The Parents We Mean to Be

The Parents We Mean to Be

by Richard Weissbourd
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The Parents We Mean to Be by Richard Weissbourd

Harvard psychologist RichardWeissbourd argues incisively that parents—not peers, not television—are the primary shapers of their children’s moral lives. And yet, it is parents’ lack of self-awareness and confused priorities that are dangerously undermining children’s development.
Through the author’s own original field research, including hundreds of rich, revealing conversations with children, parents, teachers, and coaches, a surprising picture emerges.
Parents’ intense focus on their children’s happiness is turning many children into self-involved, fragile conformists.The suddenly widespread desire of parents to be closer to their children—a heartening trend in many ways—often undercuts kids’morality.Our fixation with being great parents—and our need for our children to reflect that greatness—can actually make them feel ashamed for failing to measure up. Finally, parents’ interactions with coaches and teachers—and coaches’ and teachers’ interactions with children—are critical arenas for nurturing, or eroding, children’s moral lives.
Weissbourd’s ultimately compassionate message—based on compelling new research—is that the intense, crisis-filled, and profoundly joyous process of raising a child can be a powerful force for our own moral development.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780547525327
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
Publication date: 05/01/2009
Sold by: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 256
File size: 604 KB

About the Author

RICHARD WEISSBOURD is a child and family psychologist on the faculty of Harvard’s School of Education and Kennedy School of Government. His writing has appeared in the New York Times, Boston Globe, and Chicago Tribune. Weissbourd is the author of The Vulnerable Child, named by the American School Board Journal as one of the top ten educational books of all time.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments vii

A Note on Methods xi

Introduction 1

1 Helping Children Manage Destructive Emotions 9

2 Promoting Happiness and Morality 37

3 The Real Danger in the Achievement Craze 61

4 When Being Close to Children Backfires 81

5 Moral Adults: Moral Children 99

6 The Real Moral Power of Schools 115

7 The Morally Mature Sports Parent 137

8 Cultivating Mature Idealism in Young People 165

9 Key Moral Strengths of Children Across Race and Culture 177

Conclusion: Moral Communities 195

Notes 207

Index 229

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