For those in the middle of grief, this means simply to give yourself permission to be right where you are and not try to always stay positive or move on too quickly. Lean on some safe friends and family when you can. Vulnerability may seem like one of the scariest things after loss but you must open up if you want to find others you can rely on. If they can't handle it, don't believe that it means you need to get over it and don't pretend everything is okay if it's not. It means that they don't understand the grief process.