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A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality

A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality

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by Joseph Nicolosi, Linda Ames Nicolosi

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Homosexuality: is it learned, biological or both?

The answer to this question deeply concerns parents. They want to know how they can best raise their children. A common belief today is that nothing can be done to foster the development of healthy heterosexual orientation in children. But the clinical experience and professional research of Dr. Nicolosi and


Homosexuality: is it learned, biological or both?

The answer to this question deeply concerns parents. They want to know how they can best raise their children. A common belief today is that nothing can be done to foster the development of healthy heterosexual orientation in children. But the clinical experience and professional research of Dr. Nicolosi and others indicates otherwise.

In this groundbreaking book Joseph and Linda Ames Nicolosi uncover the most significant factors that contribute to a child's healthy sense of self as male or female. Listening to moving recollections from ex-homosexual men and women who describe what was missing in their own childhoods, the Nicolosis provide clear insight for identifying potential developmental roadblocks and give practical advice to parents for helping their children securely identify with their gender.

Replete with personal stories from parents, children and ex-homosexual strugglers, A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality offers compassion and hope for all those parents who seek to lay a foundation for a healthy heterosexual identity in their children.

Editorial Reviews

George A. Rekers
"Every concerned parent will benefit from this practical parenting advice on how to help a child develop a secure gender identity that leads to a normal heterosexual orientation in adulthood. Joseph Nicolosi is an internationally recognized professional expert on therapies that promote normal heterosexual adjustment. He is known for his long-standing leadership in a key professional association that applies scientific findings to psychosexual adjustment. But his breadth of technical scientific knowledge is combined with years of extensive clinical experience helping everyday people. This combination has enabled the authors to explain psychological research findings to parents in a very practical way. Their book provides clear guidance on what parents can do to promote their child's sexual adjustment."
Charles W. Socarides
"Utilizing an eclectic form of psychotherapy based on psychoanalytic principles, Nicolosi has shown how homosexual impulses and enactments can be modified or, in some instances, removed. This gives hope to parents of gender-disturbed children who have previously succumbed to despair. There are numerous clinical vignettes throughout the book presented in a highly readable and scientific manner. I most heartily recommend it."
Doctor - James Dobson
"To get to [the issue of sexual-identity disorder and what can be done to help], we will turn to the very best resource for parents and teachers I have found. It is provided in an outstanding book entitled A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, written by clinical psychologist Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D. Nicolosi is, I believe, the foremost authority on the prevention and treatment of homosexuality today. His book offers practical advice and a clear-eyed perspective on the antecedents of homosexuality. I wish every parent would read it, especially those who have reason to be concerned about their sons. Its purpose is not to condemn but to educate and encourage moms and dads."
Toby B. Bieber
In his latest book, A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, based on his many years of specialization, Joseph Nicolosi has translated the vocabulary of research science into plain English, easily understandable to the lay public. Though the book is primarily oriented to the needs of dads and moms concerned about a child's gender development, it is also a guide for good parenting in general. In well-described, clear accounts of his clinical sessions and discussions of the theories he does and does not support, Nicolosi has contributed a most valuable addition to the sexuality literature. More important, it should prove invaluable to all those concerned with child rearing, development and education."
A. Dean Byrd
"As a clinical professor of psychiatry, I heartily endorse the Nicolosis' effort at the prevention of homosexuality. Parents should be aware of the warning signs and the possibility of modifying their child's gender identity, thus making the choice, should they desire it, to maximize the child's likelihood of growing up heterosexual. Making this choice is not 'homophobic.' It is a commonsense approach to parenting that fits the value systems of many families. In writing this book, the authors have broken important ground."
Natalie Shainess
"Joseph and Linda Ames Nicolosi have written a wonderful, accurate book on homosexuality and the significance of the parental role. Human beings who are born with one type of sexual equipment do not attempt to change unless there are serious problems in their early experience, especially in relation to parents. I believe it is imperative that at the very first signs of deviance parents take themselves to a psychiatrist knowledgeable about this problem and make every effort to become aware of what may be damaging in their relationships with the child in question. I conclude with a 'bravo.' "
Benjamin Kaufman
"With such sagacity acquired over years and thousands of hours of working with gender-identity disorders, Joseph Nicolosi utilizes acumen with theory and practicality to present a most readable book explicit in its purpose in the prevention of gender-identity disorders. I commend it as a primer in infant and child rearing for all parents concerned with the appropriate sexual orientation of their growing children."
John Paulk
"Joseph Nicolosi's principles on the prevention of homosexuality would benefit any parent of a young son to raise him with a healthy sense of gender identity. I wish my parents had had this material when I was in my formative years. The practical knowledge and timeless—but often unknown—principles would have saved me from years of heartache when, as an adult, I began the tough road to overcome my homosexual struggle. Joseph and Linda Nicolosi's book should be required reading for all education classes on child development."
Don Schmierer
"A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality meets a great need of the hour for parents. It offers insights into the parent-child conflicts and personality mismatches that can set the stage for same-sex attractions. Nicolosi's use of parents' diaries in describing successes, struggles and even failure provides down-to-earth, practical advice for addressing prevention at the root level. The understanding that can be gained from this book will go a very long way toward eliminating pain and frustration in families while defining the healthy nurturing that is so essential to reinforcing every child's unique personality and sexual identity."
Johanna Krout Tabin
"This book meets a great need. It is sound scientifically, countering the abundant misinformation on the subject of homosexuality with which the public is currently inundated. What it provides that no parent can find in any library, however, is what to do when one's own child seems to be developing in a homosexual direction. Joseph Nicolosi draws upon many years of clinical experience to offer parents clear guidelines on evaluating and then reacting constructively to the situation. The authors' points are practical and down-to-earth but always respectful of parents in their struggle to help their children. I believe this book will become a classic in the literature that parents will consult far into the future. It may be an eye-opener to many in the mental health professions as well."
Paul C. Vitz
"The Nicolosis have written a groundbreaking book. The authors challenge the American Psychological Association, rightly, on their narrow, totalitarian attitude about homosexuality. The authors make an excellent case that a significant number of homosexuals develop their identity from defective parenting, and that many such homosexuals later wish to change their orientation. They also lay out useful strategies to help parents both prevent, and in some instances reverse, homosexual development. For parents concerned with this issue, their book is a must."
Lynn D. Wardle
"I am pleased to give my strong endorsement of the book A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality. Joseph Nicolosi is an experienced psychologist who is an expert in treatment of persons with gender-identity disorder, both children and youth, and also adults who seek to overcome unwanted feelings of same-sex attraction. He is the president of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, the leading national association of professional psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists devoted to providing professional help and treatment to individuals struggling with undesired same-sex attraction, gender-identity disorders and other homosexual behavioral issues. Thus highly respected by his peers, Nicolosi is eminently qualified to write this book. To help children and youth today cope with the tremendous stresses that create ambiguities and confusion regarding gender identity and sexual orientation, parents need to have more understanding of the process of gender development than earlier generations had. A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality by Joseph and Linda Nicolosi provides that kind of useful information for parents in the twenty-first century, not only for family and friends of children and adolescents who may be struggling with gender identity but also for lawmakers, policymakers, schoolteachers, lawyers and judges who need to understand the complex processes of gender-identity development that are challenged today as they have never been in the past. I highly recommend Nicolosi's extremely interesting and very readable guide."
Dr. James Dobson
"To get to [the issue of sexual-identity disorder and what can be done to help], we will turn to the very best resource for parents and teachers I have found. It is provided in an outstanding book entitled A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, written by clinical psychologist Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D. Nicolosi is, I believe, the foremost authority on the prevention and treatment of homosexuality today. His book offers practical advice and a clear-eyed perspective on the antecedents of homosexuality. I wish every parent would read it, especially those who have reason to be concerned about their sons. Its purpose is not to condemn but to educate and encourage moms and dads."

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Meet the Author

Joseph Nicolosi (Ph.D., psychology) is clinical director of the Thomas Aquinas Psychological Clinic and former president and cofounder of the National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH).

His other books include Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality (Aronson, 1991), Healing Homosexuality: Case Stories of Reparative Therapy (Aronson, 1993) and A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality (InterVarsity Press, 2002).

Nicolosi is the publications director for the National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH). She has partnered with her husband, Joseph Nicolosi, on his writing projects over the past twenty years.

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Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality 2.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 38 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This is the one book I would gladly burn! Who ever thought this up must have some serious issues. I've always been taught to accept people for who they are, and I plan on applying that to my children, not forcing them in to some pigeon hole of perfect.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is a must-have for those parents who have a child who displays gender confusion. It talks about how vital a father's role is in a childs life, and how a mother raise her child to be confident in their sexuality. Yes, this viewpoint is not popular in todays society. There are always those who are quick to shout down the anyone who authors a book that goes against popular culture. But if you need help giving your child confidence in their sexual orientation then this is the book for you! My son had a homosexual birth father, so society was already labeling him homosexual. This book helped me give him confidence and pride in being a boy. His grades are up, his confidence is up, and he is no longer confused about his sexuality. Thank you Dr. Nicolosi for having the guts to go against the grain!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Poor Joseph Nicolosi. Despite years of attempting to stigmatize homosexuality as a defect, he has failed utterly. The substance of his contentions rejected by the American Psychiatric Association, the American Psychological Association, the National Association of Social Workers and every other responsible clinical body in the USA, he has to continue placing his unfounded clincal opinions above the mental health of gay and lesbian kids and their parents. Avoid this book. It's like the Christian books of the 19th century that stigmatized left-handedness. Sadly, Nicolosi has lost sight of the difference between clinical thinking and theology. Just because he wishes it were so, it ain't. So, if you want to create a depressed and suicidal teen to satisfy your religious model of the world, this is the book for you.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book because I have family members and friends who struggle with homosexuality. This book was like reading a script from the lives of those I've spoken with about their experiences and situations. That convinced me that the research is valid. Based on his cases as a doctor, the author talks about the common themes in men's lives that factor into the struggle with gender identity and same-sex attraction. This book helped me see the complex nature of homosexuality and to approach with compassion those struggling with it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
if my kid told me that he or she was gay/lesbian/bi. i wouldnt shut them out from my life i would tell them that i love them no matter what . this book is saying that it is not ok to be the way you are . you can not change it. when people try to change there kid it only lets the kid know that the parents dont truely love them the way they are . that only leads to the kids resenting thier parents . you should be proud of them that they can come out to all the problems they will face in there life. they gay commumnity has come a long way from what it used to be but buy doing the things that are wrote in this book you are not advancing our society. im am very mad that people would actually write this book.
Guest More than 1 year ago
An outstanding book with very helpful information for adults who wish to give a balance to gender-confused youth.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a community health nurse, this book has had a profound impact on the way I care for those struggling with gender confusion. It provides answers to many of the questions I have had posed to me by parents in my area of service. The answers are all here. It is a book of hope. If only I could distribute it to every new parent in America!
Jasper-Apollo 4 months ago
Being gay or trans can not be prevented. Actions can be repressed, leading to self hate, shame, and suicide. If that's how you want to love your children, don't have kids.
Anonymous 4 months ago
Awful, honestly. I thought we were past pseudoscience. Apparently not.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Book for bigots.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It appears that all those who rated this book one star did not read the book, while all those who did read the book had a loved one struggling with homosexual attractions and they gave the book four or five stars. I have researched homosexuality for about eight years now and this book is informative and ground breaking. Before this book unwanted homosexuality in youth or gender identity issues in youth were generally treated through a psychoanalytic relationship between the therapist and the youth. The Nicolosi's moved the main therapeutic relationship to the therapist guiding the parent to help their child. It is a revolutionary concept built upon observation and common sense.
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Biggest piece of crap ever
LN11 More than 1 year ago
I feel sorry for all of the ridiculous people who are claiming this book saved their family. Did it really save your family, or did it just save the precious perception you want everyone to have of your family? Was this book good for you or your child? Just wait 10 years and see if you really changed your child's orientation or just made them deeply ashamed and closeted. I'm even more disturbed by doctors and nurses claiming this is a must-read. There is far too much research out there supporting that homosexuality is NOT a choice, just as heterosexuality isn't a choice. If it were, why on earth would anyone CHOOSE to be discriminated against by small-minded people? Get over your fears. At the very least, do it for your children.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It's disgusting this book is even sold.
ninisin More than 1 year ago
As we all (should) know, homosexuality is a trait given to us during development. It is something that cannot be helped. I have a hard time coming to terms with what this book states. Before you make the mistake of purchasing this product, think to yourself, did anything your parents did while raising YOU make you consider changing your orientation? For all the heterosexuals reading this, think to yourself how ridiculous a book titled "A Parent's Guide to Preventing Heterosexuality" would be. It works just the same for Homosexuals. They were indeed, and I quote, "Born This Way."
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I am saddened that such books are still being produced. This really does nothing but play on the fears of people who may otherwise learn to accept their children for who they are.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Ok, I know I'm just a 13 year old girl, and this book really shouldn't even matter to me, but it does Homophobes DISGUST me! I seriously don't understand whats so 'horrible' about someone who is homosexual. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. They are normal people, just like you and me, and they can do everything we can do. My best friend is lesbian, and people are really hard on her. It sucks because she is an AMAZING person, and everybody just judges her by the fact that she likes girls. When I have children, I would be supportive of them, if they decided they liked guys or girls, or even both There is nothing wrong with homosexuality. People who write stuff like this just disgust me...
Guest More than 1 year ago
It is books and the people who write them like this that set the gay rights movement back years upon years. Why in the world would anyone want to stop their kid from being who they are? If your kid is gay, you should be proud, not try to prevent it. Growing up gay and facing all the trials and tribulations that a gay has to face in their life is truly a blessing. it really gives a person a wholesome perspective on what kind of situations life presses you with. As a gay teenager, i am outraged. Nothing hurts a childs feelings more than knowing that your parents are trying to change who you are, and that they dont love you the way you are, the way god meant for you to be. Remember, god must be just as gay, and just as straight as everyone else, because he created every homosexual and every heterosexual in his image, and i dont think god would have meant me to be any other way than he made me.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Anyone who is seriously buying this book thinking that it will change their kid is only fooling themselves. It only exposes their own prejudices so it may appear for image's sake their family is normal just like their neighbors. You will only cause your son or daughter that much more pain having them know that, what they are not able to control or change you look down on them for. Only trying to make 'you the parents' happy and pass down your approval or acceptance that they drastically want. Being the parents that bought this book they only receive hate and banishment in return. Parents like you need to stop looking out for yourselves and how it may make you look to your friends, family and co workers and love your son or daughter as how they were born. If you really do love them you would be fine and accept them as they are, and not go out of your way to change. By brainwashing them! Im not saying that you have to throw a party when you find out about your son or daughter but instead say to them, your our son/daughter and we will always love you. Any type of coversion, thearpy or this book is saying the exact opposite.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is wonderful and should be required reading for any parent, especially parents of boys. It has changed my life and has helped me see what I can do to help my two boys, who struggle in this manner, become comfortable with who they are--BOYS. As I have followed the recommendations in the book, immense improvement has been seen in my boys, especially the younger one, they are happier, and they know they can beat their problems. This book is filled with hope. In reading some of the other reviews of this book, it is clear that many in the gay community (and even many of their parents) hope and pray that the homosexual problem is genetically caused and that they have no choice in the matter. Well of course they do, that relieves them of the responsibilities of their actions and makes them them feel so much better. As more and more people who struggle with homosexuality win their battle with the problem and therapists become better and better at treating it, the gay community will become more and more shrill in their objections. Well the truth will quietly and effectively move on. A Grateful Parent.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Only a ridiculous moron of an individual would ever find any value in this book. Any parent that actually loves their child would (hopefully) find that the only change this book could bring to your child is to make them depressed and suicidal. Hopefully, those of you who DO use this book as a weapon against your children (there is no other use for it, other than fuel for a bonfire, or such...toilet paper if you run out, perhaps) your children, while having to suffer you, will not have to suffer at their own hands. Hopefully, they will run away before that happens. The theories in this book are hateful, close-minded, and illogical. This book is absolute trash. And as for the community nurse, I thank god that she is not our community nurse, for I would not want my children growing up with a biggoted psychopath as a care taker. Well then. I think that covers everything.
Guest More than 1 year ago
No matter what your thoughts on homosexuality, this book is basically just good sound parenting advice. Children NEED both male and female role models in order to grow up emotionally secure. This book provides practical advice for doing just that.