Present Moment Parenting: The Guide to a Peaceful Life with Your Intense Child

Present Moment Parenting: The Guide to a Peaceful Life with Your Intense Child




Winner 2017 Mom’s Choice Gold Award

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781592988211
Publisher: Beaver's Pond Press, Incorporated
Publication date: 03/21/2017
Pages: 144
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 The Overview-Where Does Intense Behavior Come From? 5

Understanding the Child's Brain 5

Why Doesn't Punishment Work? 8

No Guile 9

The Child as an Organism: Understanding the Effect of Your Input on His Heart 9

The Ten Tenets of Present Moment Parenting 11

The New Way 21

Creating the Intensity Connection around the "Good Stuff" 22

The Parent as Healer 22

Consistency: The Supreme Challenge 24

When Should I Teach My Values? 26

Using Role Play and Do-Overs to Teach Better Behavior 31

Chapter 2 Your Two-Week Guide to a Dramatically Improved Life with Your Intense Child 35

Day 1 Get Your Mind Ready 35

Day 2 Begin to Infuse Positivity 36

Day 3 The Family Meeting and Rules 38

Day 4 Instituting Do-Overs for Infractions 44

Day 5 Heartfelt Appreciation Revisited 46

Day 6 Keeping It Positive 46

Day 7 Ways to Remind Yourself to Use the Techniques 47

Day 8 Teaching Your Child a Lesson 48

Day 9 Having Your Child Eavesdrop as a Parenting Tool 49

Day 10 Acknowledging Your Own Success 49

Day 11 Internalizing Accomplishments 50

Day 12 "Testing: One, Two, Three" 50

Day 13 Loving the Child You Have: Grown-Up Tasks 51

Day 14 Hold the Child's Success in Your Heart 53

Chapter 3 Benefits of Present Moment Parenting 55

Continuing Past the First Two Weeks: Encouragement for You 56

Chapter 4 Troubleshooting Real Life Challenges 58

Dealing with Resistance; What If My Child Balks at My Positive Comments? 58

What If She Refuses the Do-Over? 60

What If There's an All-Out Tantrum Associated with Do-Overs? 61

Dealing with Oppositional Behaviors - Avoiding Triggers 61

Transforming the Difficult Bedtime 65

Present Moment Parenting with Teens 70

Preventing Kids from Being Overscheduled 72

What Your Child Can't Tell You 75

When Your Child Lies 78

Look for Sensory Integration Issues 81

A Loving Mom's Victory 83

Chapter 5 Using Restorative Justice with Present Moment Parenting 91

Family Meeting Steps 92

Chapter 6 Trauma-Effective Parenting 95

Mallow's Hierarchy of Needs 97

Grief, Loss, and Trauma 100

The ACE Study and Results of Trauma 102

The Traumatized Brain 103

Regulating the Traumatized Brain 106

Trauma-Effective Parenting: Where Healing Happens 110

What You Can Do as a Healing Parent/Caregiver to Support the Growth of Your Child with Trauma 112

"I See You" Letters 115

Chapter 7 Self-Care, Gratitude, and Self-Compassion in Parenting 119

Gratitude and Its Critical Role in Parenting 121

Self-Compassion and Its Critical Role in Parenting 123

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