Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals

Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals

by Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton


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Conflicts over animals are among the toughest to resolve. People form deep emotional bonds with their pets-after all, they're members of the family-so when a dispute involves animals, people get just as angry as if the clash were over their human children. When they've finally had enough, they head to court where the law treats the pet as property-as just a thing.

But there's a better way: mediation. Whether your conflict is over who gets the cat in a divorce, how to deal with a barking dog, or any other issue, a neutral mediator can bring you and the other person together so you can hear each other out, acknowledge each other's feelings, and resolve your dispute. Not only can mediation settle the conflict in less time and with less expense than litigation, but it can save and even strengthen relationships.

In Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals, litigator-turned-mediator Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton introduces her proven techniques for addressing your conflict, working out a mutually satisfactory solution, and ensuring the well-being of the most important party-the beloved pet or animal in need.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781515020240
Publisher: CreateSpace Publishing
Publication date: 08/27/2015
Pages: 144
Sales rank: 773,829
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.31(d)

About the Author

Debra A. Vey Voda-Hamilton spent 30 years as a practicing litigator, but she is now a full-time mediator and conflict coach for people in disputes over animals. She works both nationwide and internationally. She has far-reaching experience in resolving interpersonal conflicts involving animals, and she is also well-known in the world of purebred dogs as a top breeder and exhibitor of Irish setters and long-haired dachshunds.
Debra speaks widely on the topic of how mediation techniques can help people address conflicts without litigation. She has presented at veterinary schools, the American Kennel Club, the American Veterinary Medical Law Association, the Society of Animal Welfare Administrators, the Living With Animals conference, state bar association Animal Law Committee meetings, and animal interest group meetings. Debra also writes a blog for Hamilton Law and Mediation and is a contributor to the Solo Practice University blog and the Canine Chronicle. She has been featured in Forbes, the Wall Street Journal, US News and World Report, and the New York Times.
As the principal at Hamilton Law and Mediation, PLLC-the nation's first solo mediation practice dedicated to helping people resolve conflicts over animals-Debra uses alternative dispute resolution to help address disagreements over the family pet during divorce, neighbors' arguments over a barking dog, and confrontations between clients and veterinarians and other professionals who work with animals. HLM also looks forward to helping animal rights and welfare advocates see the benefit of having a conversation about the best interests of all parties-especially the animals-to resolve animal-related disputes.
Debra is admitted to practice law in all New York State courts. She is certified as a mediator and collaborative professional and has worked with various court-based mediation programs in New York City (Queens-Community Mediation Service) and in Westchester and Rockland Counties in New York (Westchester and Rockland Mediation Centers).

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anapjm02 More than 1 year ago
Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton is an attorney and mediator who has a lot of experience in the mediation over animal conflicts. I really enjoyed this book since it open the knowledge of techniques on mediation that are really unique and helpful for everyone. Conflicts over animals and pets are really difficult (they are like children in family law), sentiments are involved and reason is hard to find. Therefore, having the techniques that help you to think sensibly in order to achieve the best possible agreement between the parties is something unique. I have not yet been involved in such conflicts but it is a market growing worldwide since the importance of animals and pets are taking a important part of everyday life. I recommend this book not only for lawyers, solicitors and mediators but for everyone since the mediation techniques can be applied in several occasions.
MikiHope More than 1 year ago
Everyone should read this book, especially at this time when hatred is being spewed all over--the internet included! I have never been a fan of "legal remedies". Actually I don't trust lawyers all that much--It goes against my grain that they can one minute be fighting for the plaintiff then the next switch gears and fight for the defendant. I do understand the need for them to be able to preform this sleight of hand--but it does not mean I have to like it! Most of our politicians are lawyers--need I say more? As of right now we have a bunch of Big Business people in government--they are no better in my opinion! You may agree or disagree with me--but that is my opinion and I agree to disagree with those of you of opposing opinions. We all have the right to our own opinions! I had heard of mediation before but honestly did not know too much about it. After having read this book it does seem to me that mediation is a far better route to travel then a courthouse. It explains the entire process in easy to understand language, and why, especially when in a dispute over a beloved pet (who is considered property in a court of law)-it is the way to proceed. There is no right or wrong in Mediation--but there is a way to bring two or more parties to a mutually satisfying conclusion and at a much lower cost! This book explains the process from one end to the other using anecdotal situations. At the end there is a compilation of resources which you can go to if you are in need of a moderator.
Humber More than 1 year ago
Being an animal lover I found this book extremely intriguing. It is enriched with a lot of resourceful information if you find you are in a conflict/situation requiring mediation. It is a practical guide for strategy and understanding of how mediation works. It provides you with great insight in how to approach and resolve conflicts without resorting to litigation. There is much wisdom and knowledge to be discovered in this book. It is very well-written! Thoroughly enjoyed reading it.
Stacey06 More than 1 year ago
I absolutely enjoyed reading this book. I learned a lot of information for sure and am glad I was able to read this wonderful book. Great advice this book has for pet owners. I learned new and interesting information because of this book. a clear understanding of where and how a mediator would be valuable in settling disputes that involve animals. The pet custody information was hard to read but a lot of information I have learned from it. I am glad that there are people out there like Debra who helps make your pets happy in a situation. Highly reccomned for any pet owner. I received this book through Beck Valley Books Book Tours, I have volunteered to share my review and all the opinions are 100% my own.
hobbisl38 More than 1 year ago
I wanted to read this book for two reasons. Firstly I know exactly how much a pet can mean to you. I lost my beloved cat Samson a few years ago. Secondly, I spent over 13 years working for various law firms (in marketing, not law) and I was really interested to read how mediation can solve so many problems on a much more cost -effective basis than litigation. Debra explains that many divorce cases run into trouble when 'custody' of the pet is raised. Our pets are members of our family and mean as much to some as their children. Rather than go to litigation where the court makes a decision which may benefit one party at the cost of the pet's happiness and where costs can run into thousands, mediation offers a chance to come up with a solution which takes the pet into consideration and preserves the relationship between the warring spouses - at least so that the pet is taken care of. Debra is an experienced lawyer and a mediator who is able to facilitate problem solving between people who just can't agree who should have their pet - or at least might agree if their views were at least heard and acknowledged. Mediation is also very useful to settle disputes such as those which arise between vets and their clients, or neighbours who have had all they can take of barking dogs. Debra offers fascinating case studies and techniques to help you deal with conflict yourself. I have to say a lot of her advice would work just as well with bickering kids. She offers 6 tactics for mediation which she calls "Stop, Drop & Roll" - 1. stop talking and listen, 2. drop the need to be right, 3. let what the other party says roll off your back, 4. address the conflict, 5. keep the relationship and finally, 6. acknowedge and appreciate the other party. All techniques which I can use on a daily basis - and I don't have a pet at the moment! It is upsetting enough to find yourself in a relationship which is breaking down, whether romantic or with your neighbours. Nipped In The Bud shows that using mediation is a brilliant way to handle the situation whilst being heard, getting your needs met and working out collaboratively what the best solution for the animals involved may be. And all this without spending unnecessary money on legal fees. That in itself makes the book worth its weight in gold. I received a free copy of this book in return for an honest review.