Why do so many women feel they must put other people's needs before their own—even when they don't want to? Why do they often give up what they really want in life, getting so enmeshed in taking care of others that they don't care for themselves?
These are all forms of sacrifice—self-sacrifice, to be specific: of women’s own needs, desires, literally of their selves.
But—you may ask—isn’t self-sacrifice good and noble? And isn’t it inherent in women’s nature to be givers and caretakers?
Stephanie Golden answers: Sometimes... but also NO. Certainly sacrifice can arise from open-hearted, selfless generosity. But the impulse toward excessive self sacrifice comes from women's history, not their nature.
Mermaid No More is a brief ebook updating Slaying the Mermaid: Women and the Culture of Sacrifice, Golden’s earlier book about this issue.
Mermaid No More will help you figure out whether you’re sacrificing more than is good for you (and for everyone around you). It will help you stop doing so. And it will explain how to tell when making a sacrifice is the right thing to do.
Based on new research and reporting, this 7,000-word ebook explains:
•How women historically became the sacrificers for everyone else
•How to tell whether you’re caught in excessive, unhealthy self-sacrifice
•How to stop doing it
•What healthy self-sacrifice looks like
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About the Author
Got the Girl Scouts' Writer badge (the only one that interested me) when I was 12: that signaled the future. I began writing fiction, but discovered that what really compelled me was literary nonfiction--especially once I developed a way to use a central image as a method of analysis. An image constrains and focuses thoughts while allowing you to come at your material from many different directions without losing coherence, since the analysis acquires its form from the structure of the image. I used this method for both my literary nonfiction books: For *The Women Outside,* a study of homeless and marginal women, it was the figure of the witch. For *Slaying the Mermaid,* about women and self-sacrifice, it was Hans Christian Anderson's Little Mermaid. Literary nonfiction didn't pay the rent, but I like writing books, so I became a book collaborator and wrote five other books with experts. (For a series of articles on how book collaboration works, see my website: http://www.stephaniegolden.net.) And since for a freelancer diversifying = security, I started writing all sorts of other things: magazine articles, newsletters, reports for nonprofits, grant proposals, training manuals, and lately websites.