Going through the motions of getting married isn't nearly as challenging as getting to know each other on a deeper level before the ceremony, says Psychologist Jim Bierman. His book raises all the controversial, yet crucial issues for pre-weds. He guides engaged couples through an enlightening process of self-examination and us-examination, helping them gain a greater understanding of their partner, of the person they are becoming as part of a couple, and of the marriage they are about to create. Written for pre-weds, their families, close friends, and the professionals who counsel them, this thought-provoking text explores thinking about-and talking about-delicate issues from love, communication, friendship, and sex, to in-law relations, money matters and prenuptial agreements, and the ways in which children will change a relationship. When couples meet the challenge of deeply understanding each other and what they expect out of marriage, their chances of enjoying a satisfied, intimate, and stable married life are greatly enhanced. By the end of this book, pre-weds will have grown from the altered state of being in love to being of sound mind to marry, says Bierman.
One of the last things couples planning a wedding usually want to do is talk about the realities of becoming husband and wife. Most would rather discuss wedding cake flavors and honeymoon plans than their views on children and finances, their personal insecurities and potential struggles, says Bierman, adding that even counselors and clergy usually do not tread into the area of these issues that can be deep, upsetting, and disagreement-inspiring. But better that before marriage than afterward. This book raises all the controversial yet crucial issues for pre-weds. And that will help couples wed with far more understanding of themselves and each other, with more foresight and sound thinking, so that they'll not only be thrilled to be marrying the one they have chosen, but they'll know that their decision is a wise one.
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About the Author
Jim Bierman is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with 12 years experience treating children, adults, couples and families. In private practice now in Rancho Mirage, California, Bierman has also practiced in institutional and community settings in Seattle, London, Los Angeles, and rural northern California. Bierman is a Certified Parent Evaluator who evaluates parents in high-conflict custody cases and makes recommendations to the court for residential placement of children. He received his Ph.D. from the California Graduate Institute, and his postdoctoral training at the University of Washington School of Medicine Parent Evaluation Training Program.
What People are Saying About This
"Jim Bierman's book is packed with enlightening and practical advice for any couple planning for marriage. He shows them how to deal directly with every important aspect of their relationship ahead of time and in a sensitive, loving way. I highly recommend it both to anyone planning to be married and to professionals who work with couples."
"All couples prepare for their wedding but few for their marriage. For those couples who want to insure their marriage endures, this book is an excellent and essential guide. I recommend it without reservation."
"Of Sound Mind to Marry offers a well-informed overview of the journey into marriage. Not just another book filled with advice, Bierman's understanding of the psychological nuances of premarital and marriage relationships is presented in a clear and useful format. Add this one to your premarital reading list. A fresh treatment of the journey into marriage; Of Sound Mind to Marry is a sophisticated psychological look at forming a life-long relationship. Bierman is not afraid to tackle the difficult topics such as prenuptial agreements and deciding not to marry."
"I haven't seen anything quite like this before. In my work I have several hundred clients, most of whom do some pre-marital counseling. If couples just read this book, they wouldn't need anything else. That's how good the book is. A great deal of thought that someone should give to getting married is really in asking the right questions. And those questions are clearly spelled out."