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The Sexual Response Cycle
The Sexual Response Cycle is a model, so it’s not individualized, but knowing how you and your partner generally move from arousal to post orgasm is valuable information. This awareness will help you to train for the marathons, so you better know when to arouse, when to penetrate, and when to cuddle. How long should that cuddling be anyways?
> Heart rate increases and blood pressure rises.
> Body muscles tighten up.
> Penis, labia majora, clitoris, and nipples become enlarged and filled with blood.
> Testicles rise closer to the body.
> Breathing deepens, and there may be moaning, gasping, or grunting.
> Genitals get larger as they fill with blood.
> Vaginal lubrication.
> Pre-cum appears on the head of his penis.
> Muscle tension increases, toes may curl, and spasms show on the feet face and hands.
> As the genitals swell with blood, they may appear darker.
As Orgasm Approaches:
> Heart rate, breathing, and blood pressure reach their peak.
> Thrusting reaches a peak.
> The body flushes, which appears like a rash.
> The body becomes stiff (generally speaking), and for men ejaculation is inevitable.
> Loss of muscle control.
> The penis contracts as he ejaculates.
> The uterus contracts.
> The contractions may spread throughout the genitals, sphincter, and even into the rest of his body.
> Men can orgasm with or without ejaculation.
> Some women ejaculate a fluid.
After Orgasm (Refractory Period):
> All men and women have a refractory period, the time before they can achieve an erection or orgasm again. The time differs depending on the person.
The better you know your partner’s genitals and sexual response cycle, the better a lover you will be.