Marriable: Taking the Desperate Out of Datingby Hayley DiMarco, Michael DiMarco
Many single adults dont realize how their actions and their communication style could be having a negative affect on the opposite sex. Popular thinking about dating identifies certain rules for success for
Newlyweds Hayley and Michael DiMarco share from personal experience and practical observation to help adult singles uncover and eliminate desperate dating habits.
Many single adults dont realize how their actions and their communication style could be having a negative affect on the opposite sex. Popular thinking about dating identifies certain rules for success for todays singles. But the results are in, and popular thinking isnt working. Rather than attract the opposite sex, popularly promoted roles and actions often leave singles looking desperate while sending potential dates the opposite direction. In Marriable, Hayley and Michael DiMarco ask the question, You arent desperate so why are you acting like it? With creative chapter titles like They Just Might Be Out of Your League and How Being Just Friends is a Waste of Time, the authors explore everything from internet dating to commitment-phobia. Writing with wit and humor, Hayley and Michael discuss the differences between men and women, what those differences mean in a dating relationship, and ultimately how to find and be a marriable person. With short, accessible chapters that tell it like it is, Marriable will be appreciated by men and women alike.
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There are many good things about this book, but space is limited, so I¿ll only address a HUGE problem. The chapter `Men Lie to Get What They Want¿ is mostly good it deals with how men often lie to get sex and admiration from women. True enough, but near the end of the chapter the authors sail off a cliff. Women are asked `does it bother you that all of the love and affection he has expressed are just attempts to get sex? It shouldn¿t, he¿s a man!¿ This is applied to both `bad boys¿ and `nice guys¿. They insist that regardless of how dedicated to waiting for marriage & being honorable and respectful your man is he is still a liar just trying to get sex. Worse, ¿when your man says he loves you, he means nothing more than when he says `I love doughnuts¿. The fact that he gets to have sex with you is just a bonus.¿ Then, `But ladies, just in case your guy doesn't take these words of advice, prepare yourself for lies desperately seeking admiration and sex. Hey, it's only natural.¿ This is sick. Sincere men aren¿t perfect, but these slurs are insulting and patently false. The authors¿ excuse disgusting male behavior smear nice guys with it and then tell women to tolerate it! And are women to be content being seen by their husbands as `doughnuts¿ with which they can have sex? If a woman regarded my genuine displays of affection as manipulative lies, the relationship would be over. Period. Here is a mirror image of the authors¿ thoughts (nearly word for word): Men, does it bother you to know that she¿s interested in sex with you only to the extent that it can get her what she most desires an `I love you¿, a bouquet of flowers, a foot rub or a romantic date? Don¿t be, after all, she¿s a woman. Relax guys, you can play her like she was meant to be played. Sex is the biggest weapon in her arsenal and she¿s going to use it to get what she wants. So make it clear (after marriage of course) that if she wants any love and affection, she¿d better be `putting out¿. And realize that when she does express a desire to make love, she's saying no more than when she was longing for that snazzy new pair of shoes. That she gets poems and flowers from you is just a bonus. Don¿t let this disappoint you, it¿s only natural! Disgusting, demeaning and indefensible, but no more so than the authors¿ words. This is to say nothing of the contention that guys are, by nature, unable to Be truthful and respectful. God commands guys to be truthful and honor women as they would their sisters. God asks of us nothing we can¿t do (even if only with His help). To say that guys `cannot help it¿ is to impugn God. All of that aside, this is an otherwise good book.