The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night

The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night

by Elizabeth Pantley
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The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley

A breakthrough approach for a good night's sleep--with no tears

There are two schools of thought for encouraging babies to sleep through the night: the hotly debated Ferber technique of letting the baby "cry it out," or the grin-and-bear-it solution of getting up from dusk to dawn as often as necessary. If you don't believe in letting your baby cry it out, but desperately want to sleep, there is now a third option, presented in Elizabeth Pantley's sanity-saving book The No-Cry Sleep Solution.

Pantley's successful solution has been tested and proven effective by scores of mothers and their babies from across the United States, Canada, and Europe. Based on her research, Pantley's guide provides you with effective strategies to overcoming naptime and nighttime problems. The No-Cry Sleep Solution offers clearly explained, step-by-step ideas that steer your little ones toward a good night's sleep--all with no crying.

Tips from The No-Cry Sleep Solution:

  • Uncover the stumbling blocks that prevent baby from sleeping through the night
  • Determine--and work with--baby's biological sleep rhythms
  • Create a customized, step-by-step plan to get baby to sleep through the night
  • Use the Persistent Gentle Removal System to teach baby to fall asleep without breast-feeding, bottlefeeding, or using a pacifier

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780071381390
Publisher: McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing
Publication date: 03/28/2002
Series: Pantley Series
Edition description: List
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 116,513
Product dimensions: 8.20(w) x 5.42(h) x 0.65(d)

About the Author

Elizabeth Pantley, author and parent educator, is frequently quoted in numerous magazines including Parents and Parenting. She and her husband live in Washington state with their four children--and all sleep through the night.

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The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 352 reviews.
Mama_Jen More than 1 year ago
If you're reading this, you're probably extremely tired, so I'll try to cut to the chase! 1. The title is a misnomer - it should be "No Cry sleep solutionS". You pick from about 50 different ideas, each tailored for different situations and put a plan together that suits your baby and your parenting style. There are ideas for co-cleepers and for cot-sleepers. Ideas for bottle feeders and ideas for breast feeders. Ideas for dummy users, car-seat sleepers, older babies and new borns. It's really individualised. 2. Pantley herself co-slept and breast-fed BUT, unlike almost any other parenting book out there, she not only respects other parenting choices, she provides solutions that will suit the bottle-fed, cot-sleeping baby etc. She is never judgemental, never tells you you have only yourself to blame for your child's sleeplessness and never tells you what to do. I'd read these books even if they didn't work because she's so encouraging! So refreshing not to feel you've been beaten over the head with a stick! 3. She had 4 kids and worked with loads of test families. I only have 1 but she has had 3 periods of poor sleep, 2 after developmental leaps and 1 after 9 days illness. Each time, we've tailored a slightly different plan using this book and the nap book. We've seen about 30-50% improvement immediately which has given us energy to hang on 6-10 more days for a real turnaround. It's not as quick as controlled -crying but it's far less painful. No tears for Mum and Dad and you can look your child in the eye in the morning. 4. This really is a third way - I actually can't contemplate controlled crying but some Attachment Parenting books seem to suggest you leap joyfully out of bed 8 times a night in sheer delight at meeting your child's needs night or day. I'm not going to force my baby to work out how to sleep on her own and if she needs me, she gets me, but if I can gently lead her towards a full night's sleep without tears, it means I can function much better and be the kind of creative, fun, loving Mum I want to be during daylight hours rather than the grouchy wreck I was who was, snappy with everyone, especially those I loved most, and a menace behind the wheel of my car!!!! I really wish you joy with your baby and I wholeheartedly believe this book will help you experience much more of that. Just a final note, I thought the nap book would be a rewrite of this one but we have both and it really does have enough new information in it to be worth getting if naps are also an issue.
JMKS More than 1 year ago
Take my word for it, this book is an absolute must-have for any parent who is fighting the sleep battle with their baby and doesn't believe in letting them cry it out. I have been fighting a bedtime battle with my five month old son for months now. He absolutely REFUSED to go to bed before midnight, and by that time he was literally passing out from exhaustion, as was I, after being an inconsolable terror for four or five hours. I tried everything. Nothing made him happy, nothing stopped the fussing, not playing, not eating, not a diaper change, nothing. I'm a first time mother, and when I would share my problems with some of the more experienced mothers I knew, they would simply tell me to put him in bed and let him cry. I just couldn't do it. I couldn't listen as he screamed and gasped for breath until he was coughing and gagging. And I didn't see how this could possibly foster a trusting relationship between us. So I started looking online for possible solutions and came across mention of Elizabeth Pantley's book. I jumped in my car and drove straight to the bookstore to buy a copy, came home, and read it cover to cover. This book is filled with so much helpful information that you can use in any situation. Whether you have a newborn or a baby who is a little older, whether you breastfeed or bottlefeed, whether you co-sleep or your baby sleeps in a crib. It even address other issues such as making the transition between co-sleeping and sleeping in a crib. I immediately began using the techniques that Elizabeth Pantley wrote about in this book, and for the last three nights my son has been in bed asleep by 7:30 at the latest. And during the day he is a whole new baby. Well-rested, happy and playful. And I.well I am a much happier well-rested woman and because of that I am able to be the kind of mom I want to be. If sleeping is an issue with you and your baby, whether it's what time they go to sleep or whether they sleep through the night, you MUST read this book. I assure you, you won't regret making the investment.
JenR312 More than 1 year ago
I purchased this book mostly based on reader reviews and I was not disappointed! It was near impossible to get my five month old son to fall asleep (for bedtime OR a nap) with out a very long process of rocking/walking/bouncing/swaying/crying/you name it. And he would almost always wake up (usually crying) the moment I placed him in his crib and I had to start all over again. It was exhausting and stressful and I came to dread nap times and bed time. That is until I discovered this book. In just four short days my son was falling asleep more quickly and more peacefully than ever before. Our nap routine has been cut from 20 plus minutes to about five minutes! Bedtime is actually enjoyable. Tonight, day 7, I put him in his crib after just a few minutes of cuddles after reading and he woke up. I was actually able to lull him back to sleep with a song in about one minute. I'm still in shock. I'm able to sit down and write this review because my son is sleeping peacefully right now, thanks to this book. If you are looking for help with a sleep issue please try this book. I don't know why anyone would even attempt to let their child cry it out if there is an alternative like this. In the past seven days my son hasn't shed one single tear due to a sleep related issue. It works! Plain and simple.
SandipUK More than 1 year ago
I came across this book after trying the cry it out (CIO) technique with my son when he was only 7 months old and it was like a pray. That may sound exaggertated but if you are feeling as desperate as I was to make your baby sleep and just couldnt bear them crying out for you while you ignored them, this is for you!! That was the most painful experience I have ever had during parenting. If you feel the same, this book is for you. When I first bought this book, I was very very tired, I was very upset (feeling like a failed mum), I was stressed and NOT in need of another book full of ideas for "textbook babies". Sound familar? My son is an individual and not passive, he is stubborn and strong willed and many books make babies sound like easily trainable things but that just isnt true. They have personalities (even as newborns) and have like and dislikes that are all individual to them. Reading this book was like sitting down with a good friend who suggested lots of different ideas which YOU choose. The ideas are really well thought about. They are not the obvious "how can I fill another page in my book" type of ideas. They were really useful, clever ideas used by parents which could be easily adapted or cut out completely depending on the personality of your baby. You decide and you get to try them all out in a structured easy to follow way. The book is written very clearly and its easy to just navigate to the page you need. You dont need to sit and read every single page to work out what the author wants to tell you however, I found that despite being sooooooo tired, I wanted to read it all (especially the first few chapters) because it truely felt like a friend was sitting in front of me and telling me about her experiences and really really relating to my desperation. I felt like I sat there reading the book and its ideas and saying "wow, that could really work...or, noo,I dont think that would for us because of xyz but yeah actually if I try that instead it may" I definitely give this book 5/5. Excellent! Full of really good ideas! Easy to read! Puts things into perpective! Most of all, slowly but surely, bedtimes become a very very enjoyable experience again, full of love. I used to walk away from my sons cot feeling upset at seeing him upset, feel tired and worn down. I now walk away from my sons cot each evening, brimming over with how much I love him and reflecting on how lovely our time together that day has been. This is all thanks to Elizabeth Pantley!
snk616 More than 1 year ago
This book has made a huge difference in our home and the way we sleep. My son is 7 months old and was waking 7 to 8 times a night still. The only way I could get him back to sleep was through breastfeeding - EVERY time he woke up. He began sleeping in my bed because I couldn't stay awake and feed him that many times a night and still get up and function for work in the morning. One weekend, I read The No-Cry Sleep Solution. I was pleased to find in the book there were solutions for all kinds of families; families that breastfed or bottlefed, co-slept or didn't, and anything in between. This book offered SO MUCH advice and support. It provided lots of things you could do to help your baby sleep better without making one drastic change that is tough on you and baby. Ms. Pantley's book offers a way to help your little one sleep without using cry it out methods. We started on a Monday with, what I considered, small changes and by Thursday we were seeing results. My son went from waking 7 to 8 times a night to only waking 2 times!! It was amazing. If your little one is having trouble going to sleep, staying a sleep, or getting back to sleep - read this book. It will help you.
kvs3230 More than 1 year ago
I asked around other mums and professionals and searched the internet high and low for strategies to help get my baby to sleep and I kept getting the answer as 'let him cry himself to sleep', 'shut the door to the nursery and turn up the tv' and other such notions to this effect. I was adament that this was NOT the way I was going to treat the baby I had craved for such a long time and along came a link to the book 'THE NO CRY SLEEP SOLUTION'. I immediately bought the kindle version and read it all almost in one go! Pantley's views and strategies for gently teaching your child to sleep on their own spoke to my heart. The book is easy to read and gives ideas in an easy to follow manner covering all possible scenarios. The personal anecdotes from herself and her 'test-mums' make you realise there are other mums pacing the halls late into the night all dreaming of sleep and determined to not leave their baby's to fall asleep crying also. This was a revelation to me as all I had been told was to leave them to cry themsleves to sleep so that they would 'learn the lesson'. When other mums now ask me how I get my baby to sleep I mention this book and they also have the same response as I have done... 'No tears? Then that's for me!' Elizabeth Pantley is my new herione!
RachelGadbois More than 1 year ago
I got this book about 3 weeks ago. What interested me was the no-cry part, because my 4 month-old daughter was sleeping quite well but cried a lot before falling sleep. I had been told that it was normal, that some babies need to cry themselves to sleep. Well I couldn't stand it anymore! I loved the book and applied lots of the tips in it. Now not only does my daughter fall asleep without crying, but she takes longer naps and wonderful 12 hours nights!! I wasn't expecting that, but I am sooo happy :) I think everyone can benefit from it, since it is very flexible. Thank you Elizabeth!
Happy_MomKW More than 1 year ago
I am a first time mother to a wonderful four month old baby girl. I found the No Cry series through the Dr Sears website and I have to say that it has changed our lives! We were in a cycle of rocking our baby to sleep every night up until 12 weeks of age. We co-slept up to that point and I was exhausted! I got to that point of not being able to do it for one more night and I read the No Cry Sleep Solution in a couple of hours. I put it into motion that same night. I used the Phases that the book suggests and realized after two nights that we were already making HUGE progress! After a week, I was able to put baby in her crib 90% awake and have her fall asleep on her own. She is still a pacifier fan but I will use the Gentle Removal Plan when the time comes to go there - for now, she uses it when she first falls asleep at night and then rarely after that. She only wakes once a night and generally refuses the paci at that time - she is starting to sleep right through on occasion as well! Last night, I put her in the crib fully awake and crossed my fingers - she did it!! A little whimpering but she was out in less than 10 minutes! The best part of all of this - NO CRYING! I really struggled with the whole idea of letting her CIO at any age - despite numerous people telling me that it was the only way to teach her to sleep on her own... so sad that so many babies are subjected to such a cruel thing. These books understand that all families and all babies are different. If you are looking for a one size fits all magic arrow, this will not be the book for you, and I would venture a guess that there is no such thing. If you are looking for a series of adaptable tools that you can use to guide your baby gently and lovingly with no crying, this is the book to buy! There are many different ways to deal with a plethora of challenges that babies throw at us when it comes to sleeping (or not!) and Elizabeth hasn't missed anything. Most importantly, this book gives you the courage to stick with whatever course of action you choose - never claiming that it will be easy, but always reminding you that a babies development is a process and like all processes, it takes time. If you are considering this book, chances are that you have spent a great deal of time not sleeping, so spending a little bit more time with a goal in sight isn't a huge change! My success happened very quickly! We went from rocking our baby to sleep to her falling asleep on her own when fully awake within a week. That was over a month ago :) Honestly, NO CRYING!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book may have worked for an easy baby but not mine. This book talked about a lot of nothing. Biggest waste of money
NikkiCA More than 1 year ago
I used this approach on my son and it worked after a looooong while. With my 2nd baby, I used the Ferber method and his approach was more effective and taught my daughter to be a better sleeper. I feel like this book delayed my son's ability to sleep through the night and self soothe. I regret using this method bc I think it was more of a crutch and delayed giving him the skills he needed to be a good sleeper.
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Your baby will sleep, but it is not a quick fix. I was desperate and wanted a no cry it out solution. This was just what I needed. It helped me set realistic expectations for my child's sleep habits and provided us with steps to get us in the right direction. I recommend this book to all of my friends. It was so helpful. It was a bit difficult in the beginning as I was so desperate for sleep, but I read it all in about a day. There are a lot of different ideas that you can pick from to suite your family best. Everyone I know who has read this has had great success with this. I repeat this was NOT a quick fix for us, but with time we made little improvements and finally got our child sleeping through the night on her own. I hope you find this book as helpful as I have.   
MarianaD More than 1 year ago
I read this book when I was exhausted of waking up over 6 times a night, now I know I should have read it before! It is great how most of the situations the author described fit perfectly into my own and described my frustration. As you read through you start having hope that your baby's sleep and your own will improve and amazingly in a couple of months my baby sleeps through the night and takes long peaceful naps. The best thing, I never let her cry it out. It is directed to all mothers; working or not, breastfeeding or bottle feeding, babies who sleep in cribs and babies who sleep with their parents, newborns or toddlers, teething, sick...everyone! I am so happy to have this book which I will apply since day one with my other babies. Highly recommended and a must have to every family who want a nice sleep at night and happy faces in the morning. There are tons of practical and useful ideas from which you can choose those that best fit your situation and they are suggested in the most heartfelt way. Parenting is a beautiful stage but sometimes you cannot enjoy it as much if you feel exhausted, this is the perfect guide to being a joyful well rested mother and have a happy well rested baby so you can enjoy your time together.   
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Reading this has given me hope for a sleepless night without having to cry it out. Helpful tips that I keep going back to when any bump in the road shows up.
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gasson_s More than 1 year ago
An absolute god send. I was almost at my wits end and was recommended this book. Not only does it give so many helpful suggestions, it makes you feel good about yourself as a parent. After months and months of no sleep and beginning to feel down in myself, Elizabeths words gave me the hope and strength I needed. After a few days of doing some changes to my sons sleep routine there was a HUGE difference! After only a few weeks he was going off to sleep by himself…. no tears!!  If you want to feel great again and have your little one sleeping happily and soundly then you need this book! 
MomOfTWINSEG More than 1 year ago
Are you sleepy? Is your child keeping difficult to get to sleep, or do they wake up all night long? Buy this book. You won't regret it. I bought this book in desperation when my twins just wouldn't sleep. They battled ear infections and colds, so I knew that was part of the problem. But I also knew that I would have to change my ways. I couldn't stand to hear them cry, and when they got really cranked up, it just fed the other twin's anxiety. I knew Cry It Out methods just wouldn't work for my family. I read Elizabeth Pantley's book (a very quick read, by the way), and found the information in it to be affirming of my own parenting style. I also found a plan I could clearly follow. In fact, I had instictually followed her plan with my daughter (now 4 and an EXCELLENT sleeper). I just needed to follow it with my twins. If you are struggling with your child's sleep and don't feel that the Cry It Out methods will work for your family, this book can help you. Do not expect overnight results, but you will sleep if you follow Ms. Pantley's plan. Good luck and zzzz's to you!
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flying_midwife More than 1 year ago
I stumbled upon the “No-Cry sleep solution for babies” like many other parents when my sleep depravation started to have bad consequences on my daily mood and my ability to gently care for my child. My wife and myself knew, that we wanted a loving sleep teaching for our kids and that we didn’t want them to fall asleep while crying. When we found Elizabeth Pantley’s book, it was like a breath of fresh air in our daily exhausted routine. This book was exactly what we had been looking for. A book that understands the troubles in which parents can be when their kids don’t sleep, a book where there is no judgment for parental behaviour once sleep lacks, a book that acknowledges that every child is unique and different and that his needs to fall asleep vary. This book also emphasizes on the fact that sleep education is a fundamental part of children’s education and that it should be considered as such. Hence it means that this takes time, consistency and efforts and that no short-term solution can bring success to the child. The various proposed solutions are like a toolbox where the parents can choose which tool best applies to their child. Some of them will work, some of them won’t, but Elizabeth Pantley, who uses comforting words to the parents, understands all this. This gave us a lot of assertiveness to approach our children’s sleep. With the second baby, I thought I could use the techniques I learned with the first one. Well I was mistaking! I pulled the book out of its shelf and it became my daily book for several weeks, again! Like I said, every child is different and needs different approaches. One thing is always the same: Every child needs his parents to learn how to sleep on his own and a sane sleep is the key for a peaceful life. If you aren’t a sleep expert and want to bring to your child this peaceful start in life without letting him cry, this book will definitely help you reach that goal !
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