Not a Blueprint; It's the Shoeprints That Matter: A Journey Through Toxic Relationships

Not a Blueprint; It's the Shoeprints That Matter: A Journey Through Toxic Relationships

by Nina Norstrom

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ISBN-13: 9781939371485
Publisher: WriteLife Publishing
Publication date: 04/07/2016
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 190
File size: 1 MB

About the Author

Nina Norstrom grew up in a small suburban town outside Chicago, Illinois. She received her bachelor's degree from Concordia University. Her writing journey began in 1992 but it wasn't until 2010 that she was able to publish the first edition of this story. This current and second edition signifies a transitional milestone in Nina's recovery from toxic relationships to nontoxicity. She is a passionate champion for many noteworthy causes, including those battling toxic relationships. When not reading or writing, Nina can be found mountain climbing, taking long walks in a park or alongside a bgeach, sitting at a concert, supporting an author at a book event, traveling, and jumping in to exert her energy by doing volunteer work at a variety of venues.

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Not a Blueprint; It's the Shoeprints That Matter: A Journey Through Toxic Relationships 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 16 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A quick read; 177 pages to be exact and I read it in a day's time. Was it a worth while read, I'll let you be the judge? However, I will say it was a bittersweet reminder, yet comforting fact that none are exempt from life's challenges. Definitely made reevaluate some of my relationships. You should give it a go and read it.
PiaPaulaBlue53 More than 1 year ago
This Author touched my heart with her story. While reading this book, I felt that I was there by her side, watching Nina to grow up from "daddy's girl" to a teenager going on a date, and than to becoming a mother. Her writing style kept me alert, and I wanted to finish the book on one sitting to find out how things would turn out. As a parent, I could so relate to her pain, and heart ache of a mother trying to provide a healthy home environment for her child. Yet we can not protect our children from disappointments, evil people, illnesses, and life in general! However, as parents we are expected to be strong. Like the Author, we all are just human with our own goals, needs and desires. I admire the fact, that Nina did not settle for less. She did her best under the circumstances she was given. She tried to move on and succeeded. This book helped me in my own healing process from a very difficult mother daughter relationship. I was able to let my self to grief and to let go of my own anger feelings toward life. Anyone who has ever loved and lost should read this book. Absolutely a great story. Nina, thank you for sharing your journey.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The choices we make take us down the path that becomes our life journey. Nina points out we don't always understand why we make the choices we do or understand the outcomes that prevail. The choices others make intersect with our own and leave us often floundering and bewildered -even devastated. Our biggest choice is about the choices. Will we learn to live joyously in them despite bitterness and hardship? To emerge triumphant through the death of a child and the loss of others we love is the story here and the reason I love this book.
Richie1 More than 1 year ago
Growing up with an abusive father was the beginning of toxic relationships for Nina. Her relationship with Craig, a married man produced a child, China. Throughout her life, Nina stepped from one bad relationship to another, but one thing alway ran true, her love for China. At the tender age of sixteen, China developed cancer, Hodgkin Lymphoma. Despite her illness and its treatments, China made it through high school and graduated on June 6, 1989. The cancer wouldn't give up and eventually China needed a bone marrow transplant. After a brief respite, China was hospitalized and finally succumbed to her illness on November 3, 1992. Nina was working and never made it to the hospital in time to be with China in her last moments.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A great read, very inspirational, uplifting and encouraging story. A must read for all, highly recommend!!
ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Mamta Madhavan for Readers' Favorite Not A Blueprint: It's The Shoes That Matter - A Journey Through Toxic Relationships by Nina Norstrom is an insightful read on toxic relationships - relationships we share with people, alcohol, animals, diseases, drugs, religion, environment, and our own emotions. These relationships can destroy us on all levels - physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual - yet at the same time can be a learning experience and will help in one growing to be a better human being. Toxicity follows us on every path and we can easily distinguish between a toxic and a nontoxic relationship. As readers take the journey with the author, they realize that honesty, compassion, strength, and courage are the main requirements for anyone to entertain healthy relationships in their lives. The book is motivational and uplifting and will channel the minds of readers towards positive thinking. The author's story, her experiences, the obstacles she faced, her strength, and courage will inspire readers to become bold and handle their lives with confidence. The book also helps readers understand that we all have to walk our own paths, we all have our personal journeys, and we all have the strength to overcome toxicity if we look at it with the right attitude and perspective. The author's words are honest and reassuring and will teach everyone to be grateful for the people who are helpful and supportive in their lives. The author's narration focuses on her strengths rather than her pains and setbacks, which makes the book a thought-provoking and encouraging read.
Angie Dokos More than 1 year ago
What a journey! I have cried my eyes out. I can't imagine overcoming some of the obstacles she faced. I'm afraid I could never be as strong as she is. I can only hope that I could forgive as she did. I am thankful for therapy and support groups that helped her get to where she's at today. I am most thankful for God helping her even when it didn't seem like it. This book is very touching. I'm glad she shared her Journey with us through this book. We can all learn so much from this.
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Arlene More than 1 year ago
This is the second book that I have read by Author, Nina Norstrom. I felt as though I was watching a sitcom. After reading each chapter, I was left with the feeling of wanting to see what the next toxic adventure would be. This piece of material is a wonderful self-help aid. I can definitely see Ms. Nina's material as a stage play.
Vanessa Fortenberry More than 1 year ago
I laughed and I cried, as I read the pages of “Not a Blue Print: It’s the Shoe Prints that Matter.” Nina Norstrom, the author, penned this creative nonfiction as if it were a drama from a popular novel. Nina’s life story weaved engaging characters in and out; some loveable and some unlikable (but, that’s real life, isn’t it?) as if it were yesterday that the events unfolded in her life. Nina painted a vivid picture of her life’s toxic journey. In addition, the “Insight” following each chapter provided life lessons that I, without a doubt, related to. By all means, you will want to pick-up this book, which I found difficult to put down some nights. You’ll be compelled to read this fast-paced page turner until you have read the last sentence! Vanessa Fortenberry, Author of “Mama, I Want to See God”
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great Book!!!!!! Must read!!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I gladly followed Nina Norstrom’s shoe prints to find out how one copes with the most adverse and often toxic situations in life. The first thing that struck me was the voice of the narrator, strong, yet gentle, humble at times. There is great skill in conjuring up the images and sounds of a family living in a little house in a small, suburban village south of Chicago. I could see the mom, the dad, the siblings. I could hear their voices, even. And so the narrator draws you into the life of a young woman who survives the struggles of life, by hook and by crook, using her wits, her smarts, her tenacity, and certainly her faith. I have to admit, there were times when I thought the toxic struggles were too much to bear, and yet, there she was, coming through the darkest battles of them all, stronger, wiser, and willing to impart her wisdom and give hope to the most despondent among us. Thank you for writing this story that had to be told. It will bring clarity and peace of mind to many!
D_Donovan More than 1 year ago
Not a Blueprint: It’s the Shoe Prints that Matter A Journey Through Toxic Relationships achieves what few other books offer, surveying the elements of toxic relationships and people in life which defines 'toxic' actions and tells how to handle them. That it does this with acknowledgement to the hand of God and a nod to the idea that "…that God gives us strong shoes to walk those paths." Makes for a discussion particularly recommended for spiritual self-help readers. The author knows her subject: toxic relationships at home, at work, and in life nearly destroyed her. She learned from these relationships: "My ultimate lesson in my journey has been that healthy relationships require honesty, compassion, strength, and courage. Given the right mechanisms, these traits make maneuvering through life less stormy." Her life story unfolds in these pages, from a religious upbringing and the importance of God in her life to her job, family, and friendships. Christian guilt, shame, sin, emotional attachments and parenting are explored with insights into toxic communications, individuals, and - yes - attractions to and between toxic personalities. Not a Blueprint thus serves a dual purpose, providing Nina Norstrom's autobiography and charting her life's course through toxicity and onto a more positive, supportive path. What's the difference between a 'blueprint' that guides one and the 'shoe print' mentioned in the title? Quite simply, this is a focus on the lasting effects ("shoe prints") which lessons learned from experience leaves on one's psyche and life. The author is quite clear about the difference and God's role in this: "…my belief is that God gives us strong shoes to walk those paths. If we are willing, we can readily learn to distinguish whether relationships are toxic or nontoxic." Followers of her footsteps should ideally be spiritually-minded readers who will appreciate the incorporation of God's purposes into discussions of the characteristics that constitute toxic relationships and how to handle or avoid them. Readers with such a background will appreciate the consistent injections of faith into life experiences (a regular thread in the stories), and will appreciate the life lessons Norstrom shares along the way which serve to support that faith: "So, when a person comes into your life, don’t question their existence—just embrace their presence. Take it from the Holy Father: they are there for a reason, and we must embrace that moment." Each lesson provides enlightenment, making for an appealing combination of psychological and spiritual inspection recommended for self-help and Christian readers alike.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a post from Sweetpie57. Here goes . . . The author of "Not A Blue Print" truly expressed the soul of an individual who needed to let go of a truth that haunt's one's heart. This novel allows the readers to feel her pain not pity, but her strength. I appreciate that we are in a place where one can share life's journey and that caring is a treasure when we know we are not alone.
JD712 More than 1 year ago
Excellent, heartfelt and well written book. Highly recommended
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
when asked to review this book i must admit i was a little put off by the blurb and was not sure it would be the right fit for me but an author friend of mine had read it and told me it was a sad but great story and that the woman behind it had a rough life and so i jumped in (thank you John Davis ) such a heartbreaking story Nina seems to go through it all :( a toxic father, toxic relationships moving from pilllar to post and a heartbreaking and truly sad journey for not only Nina but her daughter China, my heart was heavy reading this book and i would not wish any of it on a worst enemy i won't say too much as i feel i would give away a lot so i will say this if you are considering reading this book jump in with both feet you won't be dissapointed There is no bookboyfriend to be had in this story, it is simply not one for that but one that is real so i leave out the would he be my book boyfriend