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Getting along well with others is the real secret to success and happiness. In tens of thousands of classrooms we teach reading, writing, and arithmetic and yet we leave solutions to the universal problems of human relationships to be discovered, if at all, by trial and error. The trial is painful and the error is costly.
People Tools: 54 Strategies for Building Relationships, Creating Joy, and Embracing Prosperity, provides time-proven techniques that you can use to build a better, happier, more successful life. It is the perfect resource for busy people looking for fast and effective solutions to the challenges we face every day.
PRACTICAL WISDOM ON EVERY PAGE
People Tools are practical and easy to understand. From developing self-confidence, to improving communication skills, to finding constructive ways to resolve conflict, each People Tool addresses a specific issue and provides a simple, straightforward strategy that you can adopt to bring about a positive result. Some of the useful People Tools in the book include:
- The Belt Buckle. When words are different than action (The Belt Buckle), trust the Belt Buckle, not the words.
- Buy a Ticket. To make something good happen in your life you have to participate.
- Catching a Feather. An alternative to the endless chase, this Tool reveals how to attract people you want to be closer to.
- Patterns Persist. Prior actions are predictive of future behaviors.
- Catch Them Being Good. Rewards are more effective than punishments.
TIME-TESTED TOOLS TO ENHANCE YOUR WELLBEING
Although you may recognize the more intuitive techniques in People Tools, this sourcebook provides explanations and helpful examples from a vast collection of different tools designed to help you further expand your own existing repertoire of skills.
Open the book to any page and you will find a useful solution. Each tool is illustrated with insightful stories and amusing anecdotes that are relevant and relatable. The stories will reel you in but the advice will change your life.
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About the Author
Alan Fox has lived a long, successful, and joyful life. He has advanced degrees in accounting, law, education, and professional writing. He has expanded his commercial real estate company, ACF Property Management, Inc into a billion dollar enterprise since founding it in 1968. He founded Rattle Poetry Journal (in 1994), a nationally renowned publication. In 1999, he started The Frieda C. Fox Family Foundation, a non-profit that provides funding to youth education projects. And in the midst of all this, he has raised a large and loving family.
How did he do all this? Alan attributes his happiness and success to consistently applying his People Tools, the simple, practical life lessons that he’s accumulated—and practiced—over the years. Now at the ripe-old age of 74, Alan is dedicated to sharing his wisdom with as many people as possible through his writings, public talks, and media appearances.
Table of Contents
Introduction The Toolbox: Naming Your Tools xiii
1 Rules: Visible and Invisible 1
2 The Wastebasket: Discarding Stereotypes 7
3 Walls and Doors: No Before Yes 11
4 The Open Door: Yes 15
5 Question Mark 17
6 The Belt Buckle 21
7 Patterns Persist 27
8 Socrates-Know Thyself 31
9 The Picture: Function over Form 37
10 The Positive Self-Fulfilling Prophecy 41
11 Buy a Ticket 45
12 Target Practice 47
13 The 80% Solution 51
14 Shrink the Glass 55
15 Sunk Cost 57
16 Get Past Perfect 61
17 Take a Chance 65
18 The Sizzle and the Steak 69
19 Blind Date: Make a Good First Impression 73
20 Make Lemonade 77
21 Fry Another Egg 81
22 The Four C's 83
23 Stuff It into Your Sub 85
24 Smiley Face 87
25 Showbiz 89
26 Erase 91
27 Things Are Only Things 93
28 Sweet Grapes 97
29 Parallel Paths 99
30 Catch Them Being Good 103
31 A Little Bit of Oil 107
32 Tip the Messenger 109
33 Catching a Feather 111
34 The Equal Relationship 115
35 Honey First 119
36 Leverage 121
37 Dangle a Carrot 125
38 A House Undivided 129
39 Apology 133
40 After You, Gaston 137
41 Trick or Treat 141
42 Back Off 143
43 The Lone Stranger 147
44 Have a Nonversation 151
45 Snip 155
46 True Colors 159
47 Green Grass Now 163
48 Fall Backwards into the Hands of Fate 167
49 If You Want to Keep a Secret, Don't Tell Anyone-Especially Your Personal Trainer 171
50 Climb a Mountain 173
51 Hold Me 177
52 A Million Miles Away: Focus on the Process and Let Go of the Outcome 179
53 Uneven Steps 181
54 The Road 185
About the Author 187
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
So many advice books are written from the viewpoint that you want to be better than others. This one helps you be better in and of yourself. It's a delight to read. Alan Fox relies mostly on his own errors and misadventures behind his rules. I wish someone told me all this when I was young; it would be an excellent gift for a young person or a graduate.
People Tools was such a quick, easy read full of sound advice. I will definitely keep it close for when life gets tough.
Not Surprising it’s the #1 Amazon Bestseller I was browsing the Amazon list looking for something to read and saw this book at #1, so I thought I'd give it a try. There's no flashy cover, and no gimmicks, it's just a really well-written book. It's organized in a user-friendly manner, and can be picked up and put down quickly without losing too much. The tools, while one or two can seem simplistic, are actually very insightful. I never expected that a billionaire real estate mogul could write such a relatable, and often touching book, but I was pleasantly surprised. I think anyone who reads this book will come away with at least a few new “tools” that they can apply to their business dealings or even personal relationships.
Such a great book-I am sending this to each of my kids for their birthday. Fox really sums up the important things everyone who is successful or wants to be needs to know about life.