Table of Contents
Foreword Patrick J. Kennedy xi
Preface xvii
Introduction xxiii
1 The Journey Begins 1
2 The Imperfect Caregiver 24
3 The Parent Who Rejects Help 39
4 Good, Bad, and Nonexistent Siblings 60
5 What Does Care Cost, and Who Pays? 87
6 The Care Maze 119
7 Making Work Work 144
8 The Art of Connection: Caring for a Loved One with Dementia 164
9 Caring for the Parent Who Couldn't Care for You 185
10 How to Care for Ourselves Too 207
11 Letting Go 227
12 Moving Forward, Looking Back 247
Appendix: Tips and Checklists
A Proactive Approach to Caregiving 263
When Your Parent Refuses Help 265
Home Dangers Every Caregiver Should Know 267
Paying for Long-Term Care 269
Seek Workplace Support 271
Caring for Someone with Dementia 273
Doctor's Appointment Checklist 275
What to Ask When Choosing a Nursing Home 277
What to Ask When Choosing an Assisted Living Community 279
What to Ask When Choosing a Nonmedical Home Care Agency 281
Notes 283
Resources 293
Recommended Further Reading 297
Acknowledgments 299
Index 303
About the Author 317