Not the Boss of Us: Putting Overwhelmed in Its Place in a Do-All, Be-All World

Not the Boss of Us: Putting Overwhelmed in Its Place in a Do-All, Be-All World

by Kay Wills Wyma


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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780800734770
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 08/21/2018
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 448,810
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Kay Wills Wyma, former White House staffer, international banker, and entrepreneur, is a mom of five who writes about seeing beyond life's pressures in order to navigate life and thrive together. She is the author of two books and blogs at the popular Kay also hosts a video podcast with friends called the SaySomething Show. She has been featured on TODAY, CNN, and Focus on the Family, and has contributed to the NYT Motherlode, DMagazine, Thriving Families, and more. Kay lives in Dallas, Texas, with her family. Connect with her at

Table of Contents

Introduction 9

1 The Beginning of the End of Overwhelmed as We Knew It 17

2 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Performance Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by Purpose 40

3 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Appearance Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by Beauty 56

4 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Image Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by Image Bearing 72

5 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Formulaic Right-Way Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by Perfect Imperfection 94

6 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Group Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by Belonging 111

7 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Do-All Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by the Sacred in the Ordinary 124

8 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Product Pressures, Be Overwhelmed by the Process 136

9 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Circumstances, Be Overwhelmed by Looking Up 151

10 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Bitterness, Be Overwhelmed by Forgiveness 168

11 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Present Sufferings, Be Overwhelmed by an Eternal Perspective 184

12 Rather Than Be Overwhelmed by Any Trappings of This World, Be Overwhelmed by Hope 197

Acknowledgments 213

Notes 215

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Not the Boss of Us: Putting Overwhelmed in Its Place in a Do-All, Be-All World 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 7 reviews.
Nblean 6 months ago
_Not the Boss of Us: Putting Overwhelmed in its Place_, by Kay Wills Wyma, came at the perfect time—during fall, the busiest season of the year for me when I run around feeling frazzled, with a twitching eye for weeks on end because I have so much going on with working six days a week. Thankfully, from the book’s introduction, Wyma immediately invites her reader to take the pressure (and mask) OFF as she gets real about her messy carpool van and the McDonald’s wrapper floating out as she drops the kids off at school. She then wastes no time diving into the simple truth as she refocuses the reader on God’s purpose rather than the perfectionist demands surrounding us. With increasing relief as I read page after page, I felt granted permission to shift my mindset. Maybe this means a little messy is okay. Perhaps we can let the chips fall where they may. Maybe we can take shortcuts to “good enough,” not Pinterest perfection. Rather than constantly DOING, we can remember God's design for rest and reliance on Him as we force ourselves to stop, breathe, and enjoy what He’s placed right in front of us. Yes, _Not the Boss of Us_ reminds me who the true “boss” is and guides me back to leaning on God for what’s important.
DebbieC 8 months ago
As a female entrepreneur, wife and mother and author myself I often find myself in overwhelm. There is so much pressure to be and do all. Even when we are managing to juggle multiple things without dropping the balls there is an ever present underlying whisper to our souls that we are not enough. The thoughts of not being good enough, thin enough, talented enough, far enough along in our careers or our education seem to plague women young and old from one part of the globe to the other. Kay calls it out and reminds us we are listening to the wrong voice. Who made Overwhelm the boss of us anyway? Perhaps WE did by allowing it to be the reigning force in our lives. But we can also change overwhelm's power by re-framing it. Instead of being overwhelmed by negative pressures of performance,appearance and image, we can be overwhelmed by positive things like purpose,beauty and Image bearing.These are just a few of the chapters in her book that struck a chord with me. Learning to listen to the voice of truth in our hearts and not the voice of comparison. Read this book and reflect its message to your kids and the world around you. For it is not only adults who are feeling these pressures but teens who are falling into despair and destructive behaviors, not the least of which was the teen friends suicide that started this whole conversation rolling. We need these tools to re-frame our perception of our current situation whatever that may be in this moment. Make room for this book on your shelf or e-reader. It is filled with a wisdom, humor and a needed shift in perspective for a society trapped in overwhelm.
Anonymous 8 months ago
I picked up this book at a time in my life when I was feeling very overwhelmed. I wanted to read this book to help me through the season of overwhelm. I am typically a person who can feel overwhelmed pretty easy so instead of being controlled by it, I want to learn to control it. I was expecting this book to give me some practical tips to help me deal with it. While Kay does give us some tips, she instead brings a totally different perspective to overwhelmed. It was a pleasant surprise because instead of getting rid overwhelm we can keep it and change it to a “good overwhelmed” instead! She takes ten negative concepts that overwhelm us and replaces them with positive concepts that can instead overwhelm us. For example one chapter is: Rather that be overwhelmed by image pressures, be overwhelmed by image bearing. She is really open and honest and weaves many personal stories into her points. I really loved this book because instead of teaching us to shove away the feelings of overwhelmed she replaces the bad with good. I would recommend this to anyone who wants to embrace a different way to approach the overwhelmed feelings that come with life!
JudyinHuntsvilleAL 9 months ago
I was intrigued by this title since that is something I say all the time when I give suggestions or opinions or whatever - I'm not the boss of you -- Kay Wills Wyma does a fantastic job breaking down all the things in life that can overwhelm us - She lists the thing that overwhelms and offers a replacement as she takes us along on conversations with her children. For example - instead of being overwhelmed with appearance - be overwhelmed by the beauty that is in us [and all around us!] Instead of being overwhelmed by bitterness - be overwhelmed by forgiveness [one of my favorite chapters!] She states that while Truth and hope can be hard to see in the midst of being overwhelmed - we can find them... and she gives us ways to do just that! I'll admit that underlined so [so] many things - but one of the most important is, " You don't have to wake up every morning and perform in order to be loved..." and, " Not everything about any of us is perfect. That really is the beauty of it." And this - "Real life is better. Always." She helps us realize that all the pressure put upon us [by others, by technology, by social media, BY US] are really not the boss of us - "they don't get to crowd out today. Today has merit and can lived and enjoyed." She shows us how to find sacred in the ordinary and live our lives within God's truth. Get your copy today - you will be glad you did!
MelissaGH 9 months ago
Fantastic, encouraging, uplifting and inspiring. This book shows us how to take the feelings of being overwhelmed and use them for good. Relying on God instead of self will help us. Each of us experience times when life seems too much this or too much that. How we handle those times and feelings can help us or hurt us. Also, we are able to help others or unfortunately, hurt others when we are overwhelmed. Each page is full of amazing wisdom. I received this book from the author and publisher. This is my own personal honest opinion. No review was required.
summer_no9 9 months ago
This book had a inspiring, encouraging writing and compelling to read with also had a great storytelling from Kay Wyma experiences and learning by using to warm your heart, she will show us how to live with the world around that was changing all the time by being the person who you are. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “I received complimentary a copy of this book from Revell Reads for this review”.
sesquius 10 months ago
I have to admit. When I first started this book, in the prologue section, I groaned. Oh great, another book that is focused on the mom. No, I don’t have any kids and I realize just how overwhelming it can be to have children, but to not have children you are equally overwhelmed by the amount of things you add to your life in replacement of them. However, I digress with my explanation there. My reaction was that I was not expecting much other than how to handle kids. I was wrong. The book talks about the many things that we have placed in our lives where we feel like we have gotten out of control with. It feels like we can’t manage our lives, much less dress properly in the morning. The energy is gone. But, we learn from this book that every single one of us are overwhelmed with something in our lives. It’s become the norm. What she tries to get across to us is that that feeling shouldn’t take control of us. We should instead, control it and live our lives fulfilled. The first chapter starts off with a bang and I believe sets the theme pretty much for the rest of the book. The author does a great job in writing, in relating to the reader. What intended on being a chapter reading ended up being much more. What I found enjoyable was the small sections intermingled amongst the pages, where it had snippets of sharing pieces. One example is the following: “To be loved but no known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a to like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us. ~Tim Keller”. That’s pretty cool. I want to print that out and leave it on my computer at work to remind me of that every day. I certainly want to be liberated from pretense! I see this book as one that I will be keeping close by, sharing with those close to me knowing that it will be returned. This book was provided to be by Revell Publishing and was under no obligation to leave a review. All opinions are my own.