Wendi was one of the angels A.L. found along his path to peace. She provide direction and guidance. In this memoir written by A.L., Wendi provides clinical insight to the struggles and challenges faced by not only A.L. but many addicts.
"I am writing this with the hope that in some small way I will be able to comfort someone that has felt these feelings in their life. Someone who has looked into their soul's abyss and screamed 'HELP!' and felt like no one has answered that plea; someone who has cried in private for decades, as I have, and not felt comforted. Please know that you are not alone. Whether you find similarities in my feelings and circumstances or not, I hope you can learn from my mistakes and not make the same ones yourself.
I remember two summers in a row, when I was thirteen and fourteen, going on long backpacking trips with my dad in British Columbia, Canada. On both trips we came across piles of rocks along the trails. I thought they were very interesting and asked him about them. Pronounced 'kerns', these trail markers are called cairns and typically mark a path or place where others have previously traveled. Through my various travels around the world, I have noticed many cairns on many different trails."
"I never intended to write a book, let alone a book about sex addiction. When A.L. approached me with this idea, I thought, 'Wait, you just don't write a book with a former client!', but I simply couldn't let this opportunity pass me by. It is an opportunity to add my voice to a very important conversation. His story is unique in some ways, but is universal in its suffering and ultimately, in its hope for redemption. It's everyone's story actually. Everyone gets lost, everyone needs guideposts or cairns, and everyone wants to know that someone else, anyone else, understands.
But like all meaningful stories, it must be listened to until the end. The war within oneself is not ended quickly or cleanly. It can take a long time and a lot of work to find the answers, to change and to find peace. Please give A.L.'s true and very difficult story a chance to show you how quick fixes do not exist in recovery, but miracles, angels and love absolutely do."