My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks

My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks

by Marc Silver

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ISBN-13: 9781402273070
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Publication date: 03/05/2013
Pages: 272
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.90(d)
Lexile: 850L (what's this?)
Age Range: 12 - 17 Years

About the Author

Marc Silver is the author of Breast Cancer Husband. He is currently deputy editor for text at National Geographic magazine and lives in Baltimore, Maryland.

Maya Silver lives in Crested Butte, CO, where she works at the Office for Resource Efficiency. She won the Diane Vreuls Fiction Prize at Oberlin College in 2008 and has contributed to U.S. News & World Report and Washington Post Express.

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From the Introduction:

We hope that the voices in this book create a community of support to give you strength as you deal with your parent's cancer. Because if you can learn from the 20/20 hindsight and mistakes of others who've been there, you'll be better prepared to handle the situations you will encounter.

A parent's cancer is uncharted territory, and the uncertainty about what's happening and what's next can be nerve-racking. "Among the things I wish I was told with more clarity is: here's what your mom's going to be going through, here's what you need to do, what you need to be aware of..." said Aaron, who was a teen when his mom had breast cancer. This book doesn't have all the answers, but it will provide you with an idea of what might be going on-and how to get the information you need if your parents aren't good communicators.

One of the most important things we learned from interviewing so many teens--and one of the themes of this guide--is that everyone deals with their parent's cancer differently. Some people cope just fine. Others have a very hard time. A lot depends on the nature of the diagnosis. Is your parent facing a cancer that has a good treatment success rate? Or is the cancer a difficult one to treat?

Your reaction also depends on you. Personalities differ. Some teens want lots and lots of information. Others want the bare minimum. Some worry a great deal. Others feel confident that everything will be okay. Some lose their focus at school and see grades slip. Others hyper-focus on keeping grades up. Some want to talk about it all. Others don't. And that's okay.

One thing we can all agree on, though, is that cancer sucks. For everyone involved. We hope this book will help you cope in the months and years ahead.

As hard as times may get, you will make it through. Take it from Bailee Richardson, who was twelve when her mom was diagnosed: "Stay strong. Everything's going to work itself out in the end. Don't ever let it get the best of you."

Finally, here are two rules for this book:

Rule 1: Teens, don't feel guilty. You have your own way of coping, and you don't have to behave like any other teen in this book.

Rule 2: Parents, do not use the book to make your teen talk if he or she doesn't want to talk.

Read on!

Table of Contents

CONTENTS

Introduction

Chapter 1THE NEWS

1.1 A Hunch

1.2 Why Your Parents Told You the Way They Did

1.3 Why You Reacted the Way You Did

1.4 A Charged Word

Chapter 2CANCER 101

2.1 The Big Question Marks

2.2 Treatments and Their Side Effects

2.3 The Cure: Why Isn't There One Yet?

2.4 True or False

2.5 Tell Me More!

Chapter 3LET'S TALK: HOW TO KEEP YOUR FAMILY COMMUNICATION LINES WIDE OPEN

3.1 How Much Do You Want to Know?

3.2 What If You're Out of the Loop?

3.3 Reality Check: How Far in the Know Can You Go?

3.4 How to Keep Talking...Even If It's in Writing

Chapter 4HOW THINGS WILL CHANGE DURING CANCER

4.1 Teenage Change Is Normal!

4.2 Cancer Sneaking Up on You

4.3 Changes to Expect

4.4 Changes in Your Parent

4.5 Siblings

Chapter 5PARENTIFICATION

5.1 How It Happens

5.2 Catching a Break

5.3 Silence Isn't Golden

5.4 The Big Picture

Chapter 6DEALING WITH STRESS

6.1 How to Beat the Cancer Blues

6.2 Exploring the Options

Chapter 7RISKY BUSINESS

7.1 Former Bad Boys: Gary and Jose Turn It Around

7.2 Former Bad Girls: True Confessions

Chapter 8THE POWER (AND THE LIMITS) OF OPTIMISM AND FAITH

8.1 Think Positive

8.2 Faith and Spirituality

Chapter 9THE BENEFIT OF FRIENDS

9.1 What You Do (and Don't) Want from Your Friends

9.2 Girls Are from Mercury, Boys Are from Neptune

9.3 Accepting Help

9.4 Have Fun with Your Friends If You Can

9.5 But Can They Still Come Over?

9.6 Social Networks: Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, and More

9.7 Dealing with Friend Problems

9.8 New Friends

Chapter 10 SCHOOL DAZE

10.1 School = More Stress or a Place to Escape?

10.2 To Announce or Not to Announce

10.3 Telling the School

10.4 How the School Can Help

10.5 Dilemmas, Dilemmas

10.6 Keeping Grades Up

10.7 The Need to Achieve

10.8 Pulling a Bueller

Chapter 11 SEEKING SUPPORT

11.1 The Adult Who Knows You

11.2 Seeing a Therapist

11.3 Group Support

Chapter 12 FACING A DIRE PROGNOSIS

12.1 Facing the News

12.2 How Long Do We Have?

12.3 When the Bad News Isn't All Bad

12.4 Finding Hope When Things Seem Hopeless

12.5 Living for the Moment

12.6 A Different Kind of Hope

12.7 What If You Feel Closer to the Parent with Cancer?

12.8 Avoidance

12.9 Making Memories

Chapter 13 LOSING A PARENT TO CANCER

13.1 A Dictionary of Emotions

13.2 Mourning Doesn't Come with an Expiration Date

13.3 All Kinds of Questions

13.4 Life Goes On

13.5 Dealing with Your Emotions

13.6 School Can Be a Comfort...or a Pain

13.7 Music Can Make It Better

13.8 Staying Connected

Chapter 14 THE NEW NORMAL: LIFE AFTER CANCER

14.1 What Happens Now?

14.2 New Normal Hiccups and Surprises

14.3 Struggling in the Aftermath

14.4 Becoming an Activist

14.5 Same Old You

14.6 Silver Linings

Appendix A THE CAMP FOR KIDS COPING WITH A PARENT'S CANCER

Appendix B IN THEIR OWN WORDS

Appendix C THE PARENTS' GUIDE

Appendix D RESOURCES

Acknowledgments

About the Authors

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