In the humorous, heartfelt new novel by the author of The Next Thing on My List, a personal organizer must somehow convince a reclusive artist to give up her hoarding ways and let go of the stuff she’s hung onto for decades.
In the humorous, heartfelt new novel by the author of The Next Thing on My List, a personal organizer must somehow convince a reclusive artist to give up her hoarding ways and let go of the stuff she’s hung on to for decades.
Lucy Bloom is broke, freshly dumped by her boyfriend, and forced to sell her house to send her nineteen-year-old son to drug rehab. Although she’s lost it all, she’s determined to start over. So when she’s offered a high-paying gig helping clear the clutter from the home of reclusive and eccentric painter Marva Meier Rios, Lucy grabs it. Armed with the organizing expertise she gained while writing her book, Things Are Not People, and fueled by a burning desire to get her life back on track, Lucy rolls up her sleeves to take on the mess that fills every room of Marva’s huge home. Lucy soon learns that the real challenge may be taking on Marva, who seems to love the objects in her home too much to let go of any of them.
While trying to stay on course toward a strict deadline—and with an ex-boyfriend back in the picture, a new romance on the scene, and her son’s rehab not going as planned—Lucy discovers that Marva isn’t just hoarding, she is also hiding a big secret. The two form an unlikely bond, as each learns from the other that there are those things in life we keep, those we need to let go—but it’s not always easy to know the difference.
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Reading Group Guide
This reading group guide for Objects of My Affection includes an introduction, discussion questions, ideas for enhancing your book club, and a Q&A with author JIll Smolinski. The suggested questions are intended to help your reading group find new and interesting angles and topics for your discussion. We hope that these ideas will enrich your conversation and increase your enjoyment of the book.
Lucy Bloom is broke, been dumped by her boyfriend, and had to sell her house to send her son to drug rehab. Although she’s lost it all, she’s determined to start over. So when she’s offered a high-paying gig helping clear the clutter from the home of reclusive and eccentric painter Marva Meier Rios, Lucy grabs it. Armed with the organizing expertise she gained while writing her book, Things Are Not People, and fueled by a burning desire to get her life back on track, Lucy rolls up her sleeves to take on the mess that fills every room of Marva’s home. Lucy soon learns that the real challenge may be taking on Marva, who seems to love the objects in her home too much to let go of them.
Topics & Questions for Discussion
1. Lucy and Marva’s relationship gets off to a rocky start, and Lucy initially finds her new employer both intimidating and crass. In what ways did Lucy’s view of Marva change throughout the course of the novel? What were some of the turning points in their relationship? What was the most important one?
2. How do you think Marva’s hoarding tendencies developed? Do you believe she truly intended to clear out her house? Why now?
3. Lucy admits she initially refused to grasp the severity of her son’s drug problems. Why do you think that is?
4. Compare Marva and Lucy as mothers. Are they as different as they appear on the surface? What scares Lucy about Will’s relationship to Marva, and how does that affect Lucy’s approach to dealing with Ash?
5. When discussing how her house burned down years ago with Fillippe still in it, Marva states: “He always did have a flair for the dramatic.” Do you think Fillippe purposely set the fire? How did this event influence Marva’s future? Was it still realistic that she keep her promise to him?
6. Daniel and Lucy’s quest to rescue Grimm’s Fairy Tales from the storage warehouse is a rare screwball comedy moment for the otherwise serious Lucy. Is there anything you’d go to such lengths to rescue?
7. At the beginning of the novel, Lucy has sacrificed her home and virtually all of her belongings to send Ash to rehab. How did you feel when Lucy finds out Ash has checked himself out of the facility? Did you agree with her actions that followed? Would you have done anything differently if you were in Lucy’s position?
8. Lucy comes close to selling her cherished car, but at the last minute changes her mind, saying that it’s the idea of the car and how it makes her feel that is difficult to let go. Do you think Lucy’s refusal to sell her car is justified? Do you think that an object’s importance is related to the feeling that a person associates with the object, rather than the object itself? What is such an object in your life?
9. At the end of the book Marva is painting over her most famous painting, “Woman Freshly Tossed.” She says she is “giving it a second life.” Were you surprised by her actions? Do you think she did the right thing?
10. Lucy may be the organizing expert, but it soon becomes clear both of these women have something to teach the other. Other than how to de-clutter her home, what did Marva ultimately learn from Lucy? And were you surprised by what Lucy learned from Marva?
Enhance Your Book Club
1. As a book group, agree to go through your closet, garage, or other cluttered space and get rid of something you no longer use, wear, or need, or bring an object that you’ve decided to get rid of. Discuss how letting go of these objects makes you feel.
2. Marva is an acclaimed artist. Paint or draw a self-portrait, or bring a picture of a work of art that depicts something going on in your life at the moment. Share it with your book group.
3. Marva had a list of things she wanted to accomplish before she wanted to commit suicide. Create your own “bucket list” and share it with your book group.
A Conversation with Jill Smolinski
In Objects of My Affection, Marva is credited for starting the neo-expressionism movement. Was there a specific artist or person in history whom she was modeled after?
Marva wasn’t modeled after a particular person but, rather, her character was inspired by the spirit of the neo-expression movement, which came into vogue right around the time Marva would have been breaking onto the art scene. Because neo-expressionism shattered so many of the “rules” about composition and style in paintings that had been popular in the 1970s, it seemed to perfectly represent how strong-willed and unconventional I imagined Marva to be.
Do you share any personality traits or similarities with the main character, Lucy? Does anything in her life parallel your own?
She’s far more of a neat freak than I am, but she and I definitely share an aversion to clutter. I’m the person that friends call when they’re cleaning out their closets or spare rooms—I can be merciless about letting go of things (and making other people do it…just ask my mom). A couple years ago, like Lucy, I actually gave away or sold pretty much everything I owned that didn’t fit into my car or a closet-sized storage unit. I was moving cross-country and didn’t want to deal with a moving van, so I decided to use it as an opportunity to downsize. Also like Lucy, I thought it would be easy—that I had no attachment to things—but that wasn’t the case, and my choices didn’t always make sense. I could let go of entire rooms of furniture without batting an eye, only to agonize over whether to keep or toss something as small as a plastic souvenir pen.
Lucy loves the freeing feeling of driving her convertible Mustang. Do you have any possessions that make you feel similarly liberated, or that you especially love?
My ex-husband used to joke that if there was a house fire, I’d crawl to freedom only once I’d strapped my armoire to my back. I loved that thing—in part because it looked like the one Julie Andrews had in The Sound of Music. Plus it was my first piece of “real” furniture (that is, it didn’t need to be assembled). When I was in the midst of my downsizing, I finally realized that it was horribly out of style and included it with what I donated to charity. Love must have made me blind, because it was in such shabby condition that I had to beg the Goodwill truck drivers to take it once they came to pick it up.
Did you invent the N-Three checklist, and is it a formula you employ in your own life? How do you stay organized?
Although I made up the N-Three Checklist, it is a variation on what’s often advised by organizational experts—to evaluate whether to keep or toss an item based on whether you truly need and use it. Personally, I live more by the “a place for everything and everything in its place” dictum, and that’s mostly because if I don’t, I’m a total slob. If there’s not an easily accessible hanger waiting in the closet for me to hang my sweater on, that sweater is going to wind up on the floor (and half the time does anyway).
Hoarding has recently become a frequently profiled subject on reality TV. What additional research did you do to find out more about hoarding?
All I did was informally put out word to friends that I wanted to talk to a hoarder, and I was astounded how many people knew of someone that struggled with too much clutter. Talking to these people (who shared their stories on promise of anonymity) helped me to better understand their attachment to things, but I still wanted to walk through a hoarded home. I had my chance—quite by accident—when I agreed to dog-sit for an acquaintance at the home of her grandmother, who had recently passed away. While the house wasn’t as bad as Marva’s, I still had to shimmy sideways to get down the hallway, and there were entire rooms off-limits due to clutter. I spent the entirety of my three days there mentally throwing things away. It’s hard for me to comprehend actually living that way day in and day out, but it was a good exercise in understanding Lucy’s struggles to live amongst Marva’s stuff.
What books were on your bedside table while you were writing Objects of My Affection?
As much as I’m a bookworm, I can’t read when I’m writing—it distracts me too much from the story I’m trying to create. The moment I sent my finished manuscript to my editor, I couldn’t wait to dive into my “to read” pile of books, which by that point was stacked about a mile high.
You have written magazine articles, nonfiction, short stories, and novels. What are some of the challenges unique to novel writing? Can you explain your novel writing process?
My biggest challenge in writing novels is coming up with what I want to write about. I can spend months tossing ideas around in my head, waiting for one to “stick.” You’d think I’d know by now that it doesn’t work that way for me—I actually have to sit down and start writing to see if an idea works or not. Once I finally do give in and park myself at the computer, I eventually wind my way to my story. At that point, you can hardly tear me away from my writing it’s so fun to be in this other world I’ve created—far more so than the cooking or cleaning I need to be doing in my real life.
In writing this book, what did you learn about the hardships of drug abuse and addiction? What kinds of research did you do in preparation?
I had a chance to talk with some local drug counselors, and I sat in with a group of parents who had teenage and adult children with drug problems. As a parent, I wasn’t surprised to see how they’d be willing to do anything to help their kids—and they were—but before meeting them, I hadn’t thought about how frustrating it must be to not know what to do. The world doesn’t stop because your son or daughter is into drugs. You still have to report to work and pay the bills and take care of the other family members. Their struggles to save their addicted children while still going ahead with their lives was a huge influence on how I depicted Lucy’s relationship with Ash.
You blogged about writing your own Life List around the time you wrote your last novel, The Next Thing on My List. Did this experiment inspire Marva’s bucket list?
When I did my life list, I didn’t know anyone else who had one. Since my book has come out, I’ve had a chance to talk to so many people doing lists. The term “bucket list” has become well known enough that I could imagine Marva having one—or at least having a few things she wanted to do before she died.
On your website, www.jillsmolinski.com, you have a special section for reading groups. Are you in a book club? Can you share an experience of when you visited a book club to discuss one of your novels?
Yes, I’m in a book club that’s been together 22 years, and we are possibly the worst one ever—there’s always far more wine drinking than book discussing happening at our meetings. That’s why I so enjoy calling in to other book clubs that actually talk about books! I’ve called literally hundreds of them. Recently a reader gave me a life list challenge to try Skyping, so I do that now, too—which is great because I can see everyone I’m talking with, (and not so great because there goes my trick of making these calls in my pajamas). I was also able to join in on a book club that was meeting at a coffee shop near where I live. When I got there, the members all surprised me by wearing sexy shoes, in honor of one of the items on my character’s “to do” list.
What message do you hope readers will take from Objects of My Affection?
That life is not so much about the stuff you have (or don’t have) but about knowing what it is you truly value.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Have you ever seen an episode of Hoarders or one of those organizational shows and wonder what really goes on behind the scenes? This book takes you in behind the scenes of a once famous artist and along with the main character, Lucy, we find out how a person can find themselves buried by their belongings. The main plot with a few sub plots were more than entertaining, enough for me to have to fight sleep to finish the book! Lucy was adorable and quirky. I loved her inability to "practice what you preach". She could help Marva remove belongings and find value in people, yet Lucy was struggling through life with blinders on to many of her own personal situations. Even with a few twists that I wish had gone a different way, the writing was simple and sweet which I always find to be enjoyable. A book that I would pass onto a variety of readers, although a chick lit, skeptics to the genre would adore this sweet story about a woman finding value in herself.
Turning the page on "Objects of My Affection", was a plesant read. This is a sweet story and one that kept me interested from page one until the end. Jill Smolinski's novel brings to the forfront how hoarding wears on relationships and reasons for their desire to put so much empahsis on "things" instead of people. A few other topics discussed in this book; suicide, tough love, healing and homelessness. Looking for a easy, fast read? Check it out!
You cant help but be invested in these characters and feel their struggles and triumphs. An easy flow and wonderfully interwoven story of two women both dealing with overcoming something huge-one a hoarder, the other giving up everything to save her son. They have a conflicted relationship at first but watching them slowly buy into one another is heartwarming.A book i couldnt put down!
Reading the back cover you wonder if this would be too quirky a topic to which you might sacrifice precious reading hours. Having elderly family members in the past with "issues" prompted my initial interest, but I was very glad I read it. This is not only about hoarding, or clutter collectors, or reorganizing. Everyone could find something that strikes a familiar chord in this book. The character development is wonderful, the flow of the scenes easy, the moral applicable to life in general. I enjoyed it, and recommend it.
Objects of My Affections is author Jill Smolinski's third novel. I always enjoy looking at covers first, imagining what the story inside will be. Moving on and lots of baggage? And I wasn't far off....... Lucy Bloom (loved the name) has seriously downsized - in fact she's sold just about everything she owned, including her house. Why? Well, her son Ash is an addict and she finally got him to go to a rehab, but needed the money to finance it. Lucy had mild success with her initial book Things Are Not People - an organizational and de-cluttering guide. That book has gotten her an interview with Will Meier. He's the son of reclusive (and difficult) artist Marva Meier Rios and there is a deadline for clearing out the clutter in the house. Lucy lands the job, but what she finds is more than simple clutter - Marva's home could be featured on one of those television shows about hoarding. There's a deadline to meet and Marva isn't going to make it easy - she needs to look at each and every item before a decision is made. The cover of Objects of My Affection immediately brings chick lit to mind. And yes it is, but the story is much more than that. There needs to a be another genre heading - Chick Lit with Heart, Chick Lit with More? Something along those lines. For while Smolinski's book is light and breezy and does include the requisite hunky guy and missed meanings and connections, there's more to the story. Jill handles some serious situations and topics with thoughtfulness and candor. Hoarding of course, which usually involves an underlying catalyst not dealt with. And the opposite - Lucy herself is able to let things go with no problem. I thought that Ash's drug use and Lucy's struggle to deal with it was done very well - it read as quite real. Relationships of all sorts are explored with an emphasis on mothers and sons. I really enjoyed Lucy's ex boyfriend Daniel. His sense of humour, his caring, giving nature and his honesty made him one of my favourite characters. Nelson, the care nurse was also quite funny. And for reasons I'm not quite sure of, I actually found myself enjoying Marva over Lucy. Marva's crotchety ways actually endeared her to me! But, that's not to say I wasn't cheering for Lucy to succeed. As one of her characters says " it's clear that everything here at one time was worth something to you but that doesn't mean it has to be forever. They're holding you back from the life you could have. Let it go." Smolinski has crafted a warm, funny, sweet read that touches on the question what do we keep in our lives and what do we need to let go? Food for thought.... Recommended summer reading - tuck this one in your beach bag for 2012.
“ The Art of Keep, Throw, Donate, Organize—Including Life” Thirty-nine yr. old single Mom, Lucy Bloom would give up everything for her beloved Son, Ash. In fact, that’s just what she did. She gave away almost all of her possessions, leaving the barest of necessities, and, even sold her house in order to pay for Ash’s stay in a Florida rehab facility. With no where to go, she bunks in with her Best Friend, Heather and her husband, sleeping on an inflatable mattress with their pre-school daughter Little does Lucy realize how much the book she has written, “Things are Not People” will help to change her life and her perception of it—especially when she is hired by snarky, staid, and serious Will Meier, to secretly organize his Mother’s house. Imagine her surprise, when she discovers his Mother is none other than the famous (and crusty) artist, Marva Meier Rios AND there is a mysterious deadline of May 15th! This seems like an impossible task, especially when Marva’s and Lucy’s worlds collide! Plus, to complicate things further, ex-boyfriend, Daniel wanders back into the picture, adding to the upheaval already created by Lucy’s ungrateful, drug addict son. Ms. Smolinski ‘s story is intense and moving from beginning to end, with some bits of humor throughout. You’ll follow Lucy through discouragement, anger, and denial, and keep cheering this brave soul on, as she has her “Little Engine That Could” attitude in high gear, There is much to be learned from this book—Lucy is right, things are not people. I, myself have equated the two for years. I applaud the Author for such dynamic characters and heart-tugging story line. You don’t want to miss this one—so make space on your bulging bookshelf for it—you won’t be disappointed! Nancy Narma
This review is from: Objects of My Affection: A Novel (Hardcover) This quirky story intertwines the lives of two totally different women. Young Lucy has lost so much, and is pretty much down on her luck when she takes on a job as a cleaner for Marva. Marva is an ecclectic older lady who is a hoarder, and Lucy finds that organizing this home will take a huge effort. As their personalities blend, we are taken into the mind of Marva, who has chosen to keep clutter in an effort to hang onto her past life. The hoarding of clutter is representative of a much deeper issue, and the reader discovers this about Marva. I found this a quick and interesting read, with great character and plot development. Since many of the members of my book club have some hoarding issues, this will be a great book to discuss and relate to! We may even declutter our own lives!! --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Very good book! Surprised how many major life topics this novel addressed so smoothly: suicide, drug addiction, hoarding, dating, parental relationships. While none these were in depth or on a serious note the book caused me to think in terms of at least one person I know or knew who suffered as a result of one of topics. The book was a fast read and enjoyable.
Great story line, great charactors...all of them. Would highly reccommend...great 'chick' book.