Mended: Restoring the Hearts of Mothers and Daughters

by Blythe Daniel, Helen McIntosh

Overview

“An amazing resource for anyone who desires to deepen their mother-daughter relationship in a biblical, healthy, and healed way.”
—Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
 
You can be restored even when your relationship is frayed
 
Ever wonder why mothers and daughters can be so different and even seem to speak different languages?
 
Mended gives you conversation starters to speak life into your relationship with your mother or daughter. Discover powerful words that usher in healing for wounded hearts and rebuild, restore, and reconcile your connection.
 
Set new patterns going forward as you…

• find common ground and put your relationship ahead of your differences
• learn what to say when you don’t know what to say
• grow closer when you do hard things together

If you have a difficult history with your mother or daughter, you don’t have to continue patterns of brokenness. No matter how worn you feel, you don’t have to become unthreaded. God wants to mend your heart to His and to hers.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780736973519
Publisher:	Harvest House Publishers
Publication date:	04/09/2019
Pages:	208
Sales rank:	674,781
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)
Age Range:	3 Months to 18 Years

About the Author

Blythe Daniel is a literary agent, an author, and a marketer. She has been the publicity director and the marketing director for Harper Collins Christian Publishing and has been a literary agent for the past 17 years. Blythe and her mother, Dr. Helen McIntosh, are the coauthors of I Love You, Mom! and Mended. Blythe’s mission is to strengthen relationships with families and friends. She lives in Colorado with her husband and three teenagers.   

 

Table of Contents

Foreword Stasi Eldredge 11

Introduction 15

1 I See You, You See Me: The Layering of Us 25

2 Being Right or Being Closer: Relationship Above Differences 37

3 Spying What When: Words to Love and Live By 55

4 It's My Part: Responsibly Reacting 69

5 Forgiveness Finder: Aiming for God and Each Other Over Offense 91

6 Words That Can Bring You Back Together 109

7 With No Permission Comes No Advice 119

8 Resisting the Cs: Changing and Controlling Your Mother or Daughter 135

9 A New Generation: Setting Things Differently 153

10 Restoring Your Heart 169

11 Doing Hard Things Together 183

Afterword 197

Appendix A 199

Appendix B 201

Notes 206

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

“Mended will show you how to create an incredible, God-honoring legacy for your family. This is an amazing resource for anyone who desires to deepen their mother-daughter relationship in a biblical, healthy, and healed way.”
—Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

“If you’re ready to deepen and strengthen your relationship with your mother, your daughter, your mother-in-law, your daughter-in-law, Mended offers the practical, biblical guidance and wise, heartfelt encouragement you’re looking for. Whether you struggle with past hurts or present disappointments, Helen and Blythe make it clear that, ‘No one and no relationship is beyond hope.’ Each suggestion is supported with Scripture and wrapped in real-life examples drawn from two different generations. So helpful, so hope-filled, so healing!”
—Liz Curtis Higgs, bestselling author of Bad Girls of the Bible

“Mothers and daughters make such interesting duos! Helen McIntosh and Blythe Daniel are no exception. They have bared their souls and brightened our relational paths with their cowriting of this soul-searching, life-instructing book. They walked through fire as they wrote, and the results have emerged as pure gold. If you have a mother, daughter, daughter-in-law or, really, any woman you care about, this book is for you!”
—Jan Silvious, friend and author of Courage for the Unknown Season and Fool-Proofing Your Life

“What a precious opportunity to write a book with your momma! Maybe you don’t think so because the relationship with your mother is more toxic than tender. Blythe and Helen weave godly practical suggestions to move the relationship with your mother or daughter from harmful to healed. In a beautiful conversation, the duo teaches the reader how to sow seeds of peace rather than discord by pointing her to the Author of reconciliation, Jesus.”
—Wendy Pope, Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author of Wait and See and Yes, No, and Maybe

“The mother/daughter relationship is a beautiful gift and yet a complicated one. It can be both a place where we are most comfortable and vulnerable and yet, at times, feel as though we are walking a tightrope to maintain it. Blythe and Helen, in the practical guide of Mended, give us the tools we need to navigate nurturing and restoring this most important relationship. It will be a resource I refer again and again.”
—Lynn Cowell, Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author of Make Your Move

“Sometimes you feel an immediate connection with a friend and wonder how it’s possible for her to be so unique and special. Then you meet her mother, and suddenly you understand—all the qualities you most admired and loved came from the root. It’s difficult to put into words the joy I feel about this book releasing. I cannot think of two women who embody transparency, courage, strength, and wisdom more than Blythe Daniel and Helen McIntosh. I have been privileged to journey alongside these two and have been blessed by their love, respect, and compassion flowing like a beautiful river between them. Be careful—because, as you read this book, you’ll surely get soaked in their special kind of wonderful, and your own mother/daughter relationships will surely be saturated in the love of Jesus, the mender of our souls.”
—LaTan Roland Murphy, friend and author of Courageous Women of the Bible

“I vacillated back and forth between mother and daughter as I read Mended—learning as a mother, absorbing as a daughter. These words can unlock those of us who have felt stuck within either role, unsure of how to find a new way out of old patterns. God’s heart for healing families lies within these pages.”
—Sara Hagerty, author of Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet and Unseen

“Whether your desire is to mend a strained and broken relationship or simply to make a strong and healthy one even better, you will find yourself enlightened, encouraged, and expectant about the future through the pages of Mended. I highly encourage mothers and daughters to enjoy this beautiful book together.”
—Jeannie Cunnion, author of Mom Set Free

“As the mother of five daughters, I know firsthand how important the mother-daughter relationship is and how much cultivating is necessary to keep good lines of communication open—the prerequisite for a healthy relationship. In my experience hurts and wounds are inevitable between mothers and daughters. But alienation is not. In Mended, we are given a proven path to repair the brokenness and build upon the beauty that is present.”
—Gail Hyatt, wife of Michael Hyatt, New York Times bestselling author of Platform

“Blythe McIntosh Daniel and Helen McIntosh gently move us through the mending process by sharing practical tips steeped in grace and compassion. This book will equip you with the tools you need to heal the relationship with your mother or daughter as you look to Jesus for wisdom and discernment. Blythe and Helen paint a beautiful picture of hope and help for mending your relationships.”
—Connie Albers, author of Parenting Beyond the Rules

“If you have ever thought, ‘I wish I knew how to really talk to my mom, to my daughter,’ this book will be a gift. So often we allow years to pass, stuck in misunderstanding and brokenness simply because we don't know what to do or what to say. Mended will give you a place to begin.”
—Sheila Walsh, author of It's Okay Not to Be Okay

“The mother-daughter relationship is one of the most sacred and yet often one of the most complicated. In Mended, you’ll find hope and the tools of conversation that you need to repair your broken relationship. Written beautifully and tenderly, this book is a must read. I highly recommend it!”
—Becky Harling, author of How to Listen So People Will Talk

“Mended is a delicate yet powerful glimpse into the lives of two women who have done the hard work of restoration, producing a relationship characterized by bridges rather than walls. The practical insights they offer make their book as practical as it is poignant, a gift that mothers and daughters will cherish for generations to come.”
—John Hambrick, author of Move Toward the Mess

Editorial Reviews

Mended will show you how to create an incredible, God-honoring legacy for your family. This is an amazing resource for anyone who desires to deepen their mother-daughter relationship in a biblical, healthy, and healed way.”
—Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

“If you’re ready to deepen and strengthen your relationship with your mother, your daughter, your mother-in-law, your daughter-in-law, Mended offers the practical, biblical guidance and wise, heartfelt encouragement you’re looking for. Whether you struggle with past hurts or present disappointments, Helen and Blythe make it clear that, ‘No one and no relationship is beyond hope.’ Each suggestion is supported with Scripture and wrapped in real-life examples drawn from two different generations. So helpful, so hope-filled, so healing!”
—Liz Curtis Higgs, bestselling author of Bad Girls of the Bible

“Mothers and daughters make such interesting duos! Helen McIntosh and Blythe Daniel are no exception. They have bared their souls and brightened our relational paths with their cowriting of this soul-searching, life-instructing book. They walked through fire as they wrote, and the results have emerged as pure gold. If you have a mother, daughter, daughter-in-law or, really, any woman you care about, this book is for you!”
—Jan Silvious, friend and author of Courage for the Unknown Season and Fool-Proofing Your Life

“What a precious opportunity to write a book with your momma! Maybe you don’t think so because the relationship with your mother is more toxic than tender. Blythe and Helen weave godly practical suggestions to move the relationship with your mother or daughter from harmful to healed. In a beautiful conversation, the duo teaches the reader how to sow seeds of peace rather than discord by pointing her to the Author of reconciliation, Jesus.”
—Wendy Pope, Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author of Wait and See and Yes, No, and Maybe 

“The mother/daughter relationship is a beautiful gift and yet a complicated one. It can be both a place where we are most comfortable and vulnerable and yet, at times, feel as though we are walking a tightrope to maintain it. Blythe and Helen, in the practical guide of Mended, give us the tools we need to navigate nurturing and restoring this most important relationship. It will be a resource I refer again and again.”
—Lynn Cowell, Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author of Make Your Move

“Sometimes you feel an immediate connection with a friend and wonder how it’s possible for her to be so unique and special. Then you meet her mother, and suddenly you understand—all the qualities you most admired and loved came from the root. It’s difficult to put into words the joy I feel about this book releasing. I cannot think of two women who embody transparency, courage, strength, and wisdom more than Blythe Daniel and Helen McIntosh. I have been privileged to journey alongside these two and have been blessed by their love, respect, and compassion flowing like a beautiful river between them. Be careful—because, as you read this book, you’ll surely get soaked in their special kind of wonderful, and your own mother/daughter relationships will surely be saturated in the love of Jesus, the mender of our souls.”
—LaTan Roland Murphy, friend and author of Courageous Women of the Bible

“I vacillated back and forth between mother and daughter as I read Mended—learning as a mother, absorbing as a daughter. These words can unlock those of us who have felt stuck within either role, unsure of how to find a new way out of old patterns. God’s heart for healing families lies within these pages.”
—Sara Hagerty, author of Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet and Unseen

“If you have ever thought, ‘I wish I knew how to really talk to my mom, to my daughter,’ this book will be a gift. So often we allow years to pass, stuck in misunderstanding and brokenness simply because we don't know what to do or what to say. Mended will give you a place to begin.”
—Sheila Walsh, author of It's Okay Not to Be Okay

From the Publisher