No BULLIES: Solutions for Saving Our Children from Today's Bully

by Bobby Kipper, Bud Ramey, Tom Emswiller (Foreword by)

Overview

Bobby Kipper and Bud Ramey, two best selling authors on youth violence in America, offer you and your children the clear information and tools needed to help navigate the dangerous epidemic of bullying in America.

If your children haven’t already been affected by bullying, it is very likely on the way.

Published by the National Center for the Prevention of Community Violence, led by career police officer Bobby Kipper, this concise guide is designed to answer the plea heard all over America, “What should I do?”

What should I do when my child’s reputation is being destroyed online? What do I do if my child becomes the bully? What do I do when physical confrontation is inevitable? Should I confront the parents of a bully?

Parents and Guardians
Teachers and Coaches
Youth Leaders and Child Advocates

Our children are in danger. Prepare for the eventual encounter with Today's Bully. Make informed and thoughtful decisions on how to handle these encounters.

Ultimately, No BULLIES and its predecessor No COLORS — 100 Ways to Stop Gangs from Taking Over Our Communities, together address “best practices” for making a difference in the civility crisis in our nation that is impacting an entire generation.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781614484370
Publisher:	Morgan James Publishing
Publication date:	10/08/2013
Pages:	204
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Bud Ramey is the 2010 Public Affairs Silver Anvil Award winner of the Public Relations Society of America—the highest public affairs recognition in the world. His grassroots public affairs and humanitarian successes stretch across three decades. In 2012, Ramey and Bobby Kipper published No COLORS –100 Ways to Stop Gangs from Taking Away Our Communities.

Bobby Kipper, co-author of No COLORS, is founder of the National Center for the Prevention of Community Violence. A battle-hardened ex-cop with a quarter century of community policing in one of America’s toughest gang environments, Kipper organized one of the most effective crime prevention programs ever developed by the Justice Department. He has consulted for the White House, Congress, and governors and for communities across America.

Read an Excerpt

Children are bullying each other in frighteningly effective 21st century ways. These are not your father’s bullies. Armed with social media and supported by a culture that seems to glorify bullying throughout a wide spectrum of activities, today’s kids experience bullying behavior in every direction they turn.

“Many parents are numb to bullying because they experience it every day at work”

Many parents are either numb to bullying or far less sensitive than they should be because they may experience it every day at work. The bullies of their own childhood have grown up and become their co-workers and supervisors.

Too often it seems that the least compassionate and most domineering get ahead.

Some would say it’s always been that way, that the media has simply expanded and amplified the nastiness.

Our history lends some truth to that assertion through political campaigns that introduced us to contentious behavior and outright ugly moments shortly after America declared its independence.  The earliest days of the republic also saw intimidation and domineering behavior incorporated into military training and discipline.

Table of Contents

Foreword

A Global Crisis-25 Countries

It's Not If, It's When Your Child Will Be Bullied.  And Here's What Your Child Shouldn't Do


“Just Tell Me What to Do…”


The Culture of Bullying — What Is It Really About and Why Are So Many Young People Embracing It?

Bullying Defined
How Bullying Got Out of Control
Let’s Dispel the Myths About Bullying
Understand All Five Traditional Forms of Bullying
At What Age Does Bullying Become a Danger to Kids?
Between Meanness and Bullying
What Bullying and Gangs Have in Common


“Just Tell Me What to Do…”


Preparing Our Children For Bullying Encounters

Leave Nothing Unsaid with Your Child:  Have Regular “Bully Talks”
Making the Distinction Between Self-Esteem and Selfish Esteem
The Potential Impact of Bullying
Ten Suggestions to Help Your Child Navigate Around the Bullies
The Bully. The Victim. The Bystander.  Why Bystanders Have the Power
Rehearse for the Show: Use Role Play to Practice Reactions to Bullying
Kids May Not Love Every Classmate, but They Understand Politeness
Differences and Diversity Are Wonderful, but Avoid Social Isolation
Personality Will Impact How Your Child Responds to a Bullying Situation
Brothers and Sisters Will Have Conflict, Constantly;  Minimize the Chaos By Not Buying Into the Provoking Behaviors
Carefully Observe Your Child’s Friends


Early Warnings

Be Skeptical of Teasing
Watch for Warning Signs of Today's Bully
Is Your Child Becoming a Bully?  Be Alert to These Indicators


Your Reaction To Bullying

Important Do’s and Don’ts
It Is a Crime to Assault Another Person. It Is Also a Civil Case.
The Four Things You Should Never Do
Kids Can Be Slow to Reveal Being Bullied:  Signs to Watch for
The Five Kinds of Bullies Today
Be Alert for Signs of Self-Harm Risk in a Bullied Child


Social Media Threats

New Digital Dangers That May Be Invisible to Parents
You Are Paying the Bill:  Control Your Child’s Social Media
When Cyberbullying Becomes a Crime


The Bullying Child

Physical Bullying Is a Boys’ World
Girl Bullies Use Different Weapons
If Your Child Becomes a Bully, New Ground Rules Are Essential


The Bullied Child

Confronting the Parents
Teach Your Child to Stand Firm
Twelve Things to Consider When Your Child Has Been Bullied
Bullying of Any Kind Can Result in Lifelong Emotional Damage and Why Professional Counseling Should Be Considered
Do Children Grow Out of Bullying?
Get Involved and Monitor Your Child’s School Environment
Understand What Your School Should Be Doing When Bullying Occurs

Youth Sports

Adult Bully Behavior Needs to Be Challenged


Four Promises

Four Special Promises By You and Your Child
Appendix
Acknowledgements
Endnotes
Bibliography
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