Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman's Inspirational Story

Please Stop Laughing at Me: One Woman's Inspirational Story

by Jodee Blanco

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ISBN-13: 9781440509865
Publisher: Adams Media
Publication date: 07/18/2010
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 140,564
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.90(d)
Age Range: 14 - 18 Years

About the Author

Survivor turned activist Jodee Blanco is the author of four books on bullying, including Bullied Kids Speak Out and the seminal New York Times bestseller Please Stop Laughing At Me, currently required reading in middle and high schools across the country. She travels to schools, sharing her story to save lives, and has spoken to over half a million people worldwide. CBS Evening News and USA TODAY have featured her story, and she has bylined for CNN.com and Huffington Post.

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Please Stop Laughing at Me... 4.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 206 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Please Stop Laughing at Me...One Woman's Inspirational Story by Jodee Blanco is her personal story of being bullied during the majority of her young life. As a teacher, and as a person who experienced being bullied, I wanted to enter into Jodee's experiences to gain wisdom and insight into the very real problem of bullying in our schools. Something Ms. Blanco says in her introduction to the book struck a chord within me, and really sums up the feeling of someone that's been bullied. She says: "I let students know that bullying can damage you for life, and that bullying just isn't the mean things you do, it's also all the nice things you never do, like letting someone sit alone at lunch, always picking the same person last when dividing teams for class, or talking about someone instead of with them. I explain that this can be worse than overt physical abuse, because it doesn't make the victim ask himself "What's wrong with you?" it makes him ask himself, "What's wrong with me?," and he will likely carry that self-doubt his entire life." (Blanco, 1x) Now, while I do think Ms. Blanco helps the reader to identify the struggles and trauma of someone who is bullied, I also feel like she perpetuates a strong "victim mentality" which is NOT helpful nor conducive to the healing of the bullied individual. Maintaining that victim mentality often makes relating to peers even more difficult. I hesitate saying this because it is so important for the victimized child to be heard. But common threads throughout the book are that Jodee seems to consider herself morally and ethically superior to her peers (and makes this obvious in how she attempts to relate to them), consistently pursues relationships with people who want nothing to do with her (while seemingingly able to get along with people on the debate teams, writing clubs, and theater groups she joins), and appealing to parents who spoil her by giving her whatever she wants. These were some of the elements of this book that just did not ring true with me. Yes, bullying is a horrible reality. I have personal experience with it. What is not realistic is that the bullied victim is always some kind of misunderstood saint. Quite often, the bully/victim scenario is NOT one-sided. A case in point: I had two students, one of whom was a known bully. The students were often supervised closely to ensure that they had little contact. Both students were instructed to stay away from each other. For the most part, the "bully" abided by this. However, the "victim" was observed not just by me, but by other adults to continually come around the bully, attempting to engage in conversation or play with him. I realize that the "victim's" insecurities fed into him wanting to be accepted by the bully, but at what cost? Lots of time was wasted on crisis control, which could have been avoided if the "victim" had simply played with peers who already were friendly towards him. This book would have more credibility for me, if Ms. Blanco's experiences had been balanced with concrete examples and strategies (perhaps in collaboration with a knowledgeable psychologist) on how she could have dealt more appropriately with her social difficulties.
Shannon Rebinski More than 1 year ago
This whole story is told as if the popular kids are the only group of friends that one can try for. Every child goes through the phase of trying to get into that group, but most kids realize that there are better individuals to befriend than just them. There are countless numbers of other kids in schools that don't treat people as badly as the popular kids treated jodee. It makes me wonder if this story isnt a bit of a revenge tactic towards only the popular groups of any school from a girl who couldnt settle for anyone of a lower status. It just doesnt fully add up to me. Im not saying this story isnt true, and i feel large amounts of compassion for the hell that this young girl had to go through for so long, but there are more students to a highschool than drug experimenters and sex freaks.
smallkucing More than 1 year ago
I requested this book because I wanted to know more about bullying. There are more and more case of bullying reported in school in this country and I wanted to find out more on what is the cause of it. Any prevention or how to avoid these case from happening. From this book, I found that that bullying can happen for not much reason at all. It can be a simple peer pressure or just that they don't like who you are friend with. I am shocked at what Jodee Blanco had gone through trying to fit in with the popular crowd. The bullying was so bad till she had to change school. Although she said she managed to come in terms her past it when she attended her high school reunion but based on how this book is written, I feel that she had yet to fully let go of her past. Would it have been better if she had not tried so hard to fit in? Maybe find her own group of friend? My disappointment in this book is that it did not much solution on how to stop or prevent bulling from happen. Neither provide much information on how the school authorities could have helped. This books feels more like a memoirs instead of and inspirational book Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255 : "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you're looking for a moving account of bullying, don't bother with this book. It's completely useless. It doesn't teach or tell you anything about bullying or how to get past it. It's simply the author bragging about how far she's come from being picked on. It was a complete waste of my money, but more importantly, a complete waste of my time!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I bought this book and its sequel thinking I would gain some insight on how to help my son. This book was absolutely horrible. Blanco comes across as whiny, petulant, arrogant, and spoiled. She whined about 'not fitting in' yet did absolutely nothing to help herself. Her only goal was to be one of the 'popular' kids. No wonder she was laughed at. Rather than move on and find her own niche she became desperate and pathetic. The implausibility factor runs high, too. Jetting off to Santorini on a day's notice? Puleeze! Calling mommy to pick Jodee up because poor Jodee was being 'picked on'? Unbelievable. Her parents created the monster that Blanco is. Blanco comes across as an overindulged brat who never grew up.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was really hoping this book would give a real treatment of bullying in schools. However, I feel as though the author really plays the victim card, and at times, I feel she is an unrealiable narrator. Also, I think the book is not written very well. There are times when I cringe at certain phrases and the flow of the book is often interrupted
meggyweg on LibraryThing 10 months ago
I don't see what was so "inspirational" about Please Stop Laughing at Me. Mainly it was one long whine about how the author was bullied throughout her school years. I'm a survivor of severe bullying myself and her stories rang true, but Jodee Blanco's so-called "insights" rang hollow. She might as well have just said, "I got treated horribly in school, but I'm a stronger, happier person now" instead of having to stretch that one sentence into 276 pages. She also promised to provide answers to the bullying problem and resources for victims of bullying, and didn't adequately deliver on either of those either.
chibimajo on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Moving autobiography about a woman who was tormented and bullied throughout her school years because she had morals when the other kids didn't. I don't remember my school days being anywhere near as bad as hers, but I get the impression this is still going on. Because she stood up for what she believed in, and refused to back down about right and wrong, students and teachers turned against her.
rmostman on LibraryThing 10 months ago
A grown womans recount of her school years from junior high to highs school. It was an eery retelling of some horrific and traumatizing experiences. She was a victim of cruel people because she stood up for what was right. And once they battered her for it, she was still relentless, more convictive even. Such courage at such a young age is incredible and amazing. Most adults would not have done what she had done just for what it was, and never for what the consequences were. Such an admirable young lady at the time, and even more so of an admirable woman today.I saw her speak at my junior high 4 years ago, and tears streamed down my face. This is such a necessary book for everyone, and anyone who is suffering from bullying even in the slightest. It shows that it is worth it.
kewpie on LibraryThing 10 months ago
I was so excited when I saw this book on the shelf. I was badly bullied in school. I had a very similar background to Jodee. I am about her age, and at the time, school adminostrators ignored bullying or tried to blame the victim. My parents also moved me from school to school but that only made matters worse. I was also physically and mentally abused. I was also socially isolated in schools for most of my growing up.I REALLY wanted to like this book. I However, Jodee turned out to be one of the least sympathetic victims I've ever read about. While she whined and complained about how much people hated her, she was EXTREMELY critical of others. She is unapologetic in describing some of her fellow unpopular collegues in the most unflattering ugly ways. I found her descriptions of students with disabilities to be condescending and insulting.Because I was a victim of serious bullying growing up, I don't want to say that one should blame the victim.. but as an adult, I can see where my poor social skills and self absorption led to my being a target for bullies. I'm not saying that it justified their actions, but my actions did have an effect on people around me. Jodee seems to have had no revelations as an adult. She tells the story through the eyes of a hurt 12 year old. I saw no healing or self realization at all. And I was disappointed by the ending. She sounded like a desperate little kid imagining her high school reuinion. "Woo. I am so important and I know all these celebrities... PLEASE LOVE ME, CHEERLEADERS!!"Worst. Book. Ever.
DSDragon on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Having been teased at school, I can relate to Ms. Blanco's experiences, though only a little. My experiences were nowhere near as severe as Ms. Blanco's. I hope reading this book will get adults to do more to stop bullies from their cruelty, and that it will also give hope to those who are victims of bullying.
fingerpost on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Jodee Blanco's heart rending memoir of growing up the butt of everyone's jokes. Somehow she overcame it all to become a success as an adult. The book is sad, and all too real.
finnigan22 on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Jodee Blanco wants to be like every other teenagers but she gets bulllied, herrased, made fun of, and other miserable things. So Jodee tries differnet things such as going to a doctor who specilizes in problems like hers.
SqueakyChu on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Bullying is seen from inside out in Jodee Blanco¿s book of school-age memoirs, from her elementary school years through her high school graduation. By revealing what it felt like to be the subject of bullies who both verbally and physically abused her over the years, she reveals an often dark and hidden side of childhood. Hoping to expose this issue to parents and teachers, she is also providing a forum for those who suffer from this issue as well as those who torment others to finally be frank. At the end of her own story, Blanco provides a resource list for those who either want to learn more or share their stories.Truthfully, I was appalled by the content this book. Maybe this is the behavior of schoolchildren now, but I don¿t remember such physical assaults on taunted kids from my own period of youth. Perhaps I was in a more protected environment or perhaps I was oblivious to it. I do remember the loneliness of being ¿left out¿. However, what was described in this book was even crueler than simply just being ¿left out¿.At first, I thought not to read the book as it seemed written and directed to a younger readership. However, I decided to finish this book because I felt the subject was important, the writing style was engaging, and I¿d wanted to know more about the subject of bullying.What I took from this book was a warning for parents, teachers, and fellow students to be aggressive in the fight against bullying. Too often, it leaves scars that have a major negative impact on individual lives. People who think that much of themselves and who denigrate others should never be allowed that much power.The ending of this book was disappointing. Instead of the author talking about available resources, she simply makes a two-page list. In addition, she goes to her school reunions and actually seems to make light of what was done to her as that, as they say, ¿is history¿. My question is why no one was held liable for their despicable actions either at the time they occurred or even years later? Everyone, years later, seemed as if those cruel actions by individual children simply faded away with the present time and adulthood.
wwjules on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This was a really interesting story. I went through some "being picked on" in school, although never to the extent that Jodee was. It was difficult to read, but reminded me of how difficult youth can be. As a teacher, I try to remember what that was like, and stories like Jodee's remind me to pay more attention.
cataryna on LibraryThing 10 months ago
In this day and age when bullying has been such a prominent issue in the news I feel like this book should be required reading for all teenagers, parents and educators. I don't think there is anyone alive who has not experienced some form of bullying, teasing or simply following the pack because their afraid of being teased (like so many of the perpetrators in this book did). We all could learn something from this novel. Those who have been or are being teased can maybe find some strength from it. Those who are the bullies might see what it was like to be on the receiving end. The ending - my first thought was "That's it? She's just going to forgive them for the hell they put her through? WTH!" My second thought and in the end what I feel is the right thought - Rather than being vindictive and hateful to those who hurt her...she rose above that reaction and proved that they didn't break her, which itself is her vindication.
EmThomas on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Coming from the perspective of one of those "loners" in school, I never truly was bullied. I got along with almost everyone, save for the couple of girls in high school who had a crush on my boyfriend and tried, unsuccessfully, to scare me off. My husband, who I met years later, was viciously picked on in school, however, and he picked up this book for us to read. Our daughter said she had already seen the movie in her school at some point [she's in 4th grade]. I guess I wanted more from this book. I appreciated hearing the author's perspective about how she felt and even I could imagine the pain and loneliness and devastation she must have felt when her parents forced her into seeing a psychiatrist. I was left feeling very dissatisfied that there really and truly was no help except for time and distance, and in the end she still wanted the acceptance of her tormentors. I am just not made that way, and perhaps she is better for it. I described the ending to my husband, who doesn't have much time to devote to reading, and even he was baffled by the ending. I understand civility and "kill them with kindness," but I certainly would not have chosen to continue to try to fit into their group and pretend all is forgiven. It wouldn't be holding a grudge, but rather lesson learned and time better spent elsewhere. Different strokes for different folks, though!
RhondaMarie on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This is an inspirational book on how resilient the human spirit is. Students need to understand that bulling affects the victims for years to come. As a person who was bullied in school, I felt a connection to her because I have felt the same way. I had a good family and a stable life but the bullies made me question my self-worth. Every teacher needs to read this and make sure no bulling happens in their class. When it does, they need to address the issue without pointing fingers.
thelifeofawifeblog More than 1 year ago
I really enjoy reading memoirs, so I picked this one up. The author tells her story of being horribly bullied throughout her childhood. It was very surprising to me to read the extent of the things she suffered at the hands of her classmates. The bullying deeply affected her, which is evident even in the detail to which she recounts specific instances of being bullied. I found the writing a bit weak, and the book did seem to drag on a little. This was not a favorite of mine, but it could be a good resource for teachers or maybe for parents whose kids are being bullied. I received this book for free from the publisher through BookLook Bloggers in exchange for my review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Ahhh good. ^o^
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Could not put it down. Highly recommend it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
“Please Stop Laughing at me” by Jodee Blanco is a book about a girl who suffered through years of bullying at the hands of her peers. The story starts out as Jodee, as a young woman, is attending a high school reunion. While she sits in her car, terrified of venturing into the building, she recalls the events that lead her life in the direction it is currently taken. From her younger years attempting to find her spot among her peers, to her days as a new student struggling to fit in at a new school. Though years of intense bullying and self discovery, The story follows Jodee through much angst, worry, tears, joys and bouts of happiness. I originally picked up this book hoping to find something that was relatable. For the most part I was able to enjoy the story and relate to the main character in many different ways. This allowed me to discover that the troubles I went through in my own younger years, and even now, were not considered all that uncommon. For those who have struggled with bullying in the past, this  not perfect, I did enjoy this book. book allows them to read about others who suffered through the same issues. As for those who have never encountered issues such as bullying, it allows them to get a feel as to how the experience can negatively affect a person, for years into the future.  Though I largely thought positively of this book, it does have some weak points. Throughout the novel Jodee is seen becoming increasingly spiteful to her peers. Often resorting to pranking and at some points, harassing other students to deal with her own stress. Though somewhat understandable, this does not send a positive message for the younger readers who look to this book for advice. There is also a point where Jodee goes through a self harm phase, and does little to discuss how dangerous and damaging the acts can become. I am worried that some desperate youth who looked to the book for  advice would view this as a way they can also deal with their issues. Jodee also talks negatively about meeting with a counselor which may discourage some readers from seeking help themselves.  Personally, I did find myself enjoying this book. I went through some tough times when I was younger and was able to find myself relating to Jodee and her experiences. It was refreshing to realize that no, I was not the only child to suffer through this. This book also gives some interesting perspective on what it is like  to go through this type of harassment, and I often found myself expressing sympathy for her. Although at times the novel seemed to portray Jodee as a bit of a provoker, often attacking back at the bullies and such, I found myself enjoying this book.  I would suggest this book to those who are also struggling with issues such as bullying or having trouble just fitting in. It would also be a valuable read for those who are often the ones who are bullying. Its a good read to really see things from a different perspective, though I would not suggest those who are rather young, as they might take the wrong message from this book. All in all, though it was
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After finishing this book, it gave me a wider view on life... And how significant it is. Especially when im only an 8th grader. Honestly, this book felt heartwarming. I feel as if all teachers, adults should read this to better understand kids in the area. I've seen kids hurting and acting irrationally when there are no adults in sight but when one comes.... its all goody two shoes. Bullying happens everyday and everywhere. I've been bullied, most definitely everyone has or will be in some way. However, the book also gave me a bothersome feeling. I felt as if it didnt give a good perspective or moral of life... Other than that, I say try it out.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is the first girl ive seen with the same name as me and almost spells it the same mine is spelled JOEDEE most are spelled JODY ,JODIE wow im surprised .. but glad my name is unique ^_<