As a teenager growing up in the 1980s, all Jerry Mahoney wanted was a nice, normal sham marriage: 2.5 kids and a frustrated, dissatisfied wife living in denial of her husband’s sexuality. Hey, why not? It seemed much more attainable and fulfilling than the alternativecoming out of the closet and making peace with the fact that he’d never have a family at all.
Twenty years later, Jerry is living with his long-term boyfriend, Drew, and they’re ready to take the plunge into parenthood. But how? Adoption? Foster parenting? Kidnapping? What they want most of all is a great story to tell their future kid about where he or she came from.
Their search leads them to gestational surrogacy, a road less traveled where they’ll be borrowing a stranger’s ladyparts for nine months. Thus begins Jerry and Drew’s hilarious and unexpected journey to daddyhood.
From then on, they’re in uncharted waters. They’re forced to face down homophobic baby store clerks, a hospital that doesn’t know what to do with them, even members of their own family who think what they’re doing is a little nutty. One thing’s for sure. If this all works out, they’re going to have an incredible birth story to tell their kid.
With honesty, emotion, and laugh-out-loud humor, Jerry Mahoney ponders what it means to become a Mommy Man . . . and discovers that the answer is as varied and beautiful as the concept of family itself.
|Publisher:||Taylor Trade Publishing|
|Product dimensions:||9.00(w) x 6.40(h) x 1.20(d)|
About the Author
Jerry Mahoney is an award-winning comedy writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times and Westchester Magazine and on the Lifetime Moms website. He’s the author of the popular parenting blog Mommy Man: Adventures of a Gay Superdad, which was named one of the Top 10 Humor Blogs by Babble.com. He lives in New Rochelle, New York with his husband, Drew, and . . . well, the rest is quite a story.
Table of Contents
1 Before It Gets Better 1
2 The Island of Misfit Gays 19
3 Our Daughter, Fu-Ling 32
4 Can We Borrow Your Lady Parts for Nine Months? 49
5 Um, Sperm 60
6 The Womb of Steel 71
7 The Wounded Bird 77
8 How We Met Your M-Word 89
9 More Than an Aunt, Less Than a Mom 100
10 What's-Her-Womb 109
11 Into Their Bodies, Out of Our Hands 127
12 Breeders 142
13 Puppy-Kicking Doodyheads 150
14 Susie and the Beast 159
15 The Ten Excruciatingly Long Days of Christmas 168
16 IPs in the Closet 175
17 The Sad Happy Face 184
18 A Family Outing 191
19 Bye Bye, Bubble 198
20 The Wedding We'd Never Had 205
21 Tiffany's Replacement 215
22 Fourth of July with the Family 222
23 One Last Peaceful Sleep 231
24 Pioneers Again 239
25 Another Coming-Out Story 249
26 Heart-Stopping 255
27 The Lottery 263
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I first started following Jerry's blog of the same title about a year ago because I enjoyed his writing, particularly his view of parenting. I'm not gay, nor have I known any same parent couples. But what I soon learned was that Jerry and his partner faced many of the same experiences as the rest of us. And each post was a fun read often with hilarious pictures of kids. When the book came out, I was intrigued enough to learn the whole story, basically what I'd missed from Jerry's earlier blog posts. This is a wonderful, touching, very human story of how two people met, fell in love, and wanted to start a family. But it's also a heartwarming story of what it takes to create that family - from planning to eggs, to gestation, and the incredible number of people involved to make Jerry's and Drew's dream come true. You'll laugh out loud and you'll cry. Mostly, though, your faith in what unites us as people will be strengthened.
I grew up in Rochester, I grew up a gay geek, I grew up loving television - reading this book felt like reading a bit of my life, on page. The difference being, my life so far only goes up to age 26. This book showed me what might come next - the family, the kids, the trip to Disneyland that (at age 15) I didn't think I'd ever have. "Mommy Man," the book and the blog, are a must if you came of age gay in the 80's, 90's, and probably now. In fact, if you're straight, read it anyway - love crosses boundaries.