Ames, popular author of over 25 books on children, here delivers a soothing, easy-to-swallow message to parents: take it easy, do what you can, avoid too many expectations, and never look for perfection. To parents strung out by too much advice on topics from tough discipline (e.g. Fred Gosman's Spoiled Rotten: Today's Children and How to Change Them , LJ 2/15/92) to promoting self-esteem, Ames's is a voice of calm, defining discipline not as punishment but as teaching. Her approach centers on the need for each parent to understand the personalities of children at different ages. To this end, she outlines behavioral traits from ages 18 months to ten years. This helpful book of reassuring, laid-back advice is recommended for parenting collections.-- Linda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, Pa.