NOW WHAT?: A Guide for Men Starting Over in Life After Infidelity, Breakup and Divorce

NOW WHAT?: A Guide for Men Starting Over in Life After Infidelity, Breakup and Divorce

by DSO

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This book was written for heterosexual men that have endured a failed long-term relationship with a woman and are having a difficult time picking up the pieces and starting over in life. This book will appeal especially to those men who have discovered that their wife committed infidelity. For these men, life as they know it was completely turned upside down. I understand the confusion, the despair, and the anger that you are going through. I went through it all, too. You need a little help, a little boost, to help you understand it all and to get you up and over the wall. That’s what this book is for.

Maybe you’ve never been married. Maybe you just had a long-term girlfriend that suddenly said, "I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you" and you’re trying to understand what happened and how to successfully move forward in life. For you, consider this book a lesson in both why your breakup may have happened AND how you can avoid a ton of trouble with the women in your future (yes, there WILL be more women). Learn from all of us who have been there and done that. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, as they say.

In 2015, I started the website at as a way for me to write and talk about my experiences and my personal philosophies about relationships as I move forward in life. I continue to learn as I go. Creating the website and my regular articles were very much a form of therapy for me.

There continues to be a growing demand for the material on my site. At the time of this writing, is at or near the top of search results for popular terms like “dead bedrooms”, “signs my wife cheated on me”, and “wife wants open marriage”.  Thousands of men are online looking for answers they never thought they would need. Some men don’t like what they read on my site. It cuts a little too close to the bone for them. It’s not the warm and fuzzy solution they were looking for. Yet, most men that contact me find the information valuable and eye-opening. The site gives them the extra oomph they need to come to terms with their situation and to begin the process of starting over. 

Are you one of these men? You are not alone. Not by a longshot. Welcome to the club. "NOW WHAT?" was written for you.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780578569161
Publisher: Dad Starting Over
Publication date: 08/27/2019
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 301
File size: 151 KB

Table of Contents

Who This Book is For
My Story

Chapter 1: Why Did This Happen?

Loss of Respect
She Becomes Your Mother
Other Women Lost Interest in You, and You Lost Interest in Other Women
Borderline Personality Disorder
Nice Guy Syndrome
Putting Women on a Pedestal
Weakness and Vulnerability Are Not a Male Virtue
The Mysterious Female Sex Drive
The Open Marriage Phenomenon
Who Cares?

Chapter 2: Real Love
What is Real Love
Every Man Thinks He Can Win the Relationship Lottery
You Don’t NEED Real Love
The Times They Are-a-Changin’
The Great Irony of Love

Chapter 3: Succeeding in Relationships  

The Ugly Truth of the Modern-Day Dating Game
Don’t Make Dating and Marriage Your Life’s Mission
Never be Ashamed to be the MHNNM
Lover vs. Provider
The Elusive Lover+Provider Man
The Career Gal
No Lover+Provider Guys Available? Time for Plan B
A Lot of Men Are Only Comfortable in the Provider Role
What’s in Store for the Provider in a Relationship
Be More Like a Woman
Social Anxiety
The Secret to Picking Up Women
Women Test Men Constantly
The Delicate Balancing Game
Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze?


Chapter 4: Keep Busy       

Choosing Your Mission
Be in Control

Chapter 5: Mandatory Mission #1 - Your Body 


You Are What You Eat
What Diet is Right for You?
Get Thee to a Doctor
Testosterone Replacement Therapy
Working Out
Trying to Lose Fat? Be Patient

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