What's the forecast for your marriage? Marriages are as variable as the weather, and every marriage has a climate. Some are chilly and lack intimacy. Others are stormy and filled with conflict. But while the weather outdoors is beyond our control, the communication climates within our homes can be changedfor the better.
Communication specialist Tim Muehlhoff offers simple strategies for improving the climate of a marriage. Our individual words and actions always take place within an overall atmosphere of expectations. Without a healthy climate of trust, we are prone to miscommunication and misunderstanding. Muehlhoff shows how to take an accurate climate reading of a relationship and explains what causes climates of poor communication. With current research on marital communication, listening skills, empathy and conflict resolution, Marriage Forecasting provides practical ways for couples to rebuild a warm relational climate.
Don't just talk about the weather. Break the cold front, clear the fog, and change the extended outlook for your marriage.
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About the Author
Tim Muehlhoff (PhD, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill) is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California, where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, persuasion, and gender. He is the author of I Beg to Differ and Marriage Forecasting, and the coauthor of The God Conversation: Using Stories and Illustrations to Explain Your Faith and Authentic Communication: Christian Speech Engaging Culture.
Muehlhoff and his wife, Noreen, are frequent speakers at FamilyLife Marriage Conferences, and he has served with Campus Crusade since 1986. They live in Brea, California, with their three boys.
Dan B. Allender (PhD, counseling psychology, Michigan State University) is professor of counseling at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. He taught previously at Grace Theological Seminary and Colorado Christian University.
A speaker and writer, his books include The Healing Path, To Be Told, How Children Raise Parents, The Wounded Heart and Leading with a Limp. With Tremper Longman, he wrote Bold Love, Cry of the Soul, Intimate Allies and the Intimate Marriage Bible studies.
Table of Contents
Foreword Dan Allender 9
1 What Are Communication Climates? 19
2 Environmental Press: Why Marriage Can Be a Struggle 31
3 Improving Your Communication Climate 42
4 Strengthening Trust in Your Climate 58
5 Talking Your Way into a Supportive Climate 68
6 Taking a Reading of Your Marriage 82
7 Calling a Truce 93
8 Changing How We View Conflict 103
9 Seven Principles for Making Disagreements Productive 116
10 The Necessity of Forgiveness 129
11 Hurricane Warnings: When Conflict Turns to Abuse 143
12 Our Communication Climate with God and Why It Means Everything 159
Name and Subject Index 190
Scripture Index 192
What People are Saying About This
"Every time Tim Muehlhoff gets up to speak, he commands the audience's attention from start to finish. I am among his biggest fans, adjusting my schedule to hear his always creative, poignant, funny and God-honoring words. His gift of communication in an auditorium is not outdone by his gift of communication in a book. In his new book, Marriage Forecasting, Tim is refreshingly transparent and honest as he lays out an antidote to the miscommunications that get in the way of so many of us married types. What makes this book even more important to me is that I know Tim, a regular guy who wrestles like the rest of us with how to make a marriage work well and long. Once again through these pages, I marvel at Tim's remarkable ability to communicate biblical truth in real-world ways."
Barry H. Corey, Ph.D., president, Biola University
"Effective communication--speaking the truth in love to one another--is an essential skill for a strong, healthy marriage. Dr. Muehlhoff understands much more than principles for effective communication. He understands how the gospel fundamentally reorders our relationships and changes how we relate to each other. That's what makes this book so helpful for couples who are committed to a God-glorifying marriage."
Bob Lepine, cohost, FamilyLife Today
"Hooray! Finally a book that shows us how to create a positive climate in which to work through the common marital conflicts we all experience. Questions at the end of each chapter make this personal for each couple!"
Susan Alexander Yates, speaker and bestselling author of And Then I Had Kids
"I'm bullish on Tim Muehlhoff. He's authentic. He's anchored in truth. He's passionate about helping and equipping people. And he is a brilliant communicator. He doesn't just grab your attention, his pithy writing will transform your life and marriage. Buy this book. Read and apply it. In the months that follow, the climate in your marriage will improve!"
Dr. Dennis Rainey, president, FamilyLife, and host, FamilyLife Today
"Dr. Tim Muehlhoff has written a thought-provoking book that is a masterful blend of insight, humor and experience. It is rich with up-to-date, relevant and hopeful advice concerning relationships and marriage. If your desire is to make your friendships better, to navigate (and even thrive!) during the inevitable storms of marriage, or simply to reference a trusted source on communication and conflict, this is your book. It is practical, compelling and a thoroughly enjoyable read that shows you how to improve and strengthen your marriage climate."
Christopher Grace, Ph.D., vice president and professor of psychology, Biola University