A veteran pastor and marriage counselor calls couples to discover how the glory of God can infuse and transform their marriages.
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About the Author
Tim Savage(PhD, University of Cambridge; ThM, Dallas Theological Seminary) is a pastor, author, international conference speaker, and founding council member of the Gospel Coalition. He has served in churches in Arizona, Great Britain, and Texas. He is married to Lesli and they have two adult sons, Matthew and Jonathan. Tim is the author ofNo Ordinary Marriage.
Table of Contents
Part 1 Glory without Limits
1 Introduction: A Binding Glory 15
2 Something beyond Ourselves 19
3 Cruciform Love 31
4 Transformation 43
Part 2 Love within Marriage
5 A Wife's Spirit 59
6 A Husband's Love 73
7 Becoming One Flesh 91
Part 3 Climbing Always Upward
8 Fusing Bodies 105
9 In God's Church 121
10 Neither Odds nor Ends 135
11 Single-Heartedness 147
12 Conclusion: An Intensifying Glory 161
General Index 179
Scripture Index 181
What People are Saying About This
“No Ordinary Marriage is an extraordinary book. What makes this work stand out in an overcrowded marketplace of ‘how to’ books is its compelling vision of marriage for the glory of God. I know of few books on marriage that combine elegant writing, sound doctrine, clear illustrations, and practical advice in equal measure. This is a book on marriage made in heaven. No one, or couple, who reads this book will look at marriage in an ordinary way again.”
Kevin J. Vanhoozer, Research Professor of Systematic Theology, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School
“This is no ordinary book on marriage. Dr. Tim Savage clears away the rubble and shows you the treasure that can make any marriage rich: a life lived for the glory of God. Embrace the message of this book and it will transform your marriage, your family, and your entire life.”
Colin S. Smith, Senior Pastor, The Orchard, Arlington Heights, Illinois
“Being a speaker and writer on marriage, I have read dozens of books on marriage, and No Ordinary Marriage is by far the best. Dr. Tim Savage moves his readers beyond a manual of do's and don'ts into the realm of 'being' in a marriage for the glory of God. A must read for one and all.”
Naomi Rhode, Certified Speaking Professional; Former President, National Speakers Association; recipient, Council of Peers Award for Excellence, Speaker Hall of Fame; author, The Gift of Family
“No Ordinary Marriage explains how a marriage is intended to glorify God. Dr. Tim Savage writes not in a spirit of condemnation, but rather of encouragement as he paints a picture of what marriage is really meant to be. In reading this book, Sherylmy wife of nearly 36 yearsand I found ourselves challenged and inspired to rely on God as the core of our marriage. We pray that the Lord will inspire Tim to write his next bookHow To Survive Hormonal Teenagers!”
Alice Cooper, Rock Star
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
As an older, single woman, I opened the cover of Tim Savage's new book with curiosity mixed with great expectation. And I was in no way disappointed! Once again his astute understanding of God's word and the glorious truths it contains, coupled with his pastor's heart and deep desire for us to be all we are meant to be, resounds from its pages. In this case his focus is on the marriage relationship, with explanation of and encouragement to what it is intended to be . . . together for the glory of God. What is extraordinary about all that he has to say, and says so well as he fleshes out the foundational biblical truth of "living for the glory of God," is that this truth not only serves to undergird, unify, and uplift the relationship of marriage (as so beautifully described in this book) but by its profound nature goes beyond and encourages the "living for the glory of God" in all of life, in general and in relationship specifically. Impacted deeply on so many levels by this book (including chapter 11 which speaks to those not married at the present time), I wish there were 10 stars available here to give to it! Single-hearted
What could be more practical than understanding "why"? In an era where we are looking for quick fixes and a bullet-list of "how to's" for our marriages, Tim Savage takes the reader's eyes and elevates them to look upon both the Designer and the purposes in His design. Savage explains that when we are exposed to the self-emptying love of Jesus Christ, we are transformed as individuals. Likewise, when that same self-emptying love flows through two people in marriage, it transforms them and the marriage into a reflection of God's very image. We have read and used many books on marriage with young couples. This book is exceptional in its assertion and explanation that the necessary foundation for a God-glorifying and completely fulfilling marriage is found in the self-giving love of Christ.
Both the practical implications and the theological insights about marriaage in Savage's book are excellent. Self-giving-love in marriage rather than self-centeredness is the key to “No Ordinary Marriage” by Dr. Tim Savage. Savage is a Cambridge University scholar who understands the life of St. Paul both academically and spiritually. As our 21st Century scholars in public policy debate why marriage is under attack with high divorce rates, increasing cohabitation, increases in child poverty produced by broken marriages, we all seek new solutions to the institutional marriage challenge in our own time. Savage offers us an option that is spiritually-centered around the Christian idea of self-giving love. Imagine what your marriage could be if it were “In Christ”… where every time you were challenged in your marriage you turned to grace (undeserved love) and the righteousness represented by Christ on the cross as your best option for marital renewal. Would your daily life in marriage be revived? Imagine that if your marriage were centered on selfish-self-grasping behavior and you turned away from this behavior to a renewal strategy that was in God’s image. God created us in his image, this calls for each of us to “active engagement” rather than “passive subordination” in our marriages, according to Savage and the New Testament. (John 1:14). Read the book carefully and see if it applies to your marrage expeerience. Professor M. Gene Aldridge
I have read other books about marriage, and have heard many seminars and sermons on the topic. While I have gleaned some helpful strategies from these, I almost always come away feeling overwhelmed and discouraged because the focus is generally on all the things I'm not doing that I should be, or the things I am doing that I shouldn't. In other words, the impetus for change has been on my own efforts, and the result has been frustration because of the ultimate failure of these to produce real, lasting change. Tim Savage refreshingly points in another direction - to the God who alone can empower our marriages through His self-giving love on the cross. This is not a "to-do" list or "five steps to a transformed marriage." Savage calls us to the higher, harder work of imitating Christ's self-giving love in the context of marriage with the goal of magnifying the God who created it. In the process, marriages WILL be transformed. C.S. Lewis said, "Aim at heaven and you get earth thrown in; aim at earth and you get neither" - Tim Savage encourages us to aim in our marriages at the glory of God and get renewed relationships "thrown in." A simple concept, but a profound one.
My husband and I recently celebrated our 53rd anniversary. When we were engaged, he wrote me this note while we were sitting at church: "We come together as one with the strength and power of two". After reading Tim Savage's outstanding book, I think we should add "who share God's glory" to the end of my husband's statement. In today's society of many divorces and "live together" relationships, this book calls us to a higher place in our marriage relationships. Savage tells us, "Nothing catapults husbands and wives to the upper reaches of matrimony like God's glory. Tethered to divine glory there is no limit to the heights married couples can climb." One cannot read this book without looking at Christ and wanting to know more about His Glory. It is a book, not only for newlyweds, but marriages of all ages. Jeanie Collier
Was your wedding day (or at least the one you dream about in your future) constitute the peak of your marital expectations? Have you ever thought that, at least maritally speaking, "it's all down hill from here?" Tim Savage does in "No Ordinary Marriage" what other marriage authors don't, he beautifully draws our attention to the purpose of marriage in the first place...from the perspective of the one who created the institution. Savage asks the difficult questions about marriage some of us may never have considered asking...namely "What's the point?" Is Marriage for your own self-fulfillment, is it to share your love with another person? Both of those targets are ever moving as both our needs/wants and our spouse's needs/wants will change and move. We need to focus our attention on God's own intention for marriage...His glory! The great Zig Ziglar made the famous quote “If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.” Marriage is no different, without a goal, a purpose we will either all fail, or decide to aim at a target that's easier to hit, but much, much, much less fulfilling and satisfying. One other note, Tim Savage is an avid reader of both the modern and the ancient. His writing has the character of those who have carefully weighed each word prior to pressing quill to paper. To illustrate my observation, I have taken the liberty of writing out a quote that Savage makes at the beginning of his book. (his writing is in the "quotes"): "The wedding, which is intended to inaugurate the first of many steps along the path of marital bliss, often represents the high point of the marriage relationship." Should not marriage instead be "...a base camp from which lovers make an ascent on a peak so grand it takes a lifetime to discover its many wonders...Husbands and wives must exercise vigilance. They must be committed to work for this prize. In particular, they must cling tenaciously to the one piece of equipment that guarantees a safe ascent to the marital summit. They must fasten themselves to the rope that binds them together as one. And what is that rope? It is the glory of God!"
Marriages are failing miserably. Even marriages that don't end in divorce are often floundering in stagnant, meaningless relationships. Savage wrote a book that takes the spouses to a level of marriage that is both God based and self-less. I just couldn't get into this book. Savage brought out some really great points. But it just seemed to be very repetitious and overdone for me. If you enjoy reading about relationships than this book might interest you enough to glean out the occasional gems. It's lots of reading without any practical advice and this is what I usually look for in a relationship book. It wasn't a bad book. It was just too much writing without enough how-to for me. I received this book free of charge from Crossways in exchange for my honest review.