Marrs’ Fertility Book, has been dubbed, “The bible of infertility for consumers.”
In addition to their nonfiction work, Bloch and Silverman have spent years writing and producing network television, cable, and feature motion pictures.
Table of Contents
Foreword Louann Brizendine xi
Part I Understanding Your Manopause Man
Chapter 1 The Manopause Quiz 3
Chapter 2 What It Means to "Be a Man" 27
Chapter 3 The Manopause Problem 47
Chapter 4 Good Men, Bad Behavior 73
Part II Living with your Manopause Man
Chapter 5 Your Manopause Man's Emotional Awakening 91
Chapter 6 Emotions and Behaviors Go from Bad to Worse 117
Chapter 7 Testosterone and Your Manopause Man 135
Chapter 8 Manopause Sex, His Penis, and Your Relationship 155
Chapter 9 Intimacy with Your Manopause Man 189
Chapter 10 Family Matters at Manopause 209
Chapter 11 Manopause Men at Work 229
Conclusion: Your New and Improved Manopause Man 257
About the Authors 283
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I'm not one for writing reviews. Who has the time? But when a book has the power to change the course of one's life it must be shared. My husband and I have been married for over 22 years. There was no one I was more attracted to or admired more. Sadly about 2 years ago all this began to change. I began to see my husband as weak, as needy and thus much less attractive. Was this how we would grow old together? No, this would not be for me. I began to contemplate a separation. Then a couple of months ago I saw these women on Television talking about their book, "Manopause", I almost turned the channel because I'm not into self help books... but they said a few things that really hit home. I went out and bought the book. Read it that weekend and then preceded to have the first honest conversation my husband and I have had in years. Once I understood what he was going through my anger and frustration turned into empathy and hope. Sometimes we read chapters together. We hug and laugh now more than 20 years ago. There is a tenderness and vulnerability in him that if truth were known, I always longed for in those past years of high testosterone and out of control ego. The other night we went to see an action film, and we both held hands like two teenagers in love. Thank you "Manopause" ladies for helping me meet the new man in my life... I might like him even better. Whether you’re a woman or a man, if you’re over 40, do your relationship a favor, buy this book.
I recently read, "MANOPAUSE – Your Guide to Surviving His Changing Life." It is extremely well-written, practical and will make a great gift. Although the authors do offer their point of view, most of the work is attributed to and supported by the research of medical professionals. For example, Daniel D. Federman, M.D., and Geoffrey A. Walford, M.D., both of Harvard Medical School, explained in Newsweek in 2007: “Levels of a man’s main sex hormone, testosterone, begin to drop as the age of thirty… the testosterone levels drop very slightly (about 1%) each year-for the rest of his life.” As testosterone level lower, hair begins to thin, muscles begin to shrink, energy begins to wane, moods begin to swing..........excerpt pg 50, Manopause One of my friends is experiencing problems with her man after over thirty years of marriage. Many of the issues she has mentioned are discussed in MANOPAUSE. Even if your relationship with your partner seems stable, this book is a great help to prepare you to better understand the emotional and physical stages your man goes through as he ages. I thoroughly enjoyed "Manopause." In fact, I purchased additional copies that I will be sending to friends.
As man in my 50's going changes, this book is a very-informative book. Now I know what to expect and how to handle these changes.
This book was terrific. It gave me the insight as to some of the issues my husband and I were having. It's not only for married couples but for anyone who wants aa happy and healthy relationship. It's much better than marriage counseling and therapy...and costs less too. Thank you, thank you.
Stinks. Sets back women 100 years. Don't buy it! Not worth a penny or even if it is given to you.
Let me first preface this review with the fact that I have yet to actually read this book. However, I have ordered it and plan on reading it right away. I will re-review at that time. I am writting this review early though after hearing both these authors talking about it on a radio 'talk-show'. What they were saying was spot on for what myself and other men go through from their mid-30's through 40's. It's just too bad that I now have a reason for my actions/anger that seemed to have cost me my 16 year marriage recently. But I now have a better understanding of what I was going through and hopefully reading this book will help save future marriages and relationships. The authors explained how males start to produce less testosterone and how it affects us. That plus the fact that since men are not as used to hormonal changes that it is something that we can not seem to identify and have a difficult time realising and explaining how we are feeling different. I guess it's fitting that 2 females have been able to effectively write about this and help identify it as a major issue.