No More Faking Fine: Ending the Pretending

No More Faking Fine: Ending the Pretending


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ISBN-13: 9780310344759
Publisher: Zondervan
Publication date: 01/10/2017
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 224,897
Product dimensions: 8.20(w) x 5.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Esther Fleece is an international speaker and writer on Millennials and faith, leadership, and family, recognized among Christianity Today’s “Top 50 Women Shaping the Church and Culture” and CNN’s “Five Women in Religion to Watch.” As founder and CEO of L&L Consulting, she works to connect influential individuals and organizations to their mutual benefit. You can follow Esther’s global adventures on Twitter @EstherFleece and at

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No More Faking Fine: Ending the Pretending 4.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is an incredible book that really made me realize how much I've hidden the hurtful things in my life and the way it has held me hostage from having meaningful relationships with my family, friends, and most importantly, God. I thank God for Esther's book as a resource to help me in my Christian walk.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book helped me to see lamenting as God sees it
Flutterbella More than 1 year ago
Copied from Amazon: If you’ve ever been given empty clichés during challenging times, you know how painful it can feel to be misunderstood by well-meaning people. Far too often, it seems the response we get to our hurt and disappointment is to suck it up, or pray it away. But Scripture reveals a God who meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be. No More Faking Fine is your invitation to get gut-level honest with God through the life-giving language of lament. Lament, a practice woven throughout Scripture, is a prayer that God never ignores, never silences, and never wastes. As author Esther Fleece says, “Lament is the unexpected pathway to true intimacy with God, and with those around us.” Esther learned this the hard way, by believing she could shut down painful emotions that haunted her from a broken past she tried to forget on her fast track to success. But in silencing her pain, she robbed herself of the opportunity to be healed. Maybe you’ve done the same.No More Faking Fine is your permission to lament—to give voice to the hurt, frustration, and disappointment you’ve kept inside and silenced for too long. Drawing from careful biblical study and hard-won insight, Esther reveals how to use God’s own language to draw closer to Him as He leads us through any darkness into His marvelous light. No More Faking Fine is a book on the importance of letting God into your struggles. It talks about the need to get honest with God about the things that are troubling you. "God meets us where we are, and not where we pretend to be" Esther Fleece talks about how we need to stop just pushing through the pain and instead take the time to grieve it with God. I loved this quote by D.A. Carson "There is no attempt in scripture to whitewash the anguish of God's people when they undergo suffering. They argue with God, they complain to God, they weep before God. Theirs is not a faith that leads to dry-eyed stoicism, but to a faith so robust it wrestles with God." I have been "Fine" forever, even when I wasn't. Even in the midst of suicidal thoughts, I felt like I had to maintain the appearance of being "Fine". Lately, friends tease me because I question God so often. I found this book to be a much-needed breath of fresh air as it gives us permission to get honest with God however that may look. In that honesty, we invite God into the pain so that He can heal it completely and totally. *Received a copy from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review
hermosa_mariposa484 More than 1 year ago
No More Faking Fine is a book that makes it okay not to be okay! Esther beautifully writes and shares her story of coming to a place of lament. Knowing that God WANTS our laments is something the church doesn't readily teach. I felt that this book was bold yet comforting to know that God doesn't shy away from our mess. He meets us right where we are. Where we are weak, He is strong!
Faith76 More than 1 year ago
This is a beautiful, vulnerable book coming from an author who does not claim to have it all figured out, but claims to be in the healing process. Esther Fleece shares her heartbreaking journey from an abusive childhood into an adulthood where God has led her to process the pain in His presence. We all have hurts in our lives, some of us more severe than others. Actually LOOKING at these hurts and surrendering them before God is where true healing and freedom can begin. Thank you, Esther Fleece, for writing this book, a road map of sorts, to guide us in our own pathway to God through lamenting our hurt. Esther doesn't leave us stuck in our pain, but models a method (explicitly based on scripture) in which to place these hurts before God. She releases us from guilt and shame over how long our process may be taking, and guides her readers right back to the healing presence of Jesus. I highly recommend this book to anyone processing through hurts in her life.
ecclecticnurse More than 1 year ago
We have all been told to "suck it up" or "fake it till you make it" at some point in our lives. Even if we have tried to process thru hurt and grief, people still send the judgmental looks saying "shouldn't you be over this by now". This book is definitely the must read of 2017. In it Esther gives us permission to grieve and lament. Bad things happen and life sometimes sucks and it is ok and even biblical to say that it does. In the days of the Bible, people ripped their clothes and covered themselves in ashes to show their hurt. Today we are being forced to hide it all behind a facade of perfectionism and the "I'm fine" catch phrase. When we are able to admit the hurt, feel the pain, and go thru the process, God enters our laments and walks with us. Esther shows us that "God's grace meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be" and "The Almighty sees our wounds as entry points to do his healing work". This book is life giving and can help any one who has ever been hurt.
MelissaGH More than 1 year ago
An amazing book that brought out emotions in me that I had long buried. Author Esther Fleece shows how keeping our true emotions hidden can cause turmoil and sadness in our life. By acknowledging our situation and feelings, we can truly lament and begin the journey of living life the way God has planned for us. This is a heartfelt, true story written with love and devotion to God. This is a book that gives HOPE. I received a copy of this book from the author and this is my honest, personal opinion.
joelcallen More than 1 year ago
Esther has put into words what many of us are thinking. "Am I the only one?" "Where is God in my pain?" A clarion call for the church to be a safe place for those who are hurting.
HeidiHG More than 1 year ago
This book has been very eye opening for me, and also helped me to feel like I'm not alone in needing/wanting time to process emotions. It's written from a biblical perspective, and I recommend it for those who either want some advice in lamenting, or those who desire to be more empathetic to the suffering of others. It's honestly just a good read for anyone-the author's story, while not ordinary, is one that is relatable and encouraging.