May Cause Love: A Memoir

May Cause Love: A Memoir

by Kassi Underwood


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In this powerful memoir, a fiercely honest and surprisingly funny testament to healing after abortion, a young woman travels across the United States to meet a motley crew of spiritual teachers and a caravan of new friends.

At age nineteen, Kassi Underwood discovered she was pregnant. Broke, unwed, struggling with alcohol, and living a thousand miles away from home, she checked into an abortion clinic.

While her abortion sparked her “feminist awakening,” she also felt lost and lawless, drinking to oblivion and talking about her pregnancy with her parents, her friends, strangers-anyone.

Three years later, just when she had settled into a sober life at her dream job, the ex-boyfriend with whom she had become pregnant had a baby with someone else. She shattered. In the depths of a blinding depression, Kassi refused to believe that she would “never get over” her abortion. Inspired by rebellious women in history who used spiritual practices to attain emotional freedom, Kassi embarked on a journey of recovery after abortion-a road trip with pit stops at a Buddhist “water baby” ritual, where she learns a new way to think about lost pregnancies; a Roman Catholic retreat for abortion that turns out to be staffed with clinic picketers; a crash course in grief from a Planned Parenthood counselor; a night in a motel with a “Midwife for the Soul” who teaches her how to take up space; and a Jewish “wild woman” celebration led by a wise and zany rabbi.

Dazzling with warmth and leavened by humor, May Cause Love captures one woman’s journey of self-discovery that enraged her, changed her, and ultimately enlightened her.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062458636
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 02/14/2017
Pages: 352
Sales rank: 392,507
Product dimensions: 6.10(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.50(d)

About the Author

KASSI UNDERWOOD has written for the New York Times, The Atlantic (digital), Best Self, and Women’s Health, among others, and has appeared live on MSNBC and NPR. She coaches women who find themselves at a turning point in life. A masters candidate at Harvard Divinity School, she hosts the YouTube series, Spiritually Blonde. May Cause Love is her first book.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Email to My New Friend from the Internet 1

I The First Noble Truth

1 Hell 9

2 The End of April 29

3 Crazy Love 43

4 The Bathroom Is My Prayer Temple 61

5 One of Those Postabortion Meltdowns in Which I Question My Place in the Afterlife 75

6 "Rock-Bottom Loser Entertaining Offers from Several Religions" 89

II Abortion Rites for Better Living

7 My Apology 113

8 Suspicious Minds 127

9 Secret Invisible Baby Friend 159

10 Thirty Seconds of Grief 165

11 How to Take Up Space 183

12 Another Underground Movement 193

13 Animal Therapy 213

14 Manifesto of the Three Billion Sluts 219

15 A Marginally Advanced Understanding of My Mother 233

16 Wild Woman 245

17 Travels with Abortion Money 265

III Love on Earth

18 The Enlightened F*ck 275

19 Hardcore Feminist Texas Church Ladies 293

20 Spiritually Blonde 303

21 Romantic People in Paradise 313

Acknowledgments 319

Notes 323

About the Author 339

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May Cause Love: A Memoir 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Don't miss reading this gem. Kassi has a way with words and I was hooked from the first page.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Holy Cluster B, Batman. Matching tats after 2 months of dating! Yes! At the end, we hope the splitting heals, the dysfunction calms, and the loves become less disordered, but this trajectory is common in the post-abortive. Apply the arguments in this book to another human based on a different size, different level of development, different environment, and different degree of dependency and we could more easily understand why women suffer after induced abortions. 8 weeks vs. 8 years. More cells. Same person. 3 stars for quick movement/writing style, would be 2 stars for depth. Ok to skip this one if you know the post-abortive literature/journal articles or if you treat post-abortive families; you have seen similar vignettes many times before.