Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity

Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity

by Lauren F. Winner
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Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity

SEX. Splashed across magazine covers, billboards, and computer screens—sex is casual, aggressive, and absolutely everywhere. And everybody's doing it, right?

In Real Sex, heralded young author Lauren F. Winner speaks candidly to Christians about the difficulty—and the importance—of sexual chastity. With honesty and wit, she talks about her struggle to live a celibate life. Never dodging tough terms like "confession" and "sin," Winner grounds her discussion of chastity first and foremost in Scripture. She confronts cultural lies about sex and challenges how we talk about sex in church. Her biblically grounded observations and suggestions will be especially valuable to unmarried Christians struggling with the sexual mania of today's culture.

Real Sex is essential reading for Christians grappling with chastity and a valuable tool for pastors.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781587431975
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 07/01/2006
Pages: 192
Sales rank: 867,187
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.39(d)

About the Author

Lauren F. Winner (PhD, Columbia University) is the highly acclaimed author of the memoir Girl Meets God. She is assistant professor of Christian spirituality at Duke Divinity School in Durham, North Carolina, and has written for the New York Times Book Review, the Washington Post Book World, Publishers Weekly, Christianity Today, and Christian Century. Visit her website at


Charlottesville, Virginia

Date of Birth:

October 13, 1976

Place of Birth:

Asheville, North Carolina


B.A., Columbia University, 1997; M.A., Cambridge University, 1999

Table of Contents

1Unchaste Confessions: Or, Why We Need Another Book about Sex9
Part 1Talking about Sex
2Real Sex: Creation, Scripture, and the Case for Sex in Marriage29
3Communal Sex: Or, Why Your Neighbor Has Any Business Asking You What You Did Last Night43
4Straight Talk I: Lies Our Culture Tells about Sex61
5Straight Talk II: Lies the Church Tells about Sex85
Part 2Practicing Chastity
6On the Steps of the Rotunda: Line-Drawing and Formation103
7Chastity as Spiritual Discipline: Conforming Your Body to the Arc of the Gospel123
8Communities of Chastity: What Singleness Teaches the Church133
9Responding to M.: The Practicalities of Repentance149
Author's Note175

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Guest More than 1 year ago
I had to read this book for a marriage class I am taking at university. I am already married and was skeptical about a book with 'chastity' in the title: what could such a book offer me except regret over what I might have done before my own marriage? Surprisingly, a lot. Winner's arguments are thorough. She spends a lot of time discussing not why premarital sex is bad but why marital sex is good, and that perspective shift is significant. Her holistic approach to the topic is refreshing and much needed. I would recommend this book not just for single Christians struggling with chastity, but for married to people to learn about what sex is really about and why it matters. Her discussions particularly about the communal aspect of sex are appropriate and helpful. I say this because when people get married, it's not as though the sexual struggles they had previously just disappear - married people still struggle with sex, too. This book is a good resource, and as this is probably important to some readers: Winner's style and narrative are wonderful. She is engaging and obviously intelligent, but down-to-earth rather than high-brow.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This appears to be a book solely about chastity, but at its core, it's really about the Godly ordering of creation. It's instructive for singles, married couples, and the entire body of Christ. Some bold assertions Winner makes: what happens in peoples' bedrooms is a community issue in that our sex lives form us as much as education does; in baptism, Christians become the body of Christ and the Body of Christ must give us permission to join His body to another body in sex; sexual sin is not in a category alone--it can be removed from us as far as the east is from the west just as God promises about all confessed sin; willpower does not allow us to be chasted, only God's grace does. This book is real, it is fresh, it is instructive, and it is entertaining.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I would recommend this book to both newly converted and lifelong Christians, whether married or single. The writing is clear and candid and solidly Biblical. It challenges the accepted cultural attitudes about sex and relationships without being preachy or condescending, but makes it clear that the world's way is not God's way.
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