Raising a Thinking Preteen: The

Raising a Thinking Preteen: The "I Can Problem Solve" Program for 8- to 12- Year-Olds

by Myrna B. Shure, Roberta Israeloff

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In her bestselling Raising a Thinking Child, Myrna B. Shure introduced her nationally acclaimed "I Can Problem Solve" program, which helps four to seven-year-olds develop essential skills to resolve daily conflicts and think for themselves. With Raising a Thinking Preteen, Shure has tailored this plan especially for eight-to twelve-year-olds as they approach the unique challenges of adolescence.

The preteen years are often the last opportunity for parents to teach their children how to think for themselves. This book is the only source with a proven plan to help them do just that.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780805066425
Publisher: Holt, Henry & Company, Inc.
Publication date: 04/01/2001
Edition description: First Edition
Pages: 272
Product dimensions: 5.48(w) x 10.48(h) x 0.72(d)

About the Author

Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D., a developmental psychologist and professor, has won awards from the American Psychological Association and the National Mental Health Association for developing the ICPS program. She lives in Philadelphia. Roberta Israeloff is a former contributing editor to Parents.

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On Back-Talk:

Your nine-year-old son says, "That's stupid," to his father, who responds:

1.Don't back-talk me! I'm the father, you're the child. Do you understand this.

2.I feel very angry when you talk back to me.

3.Can you think of a different way to tell me how you feel?

4.Did you hear what you just said? You must learn how to talk to people or they won't want to talk to you.

The "I Can Problem Solve" answer: #3

On Being Tested:

Your nine-year-old daughter whines, "She's calling me names." You say:

1.You've got to learn to ignore it.

2.Tell the teacher.

3.Tease her back. Don't just take that.

4.What can you do or say so she'll stop teasing you?

5.Ask her why she does that.

The "I Can Problem Solve" answer: #4

Through a series of exercises, games, and discussions, parents can teach their preteens to:

—learn to wait for what they want

—cope with frustration

—get along better with peers

—control their impulses and aggressions

—resist feelings of depression

Table of Contents


Title Page,
Copyright Notice,
1. Kids Who Behave Differently Think Differently,
2. Four Styles of Parenting,
3. How Do I Feel? How Do You Feel?,
4. Is Anybody Listening?,
5. Are Things Always What They Seem to Be?,
6. What Else Could I Do to Solve This Problem? Learning Alternative Solutions,
7. What Might Happen Next? Learning Consequential Thinking,
8. What's My Plan?,
9. Advanced ICPS: Integrating the Skills,
10. "What's in It for Me?" and Other Questions Parents Ask about ICPS,
11. An ICPS Quiz,
Epilogue — Preventing Serious Problems in the Teen Years: Drug Abuse, Teen Pregnancy, Violence,
Also by Myrna B. Shure,
About the Authors,

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