My Unspeakable Loss: A Birthmother's Memoir About Adoption Secrecy

My Unspeakable Loss: A Birthmother's Memoir About Adoption Secrecy

by Alicia Kay Lanier


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In 1965, Alicia Kay Lanier finishes her University journalism studies in Texas and embarks on an exciting career as a daily newspaper reporter in another state. She has been raised in a Christian home and she is still a virgin. Alicia quickly finds her new job and friends to be as thrilling as she had expected. But, a few months later, Alicia discovers she is pregnant. The fact that she is unmarried, combined with the recent death of a parent, influences her to give her infant to strangers who want to adopt him. Alicia keeps this baby a secret from her family and friends for over two decades. Alicia later marries and the couple has other children. In the mid-eighties, a series of family crises threatens the family’s serene image and the marriage; the author says: “To family and close friends, my life at age 48 looked pretty good: Longtime marriage, pretty daughters, professional career, lovely home. What they could not see was the marriage was on shaky ground, my daughters were in distress, and I had kept a sad secret for over two decades.” Alicia’s saga examines sorting through the multiple family dilemmas and ending her secret-keeping. Confronting a closed adoption system, which hides information from all parties involved, Alicia and her daughters persistently search for lost family. What happens next has surprising twists and turns and presents new challenges for Alicia and her children in reunion and relationship renewal. Covering several decades, this memoir draws from Alicia’s vivid memories and her extensive personal journal and letters to family. It is written in the style of a contemporary novel, with flashbacks to Alicia’s years as a 1950s teenager learning to deal with the opposite sex and intimacy; her life as a daily newspaper reporter in Oklahoma and Texas; reflections about her months living in a “home for unwed mothers;” meditation on the shame and grief felt by birthmothers of the closed adoption era; and Alicia’s evolution into being a writer and advocate for adoptee rights and other issues.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781977219398
Publisher: Outskirts Press, Inc.
Publication date: 10/06/2019
Pages: 238
Sales rank: 511,478
Product dimensions: 5.98(w) x 9.02(h) x 0.54(d)

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