Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child


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Raising happy, compassionate, and responsible children requires both love and limits. In Mindful Discipline, internationally recognized mindfulness expert Shauna Shapiro and pediatrician Chris White weave together ancient wisdom and modern science to provide new perspectives on parenting and discipline.

Grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience, this pioneering book redefines discipline and outlines the five essential elements necessary for children to thrive: unconditional love, space for children to be themselves, mentorship, healthy boundaries, and mis-takes that create learning and growth opportunities. In this book, you will also discover parenting practices such as setting limits with love, working with difficult emotions, and forgiveness and compassion meditations that place discipline within a context of mindfulness. This relationship-centered approach will restore your confidence as a parent and support your children in developing emotional intelligence, self-discipline, and resilience—qualities they need for living an authentic and meaningful life.

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ISBN-13: 9781608828845
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Publication date: 06/01/2014
Pages: 232
Sales rank: 450,563
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Shauna Shapiro, PhD, is a professor at Santa Clara University, a clinical psychologist, an internationally recognized expert in mindfulness, and a mother. With twenty years of meditation experience studying in Thailand and Nepal, as well as in the West, Shapiro brings an embodied sense of mindfulness to her scientific work. She has published over one hundred journal articles and chapters, and coauthored the critically acclaimed book, The Art and Science of Mindfulness. Shapiro is the recipient of the American Council of Learned Societies teaching award, acknowledging her outstanding contributions to education, and has been invited to lecture for the King of Thailand, the Danish government, and the World Council for Psychotherapy in Beijing, China. Her work has been featured in Wired, USA Today, Oxygen, The Yoga Journal, and the American Psychologist. Shapiro lives in Mill Valley, California, with her eight-year-old son, Jackson.
Chris White, MD, is a board-certified pediatrician, parent educator, certified life coach, and father. He is the creator and director of Essential Parenting, an organization that supports the psycho-emotional development of children and their parents. His writing has been featured in Pathways to Family Wellness and the PBS series’ This Emotional Life blog. White lives with his two boys, Kai and Bodhi, and the love of his life, Kari, in the San Francisco Bay Area.

Foreword writer Christine Carter, PhD, is a happiness expert, sociologist, and the author of Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents. Carter has helped thousands of people find more joy in their lives through her books, online classes, coaching, and speaking engagements. She teaches happiness classes online throughout the year to a global audience on her website www.christinecarter.com.

Foreword writer Dean Ornish, MD, is the founder and president of the non-profit Preventive Medicine Research Institute and clinical professor of medicine at the University of California, San Francisco. Ornish received his MD from the Baylor College of Medicine, was a clinical fellow in medicine at Harvard Medical School, and completed an internship and residency in internal medicine at the Massachusetts General Hospital. He is the author of six books, all national bestsellers, including: Dr. Dean Ornish's Program for Reversing Heart Disease; Eat More, Weigh Less; Love and Survival; and his most recent book, The Spectrum.

Table of Contents

Foreword Dean Ornish vii

Foreword Christine Carter xi

Acknowledgments xiii

Part 1 A Discipline We Can Feel Proud Of

Introduction 3

1 Why Discipline Matters 13

The Key to a Healthy Mind and a Fulfilling Life

2 How Self-Discipline Develops 23

Growing From Impulses to Judgments to Authenticity

3 Mindfulness 37

Nourishment for Life and Parenting

4 The Mindful Discipline Approach 49

Transmitting Self-Discipline

5 Relationship 67

The Source of Nourishment

Part 2 The Five Essential Elements of Mindful Discipline

6 Unconditional Love 85

Preserving Trust and Inherent Value

7 Space 103

Supporting Autonomy, Competence, and Responsibility

8 Mentorship 119

Promoting Healthy Habits, Strong Values, and Emotional Intelligence

9 Healthy Boundaries 137

Encouraging Impulse Control and Adaptability

10 Mis-Takes 157

The Gifts of Compassion, Humility, and Forgiveness

11 The Heart of Maturity 175

How Emotional Intelligence and Resilience Are Grown

12 Epilogue 185


A Discipline and the Brain 189

B The Basics of Attachment 191

C Qualities and Capacities of a Healthy, Self-Disciplined Individual 195

D The Promise and Perils of Praise 197

Suggested Reading 201

References 203


Shapiro lives in Mill Valley, CA; White lives in the greater San Francisco Bay Area.

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