Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World

Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World

by Rosalind Wiseman
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Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World by Rosalind Wiseman

When Rosalind Wiseman first published Queen Bees & Wannabes, she fundamentally changed the way adults look at girls’ friendships and conflicts–from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with parents. Wiseman showed how girls of every background are profoundly influenced by their interactions with one another.

Now, Wiseman has revised and updated her groundbreaking book for a new generation of girls and explores:

•How girls’ experiences before adolescence impact their teen years, future relationships, and overall success
•The different roles girls play in and outside of cliques as Queen Bees, Targets, and Bystanders, and how this defines how they and others are treated
•Girls’ power plays–from fake apologies to fights over IM and text messages
•Where boys fit into the equation of girl conflicts and how you can help your daughter better hold her own with the opposite sex
•Checking your baggage–recognizing how your experiences impact the way you parent, and how to be sanely involved in your daughter’s difficult, yet common social conflicts

Packed with insights about technology’s impact on Girl World and enlivened with the experiences of girls, boys, and parents, the book that inspired the hit movie Mean Girls offers concrete strategies to help you empower your daughter to be socially competent and treat herself with dignity.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780307454447
Publisher: Potter/TenSpeed/Harmony
Publication date: 10/13/2009
Edition description: Original
Pages: 448
Product dimensions: 5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 1.10(d)
Age Range: 18 Years

About the Author

ROSALIND WISEMAN is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership.

Wiseman is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence (Crown, 2002). Twice a New York Times Bestseller, Queen Bees & Wannabes was the basis for the 2004 movie Mean Girls. In fall 2009, an updated edition of Queen Bees & Wannabes will be republished with a chapter on younger girls, insights on how technology has impacted kids’ social landscapes, and new commentary from girls and boys. Her follow‐up book Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads was released in 2006, and she is a monthly columnist for Family Circle magazine.

Additional publications include the Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6‐12, and a forthcoming young adult novel, Boys, Girls, and Other Hazardous Materials, in stores in January 2010.

Since founding the Empower Program, a national violence‐prevention program, in 1992, Wiseman has gone on to work with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. Audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, Capital One, National Education Association, Girl Scouts, Neutrogena, Young Presidents Association, Independent School Associations and the International Chiefs of Police, as well as countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad.

National media regularly depends on Wiseman as the expert on ethical leadership, media literacy, bullying prevention, and school violence. She is a frequent guest on the Today Show and been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country.

Wiseman holds a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

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Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 79 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Provides great insight into the workings of teenage girls. It helps me understand my daughter, how she thinks and the world she lives in.
SoCalBookWorm More than 1 year ago
I really like this author and enjoy seeing her interviewed on television and whatnot. This particular book came in handy when my own daughter was having issues with a pack of girls. She was trying to fit in and was coming home from school crying practically every other day. I couldn't understand why other girls were so mean and Queen Bees helped me help her. Worth every dollar! I enjoyed Rachel Simmons book too. They aren't overly repetitive so I recommend both!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It is not a story, it is a book on parenting teenage girls.
GrannyHarper More than 1 year ago
I am not a parent but find this book incredibly insightful to understanding where women an girls come from and many of the methods of dealing with young girls also work for dealing with imature adults, which is an arduous task. Cant wait to read queen bee moms and kingpin dads!
MaxJax More than 1 year ago
I have found this book very helpful as a mom of a middle school girl. Not all is relevant to my house, but it definetly gives you food for thought.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Im 11 and found this book helping me understand what was going on in my school
Palyoos More than 1 year ago
My interest in this book started when I recently asked my 10-year old granddaughter about her school and how she liked it. She responded that she liked the school fine, but had some problems with some of the kids in school. When I prodded a little more, I could see that she's starting to have some of the prevalent problems that most young girls and high school girls have with cliques and mean girls. I was watching an interview on TV and the author talked about this book, so I bought one for me and one for my daughter-in-law to help us both understand some of the current concerns and issues with girls, cliques and mean girls ocurring in all schools in America. I am still reading this book, but love it for its frank approach and in-depth understanding of the concerns and girls and their parents have about their girls in public schools. This is a good "reference" manual, with a lot of good advice and good information. I recommend it for anyone who wants to understand this issue better and how to go about advising and ensuring that our girls can cope and know what to do in most situations.
Joma More than 1 year ago
Eye-opening information about the Girl World. Helps us parents understand what is going on & gives practical advice. Reads easily.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I bought this book two years ago so I could better understand my teen daughter, although I still do not understand her I found the book very helpful. Although the book is aimed toward adolescents I think it would be helpful to parents of all girls no matter what their ages. My daughter got her first taste of cliques and what happens to girls who aren't in the popular clique when she was in 4th grade, so don't think this is only a problem among teens. My now 16 year old daughter seems to have become somewhat of a 'Queen Bee' herself, after being a target for a couple of years, so I have referred her to this book. I have referred several friends to this book and will continue to do so.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a mother of a 14 year old girl, I found myself reliving my junior high years and bringing my experiences to the forefront to share with my daughter. She was not only receptive to hear them but actually asked questions about how I handled things. Mothers and teen daughters have so much to share with each other but sometimes lack the communication skills to talk even keel with each other. This book is wonderful for opening the door to your daughter's world and beginning that crucial conversation..."So, how was your day?"
Guest More than 1 year ago
I thought this book very interesting and easy to read. I found myself traveling twenty five years back in time, relating my own experiences to my modern day counterparts; it can be rather a therapeutic exercise. Parents can really gain the right perspective on why their girls do what they do and how they can best help.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Ms Wiseman recently visited my school, an all girls' school, to talk about her book, QBs&WBs. While her talk was informative and somewhat reflected the situation in my school, many of my peers felt that she over-exaggerated the meanness of girls. 'We're not that bad,' said one of my friends, 'She's making us seem like all girls are mean, or are getting crushed in the 'popularity contest'!'. I'll have you know that we are not. At my school, there is no 'popular group', no 'popular table' no 'rules to be popular'. We have all left that in the 3rd grade. While some girls, granted, strongly feel the presence of cliques, I reccomend to them that they put themselves above the system and the cliques. While in elementary school, I found the cliques would exclude me, even the Brownie Scouts. And being 'best friends' with the most popular girl in school didn't help either. But I have left that all behind, and become somewhat of a rebel, I don't dress the way the other girls do, I don't listen to their music or read their books. I do what I want to do, and if someone is mean to me, I'll let them have it. Does that make me 'an alpha girl'? No, I have true friends and am not always mean. I often wish I were skinnier, prettier. Does that make me a 'beta girl'? No, I am basically happy with my appearance. I am kind to all my friends and respect those in other grades, I read avidly and listen to classical music. I love my family. Does that make me 'a gamma girl'? No. I believe that we are all Alpha Beta and Gamma, and qualities of each are instilled in every girl. I also do not believe in labelling people with greek letters, and I try to treat all the girls in my school as if they were people and not mice. Overall, I found the book enlightening, if not wholly representative of my middle school experience.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Girl:Ashley <p> Guy:Gavin
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Without them it wouldn't even function.
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I honestly don't know.
Bookerella More than 1 year ago
This book really breaks open the code on teenage girls- so much valuble info. Every parent of a daughter should read this. Definitely glad I did.
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I couldn't beleive it... <br> I was wearing hideous clothes with wings and antennae at midnight. What in the world happened? Who noticed? <p> The beehive looked dark and forbodding now, and then I was slapped in the face with memories. <p> Oh great, I had managed to slip into a spot where the bee society could collapse without me to take the votes. Wonderful. Butterfly song knows when I'm gonna be a bee again. <br> I stood up and walked around, wondering if I could fly. <br> I flapped my wings and leapt up, barely a few feet off of the ground. I flew around. <br> Once I was on a sidewalk, cars stopped and people got out their selfphones. <br> "O my god! Look at that! Its bee-girl!" People screamed. <p> I should've known.
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You know a actual teenage girl should write a book like this not a stupid lady who thinks she knows wha its like but its different form when she was a teen
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Hello, my name is Elizabeth I am 12 years old and was bored one night so i decided to read this to see if it was anywhere close to what happens at school for me and everything this is about as close as i could get to explaining my feelings this has great advice even tho i am a kid this still helped me in many ways with girls at school i never told my mom what happened at school in fear that she would judge me because she is not my birth but rather my adopted mom for 2 years now and she is the only person i would want to spend my life with before i met her i was broken never would alow people to become my friend only my enemy now i have tons of friends some true others to hold me up when my other friends cant be there yes i still have plenty of enemies so if anything happens i have friends who are there for me! Sincerely, E.J.M